Marriage & Divorce - 19 June 2007

when I carry large sums of cash in a paper bag in my pants. Does she only love me for my money?

2007-06-19 08:08:51 · 11 answers · asked by alfred pimples 1

this is a desire of the soul. can anyone help?
i am ready to leave the child with the first wife even and leave the world for ever not to appear again.

2007-06-19 08:05:44 · 55 answers · asked by venitha d 1

2007-06-19 08:02:57 · 31 answers · asked by iloveyoonsim 1

The sex in my marriage is not alot, I'm not much of a physical person (I have a form of Autstim/heart failure). My husband SAYS its not a big deal. We only make love 2-3 times a mo. But last night he was going off on me on how he does not beleive I'm attracted to him because i am not physical and he was venting alot about the subject!!. My husband use to be roantic and have music playing and light candles but he said its pointless to do that because he knows me and it does not mean it will lead to making love, so he just stopped being romantic all together. I asked my husband if he would still marry me if we met and the sex was as it is now, and he said soley based on the sex alone he does not know if he would ask me to marry him. This breaks my heart so much. And now by his reply I feel he was never IN LOVE with me to begin with. I'm unsure now if he loves me at all. When he said he does not know soley based on the sex if he would marry me again does this mean he does not love me?

2007-06-19 07:59:00 · 30 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

I have always been attracted to Black guys Only and i'm still attracted to them..but I do not want to limit myself...I broke up with my Ex 3 months ago..I have been introduced to new and different Night spots by my colleagues and I have seen some good looking white men...

I don't think I will have a problem at all getting a white man, if I want him...That I know for sure..the question is:

Do you think it's a good idea??..Should i stick to my own race??..

For those who date white guys...What are some of the PLuses about white guys...

What I'm about to say may offend some of you, please forgive me..You know what most of us black girls have been told about white men (you know the small D**ks, can't last longer and all that stupid staff)...BUT I'm still curious, though also fear being disappointed...

Can any white men reassure me that those stories are NOT True.

PLEASE some of you..do NOT tell me..."why does it have to be about race"..I do not want to hear that...

2007-06-19 07:55:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-19 07:51:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married for 2 years and some change and my wife just recently got back from a deployment. I just found out that she has cheated on me while she was gone. Her explanation was that she was very stressed out and he became her support system. They got drunk and had sex twice while she was gone. She also have been emailing 1-2 other guys and one of them she's known for a while and they email back and forth and acting flirtatious and talking to each other like they are together. My wife has told me that she is very sorry for cheating on me and that she will change her ways because she doesn't want to lose me. She knows she made a mistake and wants to do everything to keep me. I love my wife so much that I'm willing to forgive her for what she's done and stay together for the sake of my daughter. I believe that she has learned her lesson and it will not ever happen again. What should I do to ease my pain and also if you were in my position what would you have done?

2007-06-19 07:50:00 · 30 answers · asked by Jan R 1

I am one of the victim of indian laws tilted towards women. I had bad married life and some how by god grace it seem moving towards mutual divorce. she left home after 2 month of marriege and now not even in contact ( phone, email nothing for more than year now) it's been 1.7 years to my marriege. all family drama and fight been happened but being a guy and laws not favouring i had to keep quite to avoid 498A and save myself and family from punishment with no reason.
She asking for sum of 5 lakh to go for mutual divorce is it wise to throw this money and buy peace. how much time does it take to have decree after filing divorce petition ( mutual divorce). i really dont want to shed my hard earned money for as she destryed my life and have to bear so much because of this. why should i waste my money for someone who never been part of my life and just used me. kindly reply

2007-06-19 07:33:37 · 5 answers · asked by sammeer j 1

My husband and I are separated, but share custody of our 5 yr old daughter. Every year we go with my family for a beach bash on 4th of July. We have stayed friends and he adores his little girl. I know she wants him there, and I do too. He and my boyfriend hate eachother. For my daughter's sake , should I continue tradition and invite him along? Or do I owe it to my boyfriend to start new traditions?

2007-06-19 07:21:21 · 28 answers · asked by nina 2

. . . to break off an engagement because his fiance wasn't willing to do something in bed he wants?

I was in love with this girl, we had a great 2 years, but no oral. She wanted to get married. Everything seemed about right, I was open to the idea, and she even told everyone we were getting married (but I hadn't proposed yet) when I got tired of her excuses. I was faced with a long marriage of incomplete sex, and didn't want that. She wasn't willing to compromise, thought I'd get over it. Well, I didn't, and I left her. She blames me now for ruining her life and has said repeatedly that she wants to get back together, but she still won't do that. And it's that important to me. I've moved on. I wish she would. I've decided I'm old enough to know what I want, and that's part of it. I still kinda love her, but I have to put my self-respect first. Was I wrong?

2007-06-19 07:19:54 · 21 answers · asked by Creamer 2

Whether your married or in a long-time relationship...have you ever found yourself thinking of wanting to have sex with just one more person, one more time?

2007-06-19 07:08:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married for last 6 years, Last week my wife moved out with my 2 sons 1 year old and 21/2 year old when i was at work, send me court papers for divorce, I found out after she had moved out that she moved out because she was cheating on me and she is seeing someone else.
I told her if you want to move on with your life fine but you should leave the kids at home she said to me " I talked to attorneny and there is no way you can have kids" She is not into drugs.
But I found out that she drained my bank accounts in last 3 months, she forged my name to get money form our bank she will write a check in my name forge my name and withdraw cash.
I have her parents who are willing to testify for me that kids will be better off with me.
I went a saw attorney to get custod of my kids but I am not getting a very satisfying answer from them.
Can someone sugest what can I do I want my kids out of that mess.

2007-06-19 07:04:45 · 7 answers · asked by SJ Grewall 1

I signed a quit-claim deed in Ohio almost 3 years ago. My ex-husband refused to give me my divorce settlement check until I signed the deed. Now, three years later, he still refuses to refinance and get my name off of the house. I own my own home now and take care of two children and don't want the house on my credit. I've asked him several times to refinance. He says he won't, because it's not a money-saver for him and won't do anything unless I help him pay whatever it costs to refinance, which is out of the question. I know that he is doing this out of spite and won't ever refinance unless he's forced to. I want to get a lawyer and see if there is anything I can do. I am a single mom with 2 kids and I own a home already...I don't want his home on my credit too for the next 25 years. Please help!

2007-06-19 06:37:56 · 13 answers · asked by Vicki 1

I'm a 40+ male who has only had sex with my wife. My problem is that my sex drive is off the charts and her's is not on the charts. She was abused as a child and has very low testasterone and libido. In fact, she says when I die that she will not have sex again!
Due to my need for sexual release, I would supplement our weekly 'get together' with masturbation once or twice a week to pictures I had saved on my PC or cut out of magazines. She caught me one day and told me I was cheating on her. So, I agreed to stop viewing porn pictures. On a previous vacation, she got drunk and allowed me to shoot some photos of her in my favorite lingerie. I now use these pictures to maturbate - but am very concerned that she'll take them if she finds out I'm doing this. She doesn't have a problem with me masturbating in the shower and recognizes that this is 'needed' due to her low libido. But, she doesn't want me using my eyes for stimulation.

Please help!

2007-06-19 06:33:00 · 31 answers · asked by jimbo 1

Sorry I posted this before but people barely answered.

I'm so torn and I have no idea what to do. My live in boyfriend who I love and adore has done something really stupid. When I was visiting home with my parents, my bf, my mother, brother's gf, my mom, and I were all sitting down having a conversation. My brother's gf said something to upset my bf (which it really shouldn't have) and he blew up. He was just screaming and yelling at everyone. He told all of us "F you" and other obsenities. It got to the point he was screaming at my mom and threw him out of the house.
My dad got home and took him to talk with him. My mom says I should leave him because she thinks i'm not safe to be alone with him. My dad says after their talk to give him a chance. What the hell do I do??? I'm soooo torn. I feel a duty to my family that if he disrespected them like that, he doesn't deserve to be with me. Yet, I wanna marry this kid.

Btw- he's had an outburst at my parent's house once before.

2007-06-19 06:26:40 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are not married, I give her 40% of my salary, just she hates me because I didnt marry her

2007-06-19 06:21:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Firs of all, I’m sorry about my English (it is my second language) I hope you understand my question:

I have a friend who just got divorced, she has a 4-year-old daughter. She is already going out with several guys and since she does not have a babysitter she takes her kid with her to her dates. In my opinion that absolutely traumatic for the little girl, making her a very confuse child. The girl rather to be with her dad, who has 33% of her custody.

Please…. I need the professional opinion of a psychologist. I have said to my friend that I don’t agree with that and that she is harming her child. But she thinks that she is not doing something wrong.

Could you give me your opinion, and how can I help her to understand that what she is doing is not acceptable.

Thank you so much!… I really appreciate your professional advice.

2007-06-19 06:15:14 · 3 answers · asked by Artna 1

when do you stop in a relationship when you keep getting knocked back.. do you just say to yourself .. well that will be that then . and cope with the rejection. x

2007-06-19 06:10:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I left my manipulative husband over 2 months ago. He called me a month after I left because he wanted to clear things up. I met him and somehow I got duped into meeting with him and his bishop and it became a counselling session. I should mention that with in 3 months my husband became a born again christian and told me when I up with him again that and I quote "In my home we will be christians", he forced a bible on me and christian cd. I find it very hard to believe that he is really a christian especially because at our first counselling session with the bishop, when asked what our problem was in the marriage he said "my wifes inability to forgive" and nothing else. He failed to mention that I caught him logging into the same dating site we met on looking for intimate encounters, he failed to mention that he did his best to convince me that marrying him after 4 months of dating was the right things to do because he needed a sponsor to stay here so we could be together.

2007-06-19 06:05:52 · 14 answers · asked by MsTrust 2

because I'm stuck with her... she's 5'3 and 185, was 115 when we got married 18 years ago. She then said to the counseller she doesn't care if I cheat, as long as I always "come home to her without any diseases or other women's babies."

Question: Is there a point in any further counselling?

2007-06-19 06:00:30 · 24 answers · asked by old married guy 1

I am a 47 year old male married to a 41 year old woman. We are happy together and love each other a lot... However one night when my wife was out of town for a business trip, I took my 21 year old stepdaughter out to dinner and we went drinking and then it happenned... we had sex! It was almost subconcious type of thing because we were both wasted. I do regret it. She told me not to worry about it and that it was cool. Should I still tell my wife or not? I am torn! Help please...

2007-06-19 05:38:55 · 31 answers · asked by Ronnie 2

My husband is driving me absolutely insane, one day he loves and trusts me the next he does not, everyday is a different situation I'm getting tired and so are the kids.........He is so angry all the time, all he ever thinks about his taking revenge on people that have supposedly hurt him, I have suggested counselling and he refuses.......says he is not crazy...........
This has been going on for months...........I'm beginning to hate him for what he is doing to this family...........he insults me one minute and then expects me to have sex with him, and if I refuse then it's because I must be getting it elsewhere........
Any suggestions on convicing him to go for counselling.

2007-06-19 05:30:40 · 14 answers · asked by Niki 2

After 2 years, my boyfriend & I decided to move in together. Then one morning, he burst into tears & said he couldn't live with me & our relationship was over. He said he loved me & this is the best relationship he's had, but it "didn't feel right." He said he kept waiting for some sign that I was the person he was supposed to marry. I'm not ready for marriage either, I think we need to live together 1st to get that kind of bond. He puts a lot of pressure on himself to make the "right" decision so it takes him a long time to commit to anything. He's also struggled with depression since his father passed away a year & a half ago. His mother is having an even harder time, & he's emotionally drained by taking care of her. Sometimes he gets overwhelmed by it & freaks out like this. But usually, we don't fight, we spend time together & have a great sex life. Is he putting too much pressure on himself to make the right decision or is he trying to tell me he's not "in love" with me anymore?

2007-06-19 05:09:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my boyfriend cheated on me and use to go out every night with differents girls when we were younger now we are married and have an amazing daghter but i still can't forget and every thing reminds me of one of his "girls". the situation is getting critical cuz i'm all the time pissed and agressive. i wish i wasn't but even if he spends all the time qith me i can't trust him. can anybody give me some help please????? thanks

2007-06-19 05:06:45 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

but on the other end ...if I meet a very very head strong women, they don't like to have much fun. The women with the most problems seem to be more fun to be around and the sex is always better.......HELP!

2007-06-19 05:02:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married two years. in that two years i can probably count on one hand how many times we have had sex. He is into Fetishes, and i'm not overly comfortable with that. I don't like the idea of hurting him or "pretend" hurting even for pleasure. I love my husband so much but i am so frustrated and upset. He Masterbates to fetish videos and i dunno what to do. Leaving him is not an option, and Talking to him hasn't worked.. we talk about it alot. what should i do?

2007-06-19 04:53:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sell the house, because he can't afford to Buy you out??(because he has a high debt that he owes). What happens when one wants to sell and the other doesn't, but yet you want a Divorce??

2007-06-19 04:53:39 · 14 answers · asked by 24Special 5

My husband doesn't acknowledge Mother's Day. Every year he says "you're not my mother." On Father's Day, I try to buy him a little something just to acknowledge him as the Father of my children. He is hard to buy for because he is very picky and he has everything. He won't even open what I buy for him..... don't ask me why. How can I respond to him without being a B - - - -? All I would like to hear is "Happy Mother's Day." Am I being over sensitive?

2007-06-19 04:52:36 · 30 answers · asked by Kamy 4

my husand and I have been married for 7 years and at first sex was great. Now after career and kids, the romance and emotional connection is not there. He said a 3 some would bring it back for him. But he is not satisfying me at all sexually (never have and orgasm). I feel like I am with a high school kid that's all intercourse, no foreplay, never role played (he said that was stupid), just same ole routine sex....BORING! How can I tell him what I need to pleasure me. I was readin up on tantric sex and that sound interesting. I feel like, correct me if I am wrong, I am on a more mental and spiritual/emotional level of sexual pleasure and he is still on new women, or variety, the physical level (childish). What should I do. At times I do think of wanting to be with another man. I even thought of allowing him to have his 3 some (with 2 other women) in return have sex with another man & have him to watch & learn LOL....I don't know, please help.

2007-06-19 04:45:08 · 29 answers · asked by sassy lady 4

How much time can a married man go without having sex with his wife ????????

2007-06-19 04:41:51 · 10 answers · asked by lupit@ 2