My brother Daniel (11) and me Lauren (13) have been fighting a lot latley and So have My mum and my dad they have been married for nearly 14 years now and me and my brother are thinking they might break-up....How can me and my brother stop fighting and how can my mum and dad stop fighting too, Our family was really close and now it seems like we are splitting as time nears. It seems like me and daniel are causing there fighting.CAN ANY ONE HELP US...!!!!!!!
Lauren and Daniel.
2007-06-19 21:16:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
calm yo self and parents down
sit down wit the fam and let em know whats up
spend more time with yo family
2007-06-19 21:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by aaaaaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself for the fighting your parents are doing. You and your brother are probably affected by what is going on. If parents are fighting all the time and it is in front of the children, this causes a hostile household. My husband and I went through this stage, all we did was fight. Suddenly all the children did was fight. We almost broke up. But something our youngest said made us stop in our tracks and have a reality check on what we where doing. We are fine now and so are the children.
We as parents can get so wrapped up in our own dramas that we forget how the children react to this.
Maybe if you spoke to your parents, tell them how you feel and that you thinks that that it is your fault they are fighting, things may improve. Better to talk to them when they are calm not when they are in the middle of an argument.
2007-06-20 04:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lauren, your question touched my heart. Talk to your brother. Tell him you need him and you love him. This can be hard if you aren't used to saying such things to him, but in the end you and your brother are a team going through this together and noone will ever know your family situation like he will. You might try you and your brother both sitting down, TV off, with your parents, and telling them that all you are hearing is their arguing and that it is hurting you and your brother so much. They need to know that what they are doing is hurting you guys so much. Your brother will look up to you for doing this (he'll probably not tell you this directly). Be strong, be a leader for you and your brother. Be someone your brother can turn to, but make sure you get support from your friends. Share your feelings with your brother in quiet moments when you can, strengthen your bond. You may come to rely on it in times to come.
Your parents problems are based in their relationship, whatever the causes of their arguments are it is their responsibility to deal with it, and if they can't and just argue all the time then it is about them and their communication, not about you guys. Stay strong young one, you will get through this.
Find something good for you. Join a club, something that you can go along to and escape for a while, make new friends, learn new skills, develop, learn who Lauren is and what she likes. In the end, after you have grown, this life will be about you. Be proud of yourself. My love goes out to you. I hope you can feel the hug over the internet waves (all the way from Waiuku, Auckland, New Zealand).
2007-06-20 05:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try baking when your mom is out of the house. Bake something you can afford, like brownies. Feed some of these to your brother, maybe you two can like brownies and stop fighting.
If your parents want any, you'll have to bake a double batch.
Bake a single batch first and see how they are. Oil works are well as butter, measure carefully. Grease the pan, and don't overcook or have the heat too high.
You can add walnuts, frosting for special occasions, etc. Make it a peace gesture for you and your brother. He is the right age to appreciate this.
2007-06-20 04:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well sometimes taking a break from each other can help but also a really good way to fix this is to come together and let everyone know how you feel and tell them that it is tearing the family apart. you are obviously the only one that can see that or else there wouldn't be multiple arguments
2007-06-20 04:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by Gary G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your parents... ask them if they're splitting. It could be true or not and it is OK for you to ask. It could be that other things are bothering your parents. Tell them your fears and that the increased fighting makes you both feel scared and/or anxious. Try to talk with your parents. I hope you'll both feel better.
2007-06-20 04:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by nightowl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mom and dad are fighting it may be some issues between them and you and your brother are not to blame for it. and maybe you and your brother are fighting because of the tension between your parents. it's hard as a kid when your parents fight. kids tend to think it's their fault when it's not. have you talk to your parents about how you feel? maybe you all can go see a family counselor. I wish you luck.
2007-06-20 04:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by cloeismycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure dear, talk out your feelings with your parents and be honest abt it. Most importantly, pray about it too. God understands more than any other person will do.
Jesus said "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matt 11:28
All the best!
2007-06-20 05:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to ask your parents to call a family meeting. Let them know how badly you feel about the situation. They will be able to try to help it, if they know how much you are hurting.
2007-06-20 05:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is talk to them tell them your feelings.
2007-06-20 04:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋