i love a man for over 5 yrs and i wish to have a child with him but i promise not to ruin his married life?

Question

this is a desire of the soul. can anyone help?
i am ready to leave the child with the first wife even and leave the world for ever not to appear again.

Answer 1

Now every out here think you have some mental problem, but I understand your feelings. There have been many cases where ladies indulged in sex without marriage & even got pregnant became single parent to the child. This is a common practice in western world regarding single parent ship & even in India many such cases have been reported. Famous Neena Gupta Film & TV actor is one case where she indulged in sexual relationship with Sir Vivian Richards the famous West Indies Cricketer who was married, got pregnant & is now proud mother of his daughter. So if he agrees, & his wife has no problem with your sexual relationship with him then go ahead get pregnant with his child, & why leave the child with his wife carry the child with you & be a single parent to this child. Only thing you should understand that you must make a point to meet his wife & make this thing very clear & get her permission for such sexual relationship otherwise that will be involving him Adultery a ground of divorce his wife can use against him, but if she condones this adulterous relationship between you two then she won't be able to use it as a ground for Divorce. Rest it’s your life how you want to live.

Answer 2

You must really think you are worthless to consider doing such a thing as having a baby by another mans husband and then leaving it with his wife.
You had best do a soul check with a priest or minister and follow his advice instead of the last soap opera you watched.
You need to end the relationship with a married man and find someone who, at the least, is not married. If you want to have a child and can afford to raise one on your own, then do so and love that child for all its life. But what you are suggesting is soul numbing not enriching and it will make all of your life impossible to bear. See a clergyman and listen with an open heart to what he will tell you. Just following your own desires will get you into a world of sorrow.

Answer 3

never have faith any guy who says we can stay one after the other for few months so as that the existence jointly and then would be very enjobale. After marriage, any female could stay along with his husband and in-rules (in the event that they are additionally lviing with him) and inevitably could alter with the hot ecosystem and different issues. on your case evidently which you have merely believed him (this is because of the fact which you had a love marriage at an somewhat youthful age) no objective of going against him. in spite of the shown fact that this is intense time so which you will tell him that those style of residing won't artwork to any extent further and he has to take a house and all 3 of you may stay jointly. Being a father this is his responsibiliy to establish that the youngster could strengthen up along with her mothers and fathers and not with the grand mothers and fathers. there isn't any time for crying once you the two meet yet talk destiny preparations and notice that he's not likely away and wandering back. in case you permit him pass back he will grow to be an alchoholic and forget approximately approximately each and every thing around him. do not enable one among those element TO ensue. in case you prefer to stay including your husband and toddler, this is so which you will carry back to known. you additionally can take information from his mothers and fathers and yours.

Answer 4

You have gone crazy. With one stroke you are spoiling three lives and perhaps more i.e. your child and his children. Don't ever entertain any such thoughts. Better marry an unmarried man or even a divorcee and take care of his children too, if needed.

Answer 5

So you want to have a baby with this guy, but you would be willing to give the baby up to his wife & then commit suicide?

You need to seek some professional help. You are fixated on something that should never be. If this man wanted to be with you honestly, then he would have left his wife for you. Do not have a baby, since this is not the situation to bring a new life into, & you sound like you have some issues to work out first.

Go to your local emergency room. They are used to dealing with all sorts of situations & will treat you with dignity & respect. You may want to start a hobby or take up religion to keep your mind off of this guy.

Answer 6

You need to get your head examined. You are determined to ruin a life and making excuses. You had fun for five years. If want to become a mother, find a man that loves you. This man loves you only for sexual pleasure. If he really loved you, why did he stay with his present wife? Wake up. Don't be stupid and cry all your life. For him you are good for sex only.

Answer 7

I apologize for sounding rude, but sometimes, the truth needs to be blunt, without being sugar coated. This is one of those times.

You seriously need psychological help. Even considering such a thing shows you have no idea of the bond between a Mother and child, nor the damage such a thing would do to his existing family. You need to grow up and learn about yourself before you can consider being a parent.

Answer 8

If You have a child with him have it taken by cesarean or he will drop you like a hot cake men don't like sex as well with women who have natural births it destroys you down there i had my children by cesaean and you being the other woman it would ruin your already fragile relationship with him... Good luck sweetie..

Answer 9

When did they start providing Internet access in the hospital Psych wards? er...if you aren't in one, you should be.

Please, you need someone to help you get a grip on reality here. You've broken at least two or three of the ten commandments of God in this one posting. You deserve to be loved by someone that can love you alone, father a child with you (and parent it too), and support you physically and mentally. Don't sell yourself short and settle for any less. If you need professional help to sort this out (and it appears you do by these statements), please seek a therapist.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Well......... that makes no sense. Why do you think his wife would even want to raise another woman's child? And why go through the process of getting pregnant, and giving birth, just to off yourself in the end. This seems like some sick romantic fantasy to you. Bringing children into the world is serious business, and should be treated that way................