I am a 47 year old male married to a 41 year old woman. We are happy together and love each other a lot... However one night when my wife was out of town for a business trip, I took my 21 year old stepdaughter out to dinner and we went drinking and then it happenned... we had sex! It was almost subconcious type of thing because we were both wasted. I do regret it. She told me not to worry about it and that it was cool. Should I still tell my wife or not? I am torn! Help please...
2007-06-19 05:38:55 · 31 answers · asked by Ronnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HELL no. Let it remain a pleasant, fuzzy memory and keep your damn mouth shut!
2007-06-19 05:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by Creamer 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Yes you should tell your wife and let her know about the attraction that you have for your step daughter. I'll be honest though, I think you had taken advantage of her especially when you knew you were attracted to her and now your saying you conveniently took her out to dinner and you two started to drink and then it happened. PLEASE!! I have a daughter and I am getting married again soon and My fiance would never do any thing like that to her at least he knows better not to do some thing like that. I would never allow my daughter to go around the house half naked she has to much respect for her self then that. My fiance knows better and he know s to come to me if he was having feelings for her in that way or he could easily have said to me could you please tell your daughter to dress appropriately while she is around me . and let her know it wasn't right for her to dress that way. it's obvious you two have an attraction to one another and that you two did have sex . Yes she is 21 years old and she is a legal age to make that decision to have sex with you. Though you knew very well what you were going to do with her when your wife went out of town. You took your opportunity and you did it with your step daughter. That tells me you really wanted to do it with her and now your feeling very very guilty about it.
Well I'm sorry to be the one to say this but you desreve to be feeling this way. You cheated on your your wife not only with a nother person though with her own daughter. And if her own daughter feels like nothing was done wrong and she feels okay with it . Then you both are very wrong about feeling this way not to tell your wife, is being decietville and your wife will unfortunally find out about it this night some day and then what? Lying is dishonest and the more you lie the worst it gets. because you will feel guilty and it will catch up to you some way or another. Just tell her the truth and mayby she will be willing to trust the both of you again some day. I just hope you have a good lawyer. I'm sorry if I couldn't be more
helpful though like I said I have a daughter too. and I think
If my new husband felt that way about her I would deffently
keep a good watch over her and make sure she is dressed
and acting in a way that she does not send the wrong message to guys and her stepfather. Good luck to you.
2007-06-22 00:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all........yuk!! How the heck did that happen? That's disgusting. I think you need to figure out what her (stepdaughter's) motives are because I'm guessing she had a reason for doing this. It doesn't make sense. I think you should tell your wife and have your bag packed & loaded in your car, because if she has any sense at all, she will throw you out. If you did something like this, then frankly, I think your marriage is over whether you know it or not. Your wife has a right to know.
2007-06-19 05:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Amy27 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Can you and the step-daughter be trusted in the future? What if you both have a "few too many" the next time?
I think you should keep this to yourselves however, if neither of you can be trusted to leave each other alone the next time you get drunk, it'll be a matter of time before you both get caught.
Shame on both of you for deceiving her mother, your wife!
2007-06-20 03:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ronnie, I thought a "true player knows no limitations" and "is also in control of the situation. You should be able to cut her lose fast if need be..."
Or does your advice only apply to the people you give it to?
I have a feeling your question is total BS, but here's the score:
You're fuc*ed.
2007-06-19 05:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by pola 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
oh boy you really did it dident ya?Well honesty is the best poilcy no matter what the outcome.Can you honestly live with yourself and not feel any remorse or guilt for what you have done!honestly telling your wife would be pretty selfish because you would just be trying to get rid of your own guilt.But remember the truth always comes out so deal with it now or later the choice is yours! and you sir are why woman like me hate men!
2007-06-19 05:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
You arent fooling anybody using drinking as an excuse. I'm sure you were well aware of what you were doing with your wife's daughter !! The truth always comes out so prepare yourself.
2007-06-19 05:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
That was a sh*tty thing you did and you already know that, but as much as it is gonna hurt her and her daughter, I think she should know. There are alot of lives you and the daughter ruined, be a man and step up, as hard as it is.
2007-06-19 06:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by shorte716 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are sick! Leave her alone! you will have broken family and what you did have torn your family apart. How can you be faithful with your wife with her own daughter? It likes killing her when she's alive.
2007-06-20 03:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Penny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AA, Ronnie. You know the answer but don't want to admit it. The sexual tryst was but a symptom of the disease. The tryst was nothing. In the end, the drinking will ruin you.
2007-06-19 05:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Does the phrase "dog meat" ring a bell? Doesn't matter what you choose, it's gonna hurt.
2007-06-19 06:20:19 · answer #11 · answered by Iggy 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋