Co-Parenting through Separation and Divorce. Professional Advice!!!!!!!!?

Question

Firs of all, I’m sorry about my English (it is my second language) I hope you understand my question:

I have a friend who just got divorced, she has a 4-year-old daughter. She is already going out with several guys and since she does not have a babysitter she takes her kid with her to her dates. In my opinion that absolutely traumatic for the little girl, making her a very confuse child. The girl rather to be with her dad, who has 33% of her custody.

Please…. I need the professional opinion of a psychologist. I have said to my friend that I don’t agree with that and that she is harming her child. But she thinks that she is not doing something wrong.

Could you give me your opinion, and how can I help her to understand that what she is doing is not acceptable.

Thank you so much!… I really appreciate your professional advice.

She live far away from me, I work and I have my family… I babysat a lot for her… but she goes out all the time, and invites the guys at her home. She doesn’t want to hire a babysitter.

Answer 1

I think that maybe you need to talk to your friend a little more and ask her to consider her daughter's feelings a little more and why does she not hire a babysitter when she has a date ? or maybe you could offer to baby sitt her . I think everyone has their own way of doing things and you need to calm down she is raising the child the way she sees fit and no one has the right to tell anybody how to raise their child . good luck .

Answer 2

To begin with: both people involved in 'reproduction' have a responsibility to the child{ren} brought into this world. If they should 'seperate' and/'divorce', both should be adult enough to put thier 'feelings' toward 'each other' aside and at least be amicable when and where the child is concerned. If she is unable to care for her child and/places said child in inappropriate situations: i.e..sleeping around with said child in the home/bar/car/ etc...the child should be placed with a responsible care-giver. If these acts are being performed and said child could and/is in danger, Child Protective Services should be contacted. However, there are resources and 'free' counseling available to her and ex regarding how they should conduct themselves when child is present. Good Luck and Thanks for your Heads Up!

Answer 3

There are lots of parents that put their children in unhealthy situations. If you feel the little girl is being abused (sexualy or physically) then report it. But, in this situation, the father has to step in and solve this matter. If you want to help, let her know your concern and work out babysitting for your friend while she goes out. Remember she just got divorced and has to get used to her being by herself and making good decisions for her and her daughter.


hope this helps

Answer 4

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