After 2 years, my boyfriend & I decided to move in together. Then one morning, he burst into tears & said he couldn't live with me & our relationship was over. He said he loved me & this is the best relationship he's had, but it "didn't feel right." He said he kept waiting for some sign that I was the person he was supposed to marry. I'm not ready for marriage either, I think we need to live together 1st to get that kind of bond. He puts a lot of pressure on himself to make the "right" decision so it takes him a long time to commit to anything. He's also struggled with depression since his father passed away a year & a half ago. His mother is having an even harder time, & he's emotionally drained by taking care of her. Sometimes he gets overwhelmed by it & freaks out like this. But usually, we don't fight, we spend time together & have a great sex life. Is he putting too much pressure on himself to make the right decision or is he trying to tell me he's not "in love" with me anymore?
2007-06-19 05:09:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would assume he isn't ready for a long term commitment and he is stressed about many things in his life right now. Stress can play funny tricks on us. Give him the space he needs and he will make that decision that will best suit both of you. Right now I am sure it is hard for him to even think about his self with taking care of his Mother and other responsibilities in his life. I'm sure he still loves you or he would have told you since he was honest about his feelings with you about commiting. Good Luck and stay true to yourself.
2007-06-19 05:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well i am sorry life is looking so confusing for you right now. But thats what life is all about- to give you tests and problems to see how you will handle it. If it is real and true love between you too, then soon enough it will be shown to both of you and his questions an yours will be answered. But if its not right then you just have to be strong and bear it because you will find what you are looking for if you pass this test. As for your boyfriend, he should get away from it all, like a vacation. He should free his mind and just relax. when a person is relaxed, they ca plan and think and organize better. and thats what he needs to do, to think about what he really wants out of you, and out of his life.
2007-06-19 05:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by madeulo0k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's a little emotionally drained.
Either way...
Take some time apart.
If you do end up back together, don't consider the time apart a waste - just consider it a self exploration.
Because it seems like he needs to explore what's really inside him, before he can fully commit to another person.
No one ever sends us signs that we're with the right person.
We just know.
2007-06-19 05:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by starbucksismygod 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 02:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds just like my girlfriend.
2007-06-19 05:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard, but you should walk away and if you are meant for him....I assure he will be back.
2007-06-19 05:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋