my husband cheated on me with a pregnant 17 yr old how do we fix the marrage and is it worth fixing.
2007-06-23 04:31:53 · 21 answers · asked by hotmama4727 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here is my thoughts to you, you have children and yourself to care for!..at this point in time, it is better to think of you and those babes, then a dirty old man.
They are going to need their mom to love and care for them, because he is obviously not a good husband or father.
Especially if he messes with an underage female...what is next? His own daughter?
These are things you must think of to protect yourself and your little ones. WHAT EVER YOU DO ... do NOT have sex with this man, because then he thinks that what he did is all right and he will go and do it again.
YOU are precious in GODS eyes, he would not want you to be hurt. HE would want you to make peace with yourself and move on to a calm and gentle place without the torment of your husband and his sick desires.
BTW- the scripture states that for this reason you can ask for a divorce. HE has committed adultery....
GOOD LUCK and blessings
2007-06-23 06:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any fixing there, that is wrong, he is wrong for cheating on you in the first place, and he is wrong for cheating with a 17 year old, and a pregnant one at that. If I was you I would leave him, find better, you deserve someone who appreciates you and by the sound of that he doesn't.
Good Luck!
2007-06-23 04:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like the honey moon is now over. Welcome to the real world of marriage. This is what it is really like for most folks after they have been together for a while. Falling in love is easy. Staying in love, now that's another story. This is where the test of love begins. Will you become just another divorce statistic or will you be able to stay together? You both need to never let it appear in any way whatsoever that there is any reason to not trust you. That means be careful who you talk to and what you say. It applies to money too. Share your feelings with each other and always put yourselves in the other's shoes before you say or do something. Be the other's best friend. Date your wife still. They like that. Treat her like you could lose her tomorrow. Best Wishes .
2016-05-18 02:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it, honey. Betrayal is the, THE dealbuster in a marriage... all the stuff you have ever heard is for sure true... " once a cheater, always one...." yadadadyada. If marriages are admiration, respect, passion and trust, the trust is gone with betrayal, the passion got shared with someone else, and the respect and admiration of what and who you thought he was is in the toilet with the rest of it. You don't have a marriage, you have a roommate. Less than 20% of marriages survive two years after betrayal... And hon, there are just toooo many nice guys out there to screw around in a miserable situation with a jerk.
2007-06-23 04:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god are you serious? That's really messed up. If I were you, I'd get a divorce. (I'm qualified to say that because I'm divorced and I know it's made me happy. Yes I have kids)
If I were a woman I wouldn't want to be married to a guy who had sexual relations with a pregnant underage High School student.
No way in hell.
2007-06-23 04:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater... not sure that it can be fixed. have you talked to him to see why he did this? sorry but if my hubby was checking out 17 yr olds pregnant or not he would be in a whole lot of trouble!
2007-06-23 04:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by crazicowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say, but your marriage is beyond help. I don't think you should waste your time with your husband. That is awful and you don't need to put up with that crap. Cut your losses now and move on. You'll be happier sometime in the near future.
2007-06-23 05:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by labudd13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could forgive him if you want but there will always be that question is he out there doing it again. How do you know he has not done it before this is just the only time he got caught. You might be better off leaving him
2007-06-23 04:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even try fixing it, he will cheat on you again, don't put yourself through that heart ache, its not worth it. I hope you don't have any kids with him. Who is the father of this 17yr old girl?????
2007-06-23 04:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by Ella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have kids you need to disappear and be gratefull he sired no little heathens with you and vow to pick better in the future.
Old Guy
2007-06-23 05:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋