My husband, who is very critical and quick to point out everything wrong with me (hair, weight, clothes, you-name-it) has made every computer password "Sarah36D". For the record, I'm Sarah36B.
He's harrassed me for years to get implants (I won't) and refuses to change the password, saying, "It's got letters and numbers, it's easy to remember, and I'm a tit man."
Everytime I have to type the darn password, I feel slapped in the face, like my breasts aren't good enough. Am I just being too sensitive, or do I insist he change it?
I'd love to hear from both men and women. Thanks!
2007-06-23 05:58:23 · 42 answers · asked by Sarah D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be happy, sounds like he does love ya anyways.................... your boobs are big enough..........
2007-06-23 06:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Well, sensitive question, but I think you've got every right to be insulted.
Not because it is an insult that someone has breasts size 36/D, but because he doesn't respect your wishes in this. You're married, he should be more sensitive to what hurts you and what doesn't, even if he doesn't really see the wrong of it.
Why don't you just change the password yourself, or have someone else change it for you, if you're not sure how to do it. That might be the simplest solution.
Of course if you could buy yourself a computer of your own, he can use whatever password he likes, and you don't have to see it. He can be as childish about this as he wishes. Oh, and make sure to use his money for it.
Steven
2007-06-23 06:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ssq0 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I want to say I'm sorry. I went through the same thing with my first husband. I hate to tell you this but your husband is a controlling,insensitive, narrow-minded jerk. He fell in love with the way you look and the way you are. If belittling/berating you makes him feel more like a man then he's just a little boy. DON'T give in to his wants. Change the pass word to Hitler2, he's acting like him. And demand counseling or he can take the alternative......
I would suggest you get some counseling on the side before you get as messed up as I did. It took me 5 years to realize I am a worthwhile person and to get over the mental/emotional abuse. Also, remind Mr. Demand that he's the one that will have to pay the mega bucks for the surgery, and the future Chiropractor bills, which will be on going for the rest of YOUR life. Good luck and best wishes for you and the future.
2007-06-23 06:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by momwinks1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a tit man myself and I've got to tell you that he's being a totall *ss!!!!! I think that he's taking it too far. If you tell him that you find the password disrespectful and hurtful and he STILL refuses to change, then I would change the password to whatever you want it to be. Sadly, I can say that a few years ago, I was the exact same way. I treated my ex-wife like I wouldn't treat my dog. I was VERY critical of her and there was no WAY I was going to change for her. I don't know your husband, but I think you need to ask yourself....."Will he change???" It took a near death experience to finally snap me out of it and start showing the women in my life the respect they deserved. If you like your body, then tell him that he'll have to get over it. You didn't have D's when you were married, so he knew what he was getting BEFORE you were married. . Good Luck!!!!!!!
2007-06-23 06:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by wolf_cry19 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now I'm normally an advocate of people being in the right about what they find attractive, but in this instance he's crossed the line. I mean he should have realized your chest size when he married you, and if a 36B was really that big of an issue to him he should have called off the engagement. Asking you to hack apart your body just because he likes the way it looks is completely out of the question, and caving in to his whims and wishes on this one is not an option.
I would suggest changing the passwords to "chauvinist". If you don't know how to change the passwords, scrounge up some system information (operating system, etc.) and ask another question here. :)
2007-06-23 06:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Don't really want to offend you however maybe this is the best way.
First i would say get a spine. Tell him there yours and you like em just the way they are My wife is a 36b and i think she is just a little top heavy but i did not and will not ask her to get a reduction. I would change all the passwords to "10 inches" then tell him i want him to get a implant. Have a good day.
2007-06-23 06:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by ASmiles1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your husband is an A-hole.He should accept you the way you are,the way you were when he married you..this sort of thing pisses me off,how shallow men can be..it sounds like he controls you...not good.It won't be long before your marriage starts to crumble because you can only take his sh*t for so long before you start to crack..being a 36B is beautiful and nothing wrong with it..that is what God gave you..don't you dare go out and get implants..sh*t,what is he gonna do for you?What if he had a needle dick?do you think he would get a penile implant?He is self righteous,egotisical,macho schmuck..I'm sorry I've encountered men like this and it just irritates me!
2007-06-23 06:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Melissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Implants are DANGEROUS, do some research, I saw some show on Opera and there were some very brave women who shared their stories on their implants, the pictures want to make you cry to look at them and I am a MAN.Here is thought, change the password to mybreastsarebeautiful.
2007-06-23 06:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I realise this is the minority opinion, but quite honestly I wouldn't be offended. I think it's kind of nice that he expresses to you how he would like you to wear your hair. I don't see anything wrong with asking when you're getting your hair done and whether you'd go a little lighter in colour. I think you jumped on him a bit over it though, and if I was him I'd be put off and not feel comfortable about expressing my preferences to you in future if you were going to react like that. I don't think it warranted the "Oh how it hurts and offends me" spiel. Why not get your hair done the way he likes it to please him? I think he would really appreciate that and love it.
2016-04-01 00:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes got a headlight problem!! Is it that important? Make up your password and change it or get your own mailbox. Im a man and a sexual as the next guy but seems like hes got an issue with that. Its your body, and dont let him dictate to u what he wants. Take u as u are, thats what I say.
2007-06-23 06:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I THINK that your man has some self esteem issues. your boobs were 36B when he married you so whats the problem now?? Tell him that you want him to get a penile implant its just not big enough, strong enough, or its just to damm soft. LOL maybe that will shut him the F__K up. If not remember he probable hates himself and point that out to him everytime he puts you down... say something like honey did that make you feel better to put me down, if it did glad I could help you feel a little better about your self. Now please stop using me to feel better about you, seek some professional help, lose some weight, use Rogain or get a bigger dick. LOL whatever you think may be bothering him... good luck girlfriend
2007-06-23 06:52:30 · answer #11 · answered by No Drama for this Queen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋