it has less than 2 months left for my marriage.i am not sure if I am ready for this marriage.I I just started to think about how my life will be with him , his friends, his family ... how my life is going to be ?
2007-06-19 22:16:06 · 18 answers · asked by poor misguided fool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not cold feet, that only happens the final week or two. If it's two months out, it's probably because there is something really bothering you about him... or you.
You'd be surprised about how many marriages break up before they start because of sexual tension. Please tell my you two are not virgins. This can only end badly. Is the sex good, bad, or totally awesome. If it's awesome, then that's probably what is keeping you together. If it's lousy, then that's your reason. If it's good, trust me, it's not good enough. Remember, you will be with him for the rest of your live, make sure he is great in the sack.
Is it children, does he or you have any? Does he or you not want any? If you do get married, regardless of these two questions, make sure he's still a stud in bed for at least two years after marriage. If he's not, then he'll stray and you'll be stuck with little reminders of this prick.
Is he or you rich or poor? If he's rich, remember, he can by pussy, and knows how to cover it up like all rich people. If he's poor, don't worry, you'll know if he's cheating, because his girlfriend will probably bring the little bastards over to play with your little bastards. And I do mean bastards, because he won't be around.
2007-06-21 20:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by DeVeega 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling unsure, sit down and discuss how you feel with your finacee. If he loves you, he will agree to postpone the wedding until you are sure. Many women get cold feet before the wedding, but it is usually a lot closer to the wedding than this. You need to be sure of what you want from life before you get married, so that you do not land up in an unhappy marriage.
2007-06-20 00:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only natural for you to be scared, cold feet is natural, only it is unnatural for someone like myself, that is 50 and still unmarried, guess i was to busy working. I guess you don't want to become an old maid, but at the same time it is natural for you to feel apprehension. I would suggest talking it over with him, because to many people take their so call life time vowels and then end up in divorce, that is what is awful. It is okay to think about it, and I suggest you talk it over with him. I mean if you can't do that, then perhaps it is the wrong guy.
2007-06-19 22:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by 5-Stars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a part of the game of life. If it is an arranged marriage with your full concurrence and acceptance, what is it that is causing too much annoyance for you at this juncture? More than believing in GOD himself, first of all do believe in yourself. Everything will be very fine. You are going to lead a happy married life, and your life will become purposeful. Your hubby, his friends, his family and all will feel very proud of you.
2007-06-19 22:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sekhar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you sound scared to me. You and the hubby to be should have some serious sit down and talk time. Your life together will be what the two of you make it.
But if you fear interference or prodding from his friends or family, then you two need to talk about it.
Yes, you life will change. But it should be a change for the better...unless you are having serious doubts.
Think it over, then talk openly with your man.
Best of luck to you both. *hugs*
2007-06-19 22:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by dark_amaranth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called "Cold Feet".
I've heard that everyone gets cold feet. It ain't no big deal, hun. You'll get over it and continue life with him if you love him.
If you don't think you love him and don't want to spend the rest of your life with him, then break it off now so you don't have a miserable marriage and you won't have to go through a miserable divorce.
Cheers
2007-06-19 22:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look dont thing on these type of things. From your bottom of heart just accept your husband. Think in the whole world he made only for you. Trust on him. Take it as a journey. Both of you have to cross the river.
2007-06-19 22:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by soumitra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look ,there is always time to get married if your not sure if you wanna be with him or not then don't dare walk on that Aile its not worth it ..you'll scerw you'll life up if you did maybe you'll have kids and it will be too late..think wisely do you really want to commit with this man now?
discuss it with him or at least delay the wedding tell later resolve your issues or any kind of problem and then decide..
best of wishes!
2007-06-19 22:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by little_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure what your question is i dont really understand your writing. You left your marriage? Or you have two months until you get married? postpone your wedding, make sure marriage is really want you want could be cold feet or could be this isnt for you either way think it out.
2007-06-19 22:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're going to need to sit him down and have a full on discussion about this.
But it could just be coldfeet - many women get this before they get married, it's perfectly normal.
Hope this helps =]
2007-06-19 22:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by allie2299 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋