Marriage & Divorce - 23 June 2007

If a man keeps silent on a serious matter (like cheating and lying) when he has been found out, what does it mean?

2007-06-23 22:55:19 · 11 answers · asked by Wretched Bonsai 2

I about to begin a divorce process and i want to have proff that my husband has been doing drugs. How can I proff he is with out him knowing.

2007-06-23 22:53:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance is a wonderful man, but he is also an alcoholic. He manages to keep his drinking confined to the late night hours, but he drinks himself into a stupor to go to sleep every night. He goes to work every day, and he spends most of his life sober. He is very healthy and responsible in every other aspect of his life. He has tried to quit in the past, but always relapses. He has told me that he doesn't think he can quit, so if I marry him I take him as he is. He is nearly perfect in every other way, but I'm worried about how his addiction might affect our life together...should I learn to live with his habit and marry him anyway, or should I say goodbye to the man of my dreams because I am afraid of his addiction? Please help!

2007-06-23 22:09:45 · 31 answers · asked by emob25 1

I have been with my partner 8 years,married for 4 of them, hes the best husband in the world i love him with all my heart but in november my husband slipped a disc in his back and became bored at home
he accused me of having an affair at work which i hadnt but he was so adamant i had he got me to a point where i was angry with myself and was punching myself in the face. He was treating me like crap for 6 months.
We worked it out, now ive found out for the last few months hes been smoking behind my back and threatening to beat my kids (age 10 and 6 )if they tell me, he made my life a misery over his made up affair i was having, now hes been caught out hes wont admit it,hes sleeping in our car somewhere with no money and i wont have him back till he admits what hes done and said to the kids, he always has to be in control or isnt happy, am i taking this smoking thing too serious? ive told him admit it and he can come home but he says the kids are filthy liars, i feel so sick xx

2007-06-23 21:54:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance was married for one month to this chick before he went out to sea (Navy man), when he returned 6 months later she was pregnant and admitted to cheating on him while he was at sea. So he left her (June 06) but after the child was born (and he was there for the birth) he signed the birth certificate and has been giving her $500 a month in child support to help her out. She has not had a job since they were married (early 2006) and she has lived off this $500 and stayed with her grandparents since then. Well she agreed to everything in the divorce, but before his papers got to her she filed her own (with no lawyer) and is demanding spousal support ($500) plus child support ($500)! They only lived together for one month. Can she do this? She is so smart that she put medicaid as one of the things she pays for for the baby. Clue me into that one *slap upside the head*.....anyway, do you think she can get the spousal and child support with such a short time together?

2007-06-23 20:36:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-23 19:35:16 · 11 answers · asked by Silent tear 2

ok so my uncle is 66 to 67 years old his wife is 36 or so and they ahve a 10 yr old son the husband and wife live in the same house but never see eachother theyr realtionship is nonexistent tyhe only reason they live with eachother is for the childs sake the husband has anger issues and takes medication for it they have had many fights but he may or may not have threatened to kill her and she called the cops is the charge atempted murder? or just a threat? because he wouldnt do it but he gets angry alot and doesent know what to say bail is at 100,000 dollars wat can we do should he fight it or plead guilty and also agree to angerr management and severe counseling and increasing his medication?

btw this is in los angeles

ok more details my uncles wife doesent cook doesnt do laundry do

2007-06-23 19:28:14 · 9 answers · asked by antelias 2

ok if u have cyber sex is'nt that the same as cheatin on ur spouse?
I have heard some people say no and others say yeah! Whats ur opinion on it?
My friend and I are argueing about it...I say it is she says no! So what's ur thought on that one?

2007-06-23 19:14:58 · 13 answers · asked by boobear 2

The mother tells the children she cannot afford things they want because their father is not paying his child support. He finally got tired of it, requested a print out from child support enforcement and showed it to the children. He has never been behind.

For doing that, she filed a restraining order on him, along with request for supervised vistation, at $80 an hour. It was granted on the grounds that he had abused their mother by harming her relationship with the children.

Do you agree?

Note: He was turned down for a similar restraing order, and paying an attorney to try to file a motion to bar her was estimated to cost $15,000 and would have taken 2+ years to get a hearing.

2007-06-23 19:10:42 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

why am I being soo stupid? How badly can one person screw up their life before a spouse calls it quits! No havent ever cheated on him either...How many chances will he give me?
Just not sure what to do?

2007-06-23 19:07:21 · 3 answers · asked by woohooo 4

some rude and obnoxious man at work made a pass at me, saying he was 'single' and trying to invite himself to my house. in the mean time, everyone else says he just got thru b.itching about his former wife, who has divorced him.

it seems to me, everytime i meat a 'single' man, he is actually a divorced man. however, women are more straight foward, introducing themselves as receintly divorced. what goes here?

2007-06-23 19:03:22 · 20 answers · asked by bebop_music 5

Well the B/F left for his vacation with his kids. I was told the reason my son and I were not invited was cost. I am trying to be positive about all of this......but keep feeling that it is time to leave him. WHY? Well as said before we have traveled as a family for 3 yrs, This trip was daughters High School grad trip. My11yr old still can't understand why we didn't go and feelings are hurt. B/F never gave me option to pay for myself.....knows my finances.
Money is issue. B/F spends like crazy on self and kids, I struggle with bills. In defense we dine out and go to concerts etc....he pays, also have had 2 vacations with both families that he paid. Its just that after 3.5 years our financial differences are hard to deal with for my son and I. His kids go to camp...mine don't, I have no health insurance drive old car etc. Not to be selfish but daughteralso recieved laptop needed for college for grad gift. Again am I out of line.......I'm feeling the writing is on the wall ..time to go

2007-06-23 18:58:06 · 17 answers · asked by haroldhark 1

well the thing is this relationship is quite tough when i say that u are married to a complete dog or jerk i should say how to avoid him and get rid of him or should one keep him and try to change him if he would .

2007-06-23 18:51:10 · 20 answers · asked by Harkamal S 1

no comment!!!!

2007-06-23 18:49:47 · 3 answers · asked by rajesh p 2

my ex left me at 7 months pregnant for a 17yr old high school girl. he put me and my family threw hell and i have spent $1000.00's of $ on him to take him to court because he didnt want to pay child support.
Now...everyday i wish for something bad to happen to my ex husband. he is a terrible person and i feel he shouldn't live. i hate his very being. all the love i had for him turned into hate. why cant i just realize what a piece of sh*t he was/is and move on! he really is a pathetic dead beat why cant i keep that in my head!

2007-06-23 18:47:31 · 23 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4

For full background, see my previous posting about 3 year old seeing too much - basically she saw her dad try to knock my head off... I've not really dealt with it since it happened 9 mos ago and she keeps bringing it up - THOUGH I DON'T TALK ABOUT IT TO HER UNLESS SHE ASKS AND DON'T TALK BAD OF HER FATHER.

Many people are suggesting in answer to my post to take her to counseling. I love her dearly and would do it if it helped... Any personal experiences / suggestions would be great... Thanks.

Wildflower

2007-06-23 18:45:55 · 9 answers · asked by Wildflower 6

2007-06-23 18:44:50 · 11 answers · asked by hotty 5

do most men that pay child support feel that they are being a good father... does paying but barely seeing you child make them feel like there part of your child's life?
or do they secretly hate to pay?

2007-06-23 18:39:19 · 11 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4

hey... i have been married for about 6 months now, almost 7 and me and my husband really do not get along. We have a 4 month old baby. and we just get into little arguments like for instance because he is always hiding things from me. I really think that he is cheating on me. Just today i was going through his wallet, cause i wanted to see how much money he had in there, and then he took the wallet away and said "OMG! no you can not look in my wallet!!!!!" and he wont let me in the spare bed room that he is always in playing on his computer. plus, i am not allowed to look in his van. So please tell me, what do you think is he cheating on me? i have been trying to be the best wife that i can. and i would never cheat on him. so should i just divorce him and get a better daddy for my child?

2007-06-23 18:32:50 · 10 answers · asked by hotty 5

Is there away to record spouse activity on a computer with out having to install software on their computer. Aslo away to track cell phone calls with out having to check phone if you don't have access to phone bill?

2007-06-23 18:27:14 · 5 answers · asked by Peggy 2

I am 32 year old recovering heroin addict and a father of a 7 year old son. I have struggled with heroin addiction since I was 15 years old, I divorced from my ex-wife back in '05. I have been clean for 3 months now. My wife ended up getting full custody of our son when we divorced because of my addiction.
I am trying to straighten up my life. I attend narcotics anonymous every single day. I haven't missed a day for 3 months. Would it be unreasonable to ask for visitation with my son? I just want to see my son, I love him more than anything on Earth, and I want to be there for him. How could I go about petitioning for custody, because my wife will not let me see him at all because she said " I am not a father to him anymore".

2007-06-23 18:12:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do I do? when someone who geniunely cares asks if you become their wife, gives you an engagement ring, and constances promises to come back home, stays in touch via phone but lives down south and yet when the time came to make the break, can't actually do it, but expects me to continue wait its been 6 months now, what was suppose to be three days away. He has been generous - looked after me well, but when push comes to shove, he rings and says its over, yet a few days later rings back and say hang in there, I want you.. I am tired of playing second fiddle. Your suggestions please

2007-06-23 18:11:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-23 18:09:37 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 19 years old and live in a small town. How can I get out of this bum-f**k town and go somewhere that I can be happy? I have a car but no money. I know people of my age suffer from the depression that I do, but I think if I can get out of this small town in MS that I will be happier. Can you help me?

2007-06-23 18:06:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife left my home with my 10 months old daughter in first week on january 2007 after a small quarrel and living with her parents form last 6 monts,after that we made repetitive attempts to bring her back through phone calls, personal visits through relatives and at last through letters sent through Register AD.

Now after receiving my letter she has filed petition in pune family court for maintenance under Hindu Adoption & Maintenance Act Clause 18 & 20 ,In her false allegation she has made one statement supporting one incidence that she has filed police complaint on 12/1/2007 in XYZ police station in pune for self defense against us. Almost 6 months have been passed but we haven't received a single call from concern police station, so through our political contacts we have checked all records in that police station and found that no complaint is registered not even NC.

Can you pls tell me that can i take advantage of this false police complaint in petition?.

2007-06-23 18:05:58 · 10 answers · asked by Tushar 1

Her husband disconnected internet & telephone service; changed postal address and told his wife to stay at home and take care of their 2 year and 4 years old sons. Then he asked her to divorce and re-marry. He planned to blackmail her with various techniques including hiring 'private investigators' without her knowledge. When she became aware of that, he started to frighten her by treatening her life. She tried to move to shelter with her sons, but too long waiting list. She moved to her sisters house. She sued him at the court; he did the same. He used better lawyer than hers, cause he is paid >40k/year where as she has nothing. She is spending her full time with her children and cannot work and pay much for lawyer. Her lawyer misrepresented her. The court awarded custody to the husband and ordered the wife to pay child support to the husband ! The woman has difficulty expressing herself in the court as compared to her husband who is an expert in public appearance.

2007-06-23 18:05:06 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

If I go there will be trouble and if I stay it will be double.

2007-06-23 18:03:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here’s the short background: 9 mos ago my husband attacked me in front of our little girl – he just went nuts and came at me, shoved me into her (she’s 3) and was swinging. I ducked several times and he didn’t actually hit me, though standing behind me and seeing it, she thinks he did. I was obviously very upset, crying and trying to leave. He held the door, I had to beg and struggled to open the door, he held it, but finally let me out. She screamed all the way to the Sheriff’s office for Daddy not to hurt Mommy. I left and haven’t been back. He wouldn’t go to counseling, so I filed for divorce. I only see him in very public places like the mall.

I DO NOT SPEAK BADLY OF HER FATHER TO / AROUND HER. NOR DO I TALK ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED THAT DAY UNLESS SHE BRINGS IT UP.

Tonight, she was angry with me and tried to hit me. I, as usual, put her in time-out.. when it was time to get out, I told her it is not okay to hit, we use our words and told her she should say she is sorry. She said, Well, Daddy hit you and you cried so bad. (Remember – this happened 9 months ago!) I sat down and put her on my lap and said, what daddy did that day was a wrong choice - I know, he shouldn’t have tried to hurt mommy, she said, are you going to live somewhere else? I said what do you mean? She said, when daddy hurt you we don’t live in the red house anymore, mommy I don’t want you to go …. And then I was at a total loss.. I don’t know what to say… How do I explain to her why I couldn’t stay with Daddy and his refusal for counseling? Or explain to her what happened that awful day without saying bad things about her dad? Or lie and say that Daddy won’t hurt Mommy – because to be honest, I don’t know if he’ll try again or not… What do I say?

2007-06-23 18:03:00 · 32 answers · asked by Wildflower 6

As much as I hate to admit it, Im slipping into my 2nd divorce. Right now I'm so emotionally drained from "trying", that I just feel hollow & cynical. How did we get here? I spent so much time alone self-analyzing myself after my 1st divorce. Ive tried so hard to not make the same mistakes. I'm not perfect, I know that. But I'm home every night, I try to always say, "I love you" & "good morning" & "good night". Im not abusive, I comprimise. I always have my wife's & step daughter's best intrests at heart in all my decisions. But each day it gets worse, we are more like roomates than lovers. We don't talk because I know she doesnt believe anything I say, her every complaint with "us", I try to rectify, but then it comes across as being "forced" to her. Right now I honestly feel Im not cut out for marriage, because I end up putting myself last & get nothing for it & I resent that. Im 35 & Im at a loss. Besides churches is there any free or low cost counseling? Its my last resort.

2007-06-23 17:47:41 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2

My best friend is a completley different person. She has got a new bf and she is always with hi and doesn't make any time for me. I'm not jelous, i am just upset becuase i have done soo much for her and now she has just turned her back on me. Also i am worried that something bad is going to happen her. When i talk about it too my other frends they start bagging me and acuse me of liking her. I just want my best friend back! How can i get her to change back?

2007-06-23 17:44:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous