Marriage & Divorce - 23 June 2007

I have been faithfully married for 19 years to a wonderful husband and father. I recently noticed that I have been having more than ususal discharge. So of course I went on the internet to see what could cause this and all my symptoms pointed to chlamydia. I was devistated because I only had one partner so this obviously ment that my husband cheated. I was so afraid and ashamed to go to my gyno and have her tell me my results so i confronted my husband and he said he did not cheat but i knew somthing was amiss he then told me he did something stupid. When I asked he told me he was extreemly stressed and was blaming me for all his problems and was mad at me and went to a strip club. So i was shocked that he would even consider having sex with a stripper he told me he did not that the stripper came very close to him and held his head to her private and he felt something wet. He he left right away! What should I do i find this hard to believe what do u think?

2007-06-23 06:43:20 · 20 answers · asked by Lisa E 1

recently ive became very close friends with a shop vac, is this wierd or am i just overreacting

2007-06-23 06:39:20 · 8 answers · asked by mikey 1

I've dated my fiancee for 3 1/2 years and I've been engaged for 18 months. I moved into his home to get married (didn't want everything to happen at once-stress) and I found some mail that indicated that his ex wife is his beneficiary (they've been divorced for over 13 years). Due to this, questions popped up and I went through his cell phone (didn't know what I was looking for, but didn't trust "something"). Upon looking, I found the name of his EX-Mistress (he was cheating on his 16 year marriage for 9 NINE years with this woman). I've made it clear early on that I wouldn't be able to support any contact with this woman. I'm being told that he just never changed his beneficiary information because he forgot or just didn't do it type of forgetting. He's saying the same about deleting his Ex-mistresses phone number. There is another girl that he dated in his cell phone too (not worried about her though). Could a man forget so much business-he's usually on top of things finacial..

2007-06-23 06:29:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend thats having a affair with a married man.His family knows that he is having this affair and his family wont tell his wife.They have had this affair for 3 years and he has been married for 10.Why wont he leave his wife or the mistress?

2007-06-23 06:07:12 · 20 answers · asked by missylynn2005_1829 1

....or can you just kick back and relax?

2007-06-23 05:59:20 · 16 answers · asked by Amy K 5

Ok, so my long term boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years now. We have been through a lot, and off and on sometimes. We are miserable when we are NOT togther. He's 31 and I'm 24. We have so much togther and already live together and everything. I love him more than anything and would never to anything to hurt him. There is one concern I have. Why won't he marry me? I mean, we each have little flaws about each other, but I know that he loves me, and whatever it is we can get through it together.
I think about this everyday. I'm almost to the point where I think I should move out soon and move on, cause I'm tired of waiting for something that will never happen. I mean, if he really wanted to be with me there would be no question right??? I just don't understand. It's soo hard because most of mine and his friends are either engaged or happily married. I just needed to vent and an outside perspective.

2007-06-23 05:59:01 · 12 answers · asked by lizbabe01 2

My husband, who is very critical and quick to point out everything wrong with me (hair, weight, clothes, you-name-it) has made every computer password "Sarah36D". For the record, I'm Sarah36B.

He's harrassed me for years to get implants (I won't) and refuses to change the password, saying, "It's got letters and numbers, it's easy to remember, and I'm a tit man."

Everytime I have to type the darn password, I feel slapped in the face, like my breasts aren't good enough. Am I just being too sensitive, or do I insist he change it?

I'd love to hear from both men and women. Thanks!

2007-06-23 05:58:23 · 42 answers · asked by Sarah D 2

2007-06-23 05:39:12 · 33 answers · asked by youwho 2

She left me in emotional shock and depression after bailing out of marriage with a coworker. It was so unexpected and left me and our two kids in disbelief. I told her that I would have done anything. I don't want anything to happen to her but I would like to see her experience betrayl and dishonesty from someone who she thinks loves her. Shes 30 now and has a I don't really give a crap attitude lately.

2007-06-23 05:26:57 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-23 05:26:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friends parents are separated. When they were together he was cheating all the time. Now that they are separated he has not had a girlfriend.

Question to the guys
Why was he cheating when he was married but he now lives alone and has not had a girlfriend for five years?

2007-06-23 05:19:13 · 20 answers · asked by Babe K 2

had sex until they were married. I thought that was admirable. I am sure a large percentage of married couples wish that was true of them. Both the man and woman went on to say that they never even kissed until their wedding day. Neither the boy or girl had ever kissed a person until their married day. Now that is true abstenance. You say you can't prevent teenage pregnancies and teenage abortions? There are some out there that will say you are wrong because they defied the odds and held out even to the point of no kissing. I wish I had waited until my wedding day before I kissed and married a good christian girl the first time I got married. Maybe it wouldn't have taken me 2 marriages to finally get it right. What are your thoughts on this abstenance and no kissing?

2007-06-23 05:18:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

my hubby and i are awaiting court pending a divorce. we hv 3 kids together. but our eldest mentions to me that his dad keeps telling him things. for example, that doesn't love me. he loves his g/f. also that he's gonna get a house w/her and our son would hv to share a room w/her son. he also told our son that he is just like me and my family, how all we care about is money? he is also showing him pics of his g/f and her kid. from a legal standpoint, can he be doing this? is it even worth mentioning to the judge?

2007-06-23 05:16:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are asian indian and our culture is conservative. We are planning to go beach, but i can't wear two piece bikni with my family. My husband cousins are hypocrate. Their wives wears deep tops, but if somebody else wears than they make joke of them. If they see a girl wearinfg a bikni or swim suit they say, look at them. Are not they are satisfied with their wife or their wives don't fulfill their fantisizes. I know it's cheap , but i myself don't know how to handle the situation without going into fights.Please advise

2007-06-23 05:16:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband cheated on me with a pregnant 17 yr old how do we fix the marrage and is it worth fixing.

2007-06-23 04:31:53 · 21 answers · asked by hotmama4727 1

I have been with my husband for the past 12 years (married for the last 5). I have treated him like crap, told him that I hate him, withheld sex & pushed him away. I don't know why I did this because I truly love him with all my heart & always have. I think that my feelings for him were (and still are) so strong that I was afraid of them & that he didn't feel the same way. Everything I have said & done has come out wrong - when I wanted to just hug him & tell him I love him I just said something hateful & complained about little things that didn't matter. I stupidly thought that deep down he knew I really loved him but now he thinks I hate him because of how I have treated him. Now he has left me & says that he feels nothing, that I destroyed anything he felt for me. I have known for a while that things were not right but I didnt know how to turn it around. I need to know how to make him see that I love him & want us to have the kind of good marriage we should have had all along.

2007-06-23 04:24:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

this is my story ,my husband propose me and talk with my parents...then we got married ...i don't know about him much before marriage,after marriage he and his family suddenly start ruling on me talking in rude way like i am his door mat,his mom is very famous, they are very greedy for money,and he follows his mom always,she told me she want more money from my parents..his nature is not good..no one his good friend..he is very different kind of person some times he is good and some time he is very bed ..I dint want to tell my family about this bcoz they will worried...I feel should I die..?I was working bcoz of him i have to left my job bcoz he got on site..but here he always watch girls and told me that he wants to come here be for marriage...
plz help me what to do...he never cares me..never....I am beautiful and an engineer,he wants me to all house work...and he treat me like i am his doormat..should i leave him or should i die??plz help me...

2007-06-23 04:13:13 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

im 32 & hes 30 everything was ok until tuesday when he said he was feeling down, ive not seen him since saturday and when i did it seemed perfect. since telling me he felt down, he will not answer the landline hes mobile rings the 1st time i ring then it gets turned off and he will not reply to my messages. If anyone has an insight into a mans brain then please share it, thanks

2007-06-23 04:10:11 · 16 answers · asked by claire d 2

My wife has told me that she had a lot of bisexual feelings when she was younger and even experimented with other girls. She still occasionally comments on how a female friend, actress, or colleague is sexy. However, she has said that she is not willing to bring another person into our relationship, although has never explained or qualified the statement.
But I have these crazy strong fantasies, like the two of us picking up a girl at a bar and tag-teaming her or inviting a single female house guest to sleep in our bed with us. Ocassionally, she asks me what my fantasies are, and I tell her nothing -- that I'm happy with our sex life (generally, I am) -- or I make something up because I'm afraid how she would react. She has told me, "Fantasies are called that because they're not real." But even if I told her that I would never act on my lust for another woman, is it a mistake to admit that I fantasize about it? She might take it as a reason to distrust me.

2007-06-23 03:35:35 · 32 answers · asked by fluvial_shell 2

A close friend of mine's husband had an "emotional affair" with another woman he worked with. They seperated for awhile, but not long after he starting begging for her forgiveness. He said he knows what a mistake he made and that the other relationship went no further then emotional and some kissing. My friend and her husband have a one year old son together and she is pregnant due in August, so she decided to give him another chance and work things out.

He has been doing everything he can to make her trust him. He quit his job so he has no contact with this woman anymore, he changed his cell number so she can't contact him, he's trying to prove himself to her and I can see he's really trying. But she can't get over what he did. Not that I blame her!

I've never been cheated on, espeically not to this degree, so I don't know how to help her. Will she ever be able to look at him and not think of the other woman? I want to give her advice but I don't know how to help.

2007-06-23 03:34:26 · 13 answers · asked by Momma! 3

my boyfriend of 5 years wants to leave in september when our lease is up to travel the world. i can't just up and leave because of family and my job. he is fine with giving everything up including me to travel for a year (he says). i don't know how to deal with this. this is extremely upsetting because i want to marry him (eventually). any advice?

2007-06-23 03:19:19 · 21 answers · asked by kodak.sell 1

2007-06-23 03:16:53 · 27 answers · asked by Wisdom 4

Is love replaceable?

2007-06-23 03:13:40 · 14 answers · asked by Wretched Bonsai 2

Like Match.com or Eharmony.com? Do you know many people who did? Do you think it really works well?

2007-06-23 02:36:28 · 14 answers · asked by Smiley 6

i think that one of my coworkers here at my job likes me b/c every time he calls to our phone he is like hey sexy are you working hard. Oh that is nothing he is married. I have a b/f , but how do i tell him to back off with out being so mean?

2007-06-23 02:35:31 · 11 answers · asked by CRYSTAL 1

2007-06-23 02:32:23 · 14 answers · asked by Sidereality 3

2007-06-23 02:19:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

if i asked him about his cheating.he said that he want2 leave me then what can i do .i ll wait till good time come or talk with him ?or leave him bt i love him ssssooooo much and my son also love him.please give me good suggestions bcoz it is upto our future

2007-06-23 01:56:18 · 17 answers · asked by areman 1

Any people (guys if possible) of INDIAN OR PAKISTANI ORIGIN AGAINST PAKISTANI GIRLS MASTURBATING?
If you married a girl and found that she masturbated when she was young - like 15 - 20, would you condemn her? Would you be upset?

2007-06-23 01:55:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

to be chased or to do the chasing?

2007-06-23 01:21:40 · 34 answers · asked by doodleberry46 2