I have been sort of dating this guy for a little while now and I think that I might possibly be falling, we talked about the future and what it held in store for us and we both want all of the same things in life he then tells me that at a young age due to his family's religous beliefs he was forced into a marrige.. no no its gets better he has more then one wife but he's going to get out of it and he wants to be with me AND ONLY ME what should I do?
2007-06-19 20:15:56 · 9 answers · asked by cocoprincess83 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Run...run far away. He is a polygamist and a bigamist from the sounds of it. You never truely lose your family or your religion. Do you want to deal with that really?
2007-06-19 20:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, by the sounds of it, he's using a line on you. You are only in for trouble whether he's telling the truth or lying.
If its true that he only wants to be with you, then you're going to have to deal with his ex-wives. And if he's lying just so that you can be wife number ___ then you are only heading for heartbreak, unless you're an extremely patient and non-jealous person.
Polygamists are experts at playing on people's vulnerabilities & emotions and making them fall for them, so that they can lure you into their world.
If he were single, I'd definitely be saying think with your heart, but in this case, think with your head and find yourself a nice, normal guy.
And just remember, you have a whole family that you will have to leave behind, and who will always worry about you (polygamists rarely allow you to see your own family if they are in disagreement with their beliefs).
All I can say, is be careful, and use lots of common-sense.
Good Luck :)
2007-06-20 03:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by eviichristensen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has disaster written all over him. Hes a smooth talker and thats about it. Even if you did get involved with him how long do you realistically it would last before he decides to replace you with yet another? Too many other guys out here to get involved with this idiot so get away from him as fast and as far as you can ad definitely dont look back.Youll be glad you did. You can do much better! Good luck
2007-06-20 03:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still has wives! i would ask what the hey and don't even bother to stay and listen. if he liked you so much why is he just now telling you? personally, i would run. religous belief or not, i would want some who believed what i do and thats not it. still, if you really like him and are starting to love him and belive him will get out of them for just you and only you, then i would stay and see how things turn out.
2007-06-20 03:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhhhh...little red flag going up here....hmmmm. where are these other wives? do you know for sure that he doesn't go home to them, or one of them? i'd want some proof here. names, dates, marriage certificates, photos. then i'd refrain from getting deeper into this relationship until you've recieved further proof that he's no longer interested in polygamy. like signed divorce papers. even then.....
he should be respectful and understanding of your hesitation, after all, he has multiple wives!
2007-06-20 03:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by scintillating69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person can dump his wives for you what is the guarantee that he will not dump you for some one else.He appears to be a conversationalist and is trying to flatter you by words.Ignore,ignore,ignore,ignore,ignore and only ignore him or you would fall in such a ditch with all mud and **** in your life.Look for some one who doesn't belong to anyone else,fall for someone who is single.
2007-06-20 03:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by sheru_715 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO THAT.. Ignore this fellow. Because if he can throw his wives for another woman he can do the same to you also.
There is some man in this world made only for you. Wait until he comes and live happily with him.
2007-06-20 03:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by abina s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of a person are you falling for?? Get away from him this is too weird.
2007-06-20 09:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run there is too much drama
2007-06-20 03:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by Tian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋