when do you stop in a relationship when you keep getting knocked back.. do you just say to yourself .. well that will be that then . and cope with the rejection. x
2007-06-19 06:10:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks girls i needed that xx
2007-06-19 06:14:57 · update #1
thanks for all the support girls xx
2007-06-19 09:26:48 · update #2
The reason we look for a partner, aside from love being a really nice feeling and all, is for mutual support.
It's just wonderful to have someone who admires and understands us and who is supportive when we are unhappy or in trouble. The problem is finding someone like that. You have to kiss an awful lot of toads before one of them finally turns into a prince.
I'd refuse to date any guys who aren't supportive and who don't accept you as you are. That's just asking for trouble. If you take this approach you have better odds of finding a true prince who will make you happy.
When you keep getting knocked back as you put it, what I'd say to myself is "this person really doesn't understand me, care for me, or even accept me, so why am I putting up with all the crap?" and having said that I'd leave. There's no rejection involved at all, you're simply getting rid of someone who clearly doesn't care or is too infantile to respect you and accept you for the person you are. You're rejecting someone who cannot make you happy in the longer term.
And if you do get rejected? Well think if that this way. If you go to the supermarket for a bar of soap, you find many different soaps there, each eager to entice you to buy. Why you select one over another is anyone's guess, perhaps you happen to like that one or perhaps you know it does a good job. But whatever the reason, you didn't reject the others, you simply selected what you felt was best for you. There will be other shoppers who will eventually select the others so they too will eventually go home with someone.
When someone rejects you, it's like those bars of soap. There's nothing wrong with you, that fellow simply needs someone different. Just accept that and you won't feel too bad especially when you realize that there are many other fellows out there who are looking for exactly the kind of person you are. Your challenge in life isn't learning how to cope with rejection, rejection is inevitable sometimes, instead the challenge is to find those guys who feel you're just perfect for them. When you find one of those you won't get rejected.
So think if it that way. When someone doesn't want you it doesn't matter because there are many who do. So just go out to find them instead. And that returns me to the beginning of this posting, look for the ones who admire you, who respect you, who think you're wonderful and who tell you so. Look for the ones who are supportive and willing to help you achieve your dreams. Those are the ones you want, reject the rest because they'll just reject you too.
I hope that helps a little. Good Luck!
2007-06-19 10:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by Shutterbug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would prefer to cope with rejection than someone who knocks me back all the time. Keep the chin up plenty more little fish in the sea who will treat a girl the way she should be.
2007-06-19 06:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no 1 likes rejection but its a way of life ..and beleive me u do learn by it lol..just hold ya head up high and say to ya self ..hey guys im worth more than that ..if u get knock backs then they obviously werent meant for u ...put it down to experience ...and ull soon realizes what important in life..and it wont be the men that have knocked you back !!
2007-06-19 06:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by LISA G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just like bowling. Three strikes and your out. Everyone deserves a second chance but a third chance that is just plain stupid. I am sure you have heard of the saying:
Fool me once shame on you
Fool me twice shame on me.
Get rid of him if he keeps you back in life.
2007-06-19 06:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You stop when you realize that it's a problem, and that it's getting you down. So...it's obvious that you realize it, so take that next step. Don't ever sacrifice your self esteem and your well being for anyone. Best of luck!
2007-06-19 06:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
every time you get a knock back it makes you stronger and stronger! dont ever give up! one day you will find the right person! I'm still looking too!!
2007-06-19 06:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by jamiecoxy79 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Verbal, emotional or physical abuse are DEAL BREAKERS!!! A relationship should be a warm, comfortable, safe place. If it is not, it is time to leave!!! Don't look back! No one deserves to be mistreated.
2007-06-19 07:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah then grab a load of the girls together and have a massive girlie night out!!!! it makes ya feel a whole lot better. and remind yourself his loss!
2007-06-19 06:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by womble 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
move on hun, otherwise your self respect will take a battering. find someone else who wants you-im sure there are plenty of men out there!x
2007-06-19 06:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by BscHons 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you should move on with your head high- if it starts to drop it's too late.
this has kept my self esteem in tact.
good luck with your next relationship.
2007-06-19 06:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋