My husband is driving me absolutely insane, one day he loves and trusts me the next he does not, everyday is a different situation I'm getting tired and so are the kids.........He is so angry all the time, all he ever thinks about his taking revenge on people that have supposedly hurt him, I have suggested counselling and he refuses.......says he is not crazy...........
This has been going on for months...........I'm beginning to hate him for what he is doing to this family...........he insults me one minute and then expects me to have sex with him, and if I refuse then it's because I must be getting it elsewhere........
Any suggestions on convicing him to go for counselling.
2007-06-19 05:30:40 · 14 answers · asked by Niki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to your parents about the possibility of coming home for a while. You and your husband need to get apart from one another, so you can have some peace of mind and he can regain the perspective he needs in order to keep you. It may be that your marriage is beginning to suffer what will amount to the end of it. Or it can be saved. Either way, your husband needs to begin to think properly again and I think the only way for him to do that is for you to leave for a while. Let him sit at home alone and think about what he has done. Let him think about what he stands to lose. Let him hear the echo of laughter from children that are no longer there. I am thinking a short period of this will revise his thinking to the point where you guys can live together in love again, and he will know how much all of you mean to him. And he will act differently. He will act grateful and he will be happier. Try this, sweetie, and good luck to you.
2007-06-19 05:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got a Jeckyl & Hyde! Been there! Thats no fun walking on egg shells wondering when the next mood swing is coming. You have to prepare yourself to leave him! He might decide to go if he feels the threat of you leaving him is actually reality and not just a threat. Im sure you have probably threatened to leave in the past, so now he does not take those threats serious. Action! Thats what its gonna take. If you prepare to leave him and he still refuses to go, then its was probably for the best that you left because obviously he does not think he is doing anything wrong and therefore refuses to change this behavior. Good luck!
2007-06-19 05:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by JJ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its sad but he won't change unless he wants to. You can't make him do anything. I love my husband so much but we had that problem too bc hes a military man and they put crap in his mind that you some women will use there men and take there money all this stupidity. But i've been with him forever before the military. You just go on and you just need to be there for him. Prove to him because really thats the only thing that works that you are a good mother and wife. As annoying as it is lol. If he doesn't come around its you decision whether you want to stay or not.
2007-06-19 05:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by SiCnGaged 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl been there. Getting the advice you need is the easy part, u listening to the advice is the part that might cause you some problems. You are being verbally abused. People can not be helped unless they want the help. He is in denial and denial can be a ***** to break. You cant help him unless he wants help, no matter how deep the love. BTW the line between love and hate is a very fine one.
2007-06-19 05:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by one who knos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't convince someone to get help if they don't feel that anything is wrong. The best way to send him a message is to take your kids and leave. This is not a healthy situation for you, or your children.
I wish you the best with your situation.
2007-06-19 05:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by HeIsMyAllinAll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So SLEEP WITH THE GUY. The ONLY reason men find girlfriends and wives is because a vagina is a much more palatable place to stick a penis than some dude's nasty, hairy butt.
Yes, it really is that simple.
2007-06-19 05:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a sociopath who feels his world is caving in. He doesn't see anything that he does wrong, but everyone around him is out to get him. You need to get help for yourself if he refuses, that way you won't always feel as if your the crazy one.
2007-06-19 05:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
life is too short, leave the husband....
and I am a Man saying this. HE WILL NOT GET BETTER..counseling or not.
2007-06-19 05:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have sex with him and tell him he is right. Men like that kind of thing. Maybe he'd appreciate you more if he felt like he had more support.
2007-06-19 05:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why spend your life with someone who is miserable. Leave him and move on.
2007-06-19 07:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by bookgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋