Marriage & Divorce - 24 June 2007

My husband makes excuses and won't get a job. He's been out of the military since March. I'm taking care of our 2 yr old while he sleeps into afternoon, stays up all nite, surfs internet, watches movies, plays video games, complains non-stop about everything, hides in the room and avoids my family because they pressure him to get off his butt and work. If I ask him to help with our daughter, he says I wanted to be the stay at home mom. When I tell him he needs to work, his response is why don't I work? I reminded him I work everyday taking care of our child. I try to support him in finding jobs but it backfires. I have a hard time being intimate with him and when he asks me why I tell him I just want him to get a job, then he gets mad. He threatens me with divorce for being frigid. I told him he owes it to our child to at least get counselling but he thinks he's too good/too smart for that?He seems to think it's okay to live off unemployment and my family. I want to make it work. How?

2007-06-24 23:37:08 · 12 answers · asked by Sje 3

My husband suffers with huntington's disease and unfortunately may have to go into long-term care. He receives a military pension and I don't know whether I should have gone for power of attorney before this stage in order that the pension continues to be paid into our joint account. It all seems so confusing and was wondering if anyone had experienced much the same. Thank you

2007-06-24 23:22:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-24 23:03:00 · 9 answers · asked by jacqueline b 1

He just woke me from a pieceful sleep to help him find his belt andcell phone before leaving for work. Now I can not go back to sleep. He must be on drugs.

2007-06-24 22:56:43 · 13 answers · asked by reggieg 4

A hindu couple married for the past 2 yrs are seperate for the past 10mth due to differences.the husband's family has returned all her things and also got her signature by force in a ltr stating the fact that the couple are seperate for the said mentioned time. what will be repurcusions in court by her act, if she plans not to give divorce.wil this ltr act against her attempts..pls clarify

2007-06-24 21:40:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

How many of you guys, and please give your ages if you are okay with that because it may be relevant) actually need sex daily? I hear this 24/7 thing, from many men who answer questions on here. I'd like to believe that men are not unhappy in their lives, or marriage, when sex occurs maximum of two-three times a week. Am I wrong? Hectic lives, etc.???

2007-06-24 21:28:30 · 15 answers · asked by soozemusic 6

We have been together for 2yrs straight living with eachother. We have sex about 4times a week is that normal or do am I just worrying? Sometimes when he is hard and laying in bed beside me he wont even try to make love says he aches to bad from work. He works 8hrs on concrete floor and we usually stay up till 3am and he gets up at 9am so does 4times a week sound ok? you think he really is to tired its just when we first started dating no matter what time or what he had to do he would attack me but now if its too late or he has worked to long he is to tired.

2007-06-24 21:07:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

HE IS FROM PAKISTAN

2007-06-24 20:42:43 · 9 answers · asked by jenni_ajaz 1

my parents are divorced. my mom has severe deppression. she gets mad and yells very easily. but she seems to only get mad @@ me, not my younger sibs. Any advise??

2007-06-24 20:30:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am a 37 yr old women i am in a bad time my life with the loss of my family and ending a 20 yr marriage 4 yrs ago i so hate being alone and have been dating so many men keep hurting me or wanting one thing so i did the unthinkable i fell for a married man he is 28 so much younger then men we see each other everyday and both admit we are in love i really cant ask him to leave his wife for me he does have two kids and i dont want to be the reason but i cant stop seeing him either it has been better then being alone so im not sure what to do

2007-06-24 19:11:19 · 12 answers · asked by wantedacowboy 2

My wife and I decided to try out the swinging lifestyle. We both were curious. We tried it a couple times. Turns out I really like it and she really hates it. Can't really find a way to comprise....What should we do?

2007-06-24 18:32:57 · 16 answers · asked by Big Easy 1

my boyfriend still keeps in contact from time to time with his 2nd ex's mother and he lets her keep a child he had from his 1st marriage. i dont like it because its annoying how people from the past should go away and they don't. one time it got really bad and the ex-mother-in-law kept calling him multiple times a day, so i called her and asked why and she said it was none of my buisness. keep in mind that he was only married to the 2nd ex for only 1 year.

2007-06-24 18:28:19 · 14 answers · asked by jaynell 2

I believe that pregnancy, child birth and babies are very 'icky'. Using the logic of the masses, does that mean that having children is morally wrong?

Let's outlaw children!!

2007-06-24 18:08:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

For example I get sooo mad when he bites my nose or face and he just thinks it is funny to make me mad. He doesn't seem to understand that it hurts. Then on top of it he says he has no conscious. So I can't guilt him into stopping, in fact he turns it all around on me and plays his guilty games. I don't play guilt games with him, but I'm sure with a normal person it would be guilt of hurting someone that would make them stop. One day he brought me divorce papers and told me that if I was so unhappy that I could divorce him and have everything. I don't want a divorce I just want him to stop. How do I get him to stop when he doesn't have a conscious and just doesn't get it.

2007-06-24 18:07:28 · 37 answers · asked by Peggy Pirate 6

I have been married to my wife for less than two years and we are 22 and 21 years old. Yes, I know that is pretty young. And, I was wondering how many times per week people have sex who have been married about the same amount of time. For us, it is very rarely because she just doesn't seem to want to....ever. We have sex maybe once every two or three weeks and I initiate it 100% of the time. She is not adventurous, so she absolutely refuses to try new things and she won't tell me what she likes.

For a while, we had sex every day (for about the first three months of our marriage). Then, suddenly, my wife just decided she didn't want to have sex any more and it takes a VERY special occasion or three hours of begging and another hour of listening to her complain before we actually have sex. And the funny thing is, that most of the time, she "enjoys" herself.

I'm basically wondering if a total loss of a sex drive is normal for women this early in marriage.

2007-06-24 18:07:06 · 17 answers · asked by beef6703 1

Why were people getting married before Christianity or Judaism?

2007-06-24 18:04:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you know that homosexual marriage is not a threat, good for you. I know that too, but I'm asking those who don't know the truth and have opposing opinions.

2007-06-24 18:00:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is she off limits since she is unhappy and is about to get divorced? Or should i move on since she isn't that rich and doesn't have any upside except that she is a woman?

2007-06-24 17:54:43 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

Text messages constantly!

2007-06-24 17:54:18 · 13 answers · asked by Takia M 1

Ok. I am 21 and still live at home with my parents. I have had a couple of relationships but nothing ever serious. Well my dad and mom have recently started to get a little worried about me. Well long story short my dad has said he is on the look out for that special someone in my life. Even tho I have told him to back off he wont. He has met this guy he works with and has told him all about me and now is trying to set us up. GRRR... what would you do and how should I handle this? I mean he is my daddy for goodness sake and I am still daddy's little girl...or at least I was.

2007-06-24 17:43:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a wonderful, hard working hubby, he really loves me & cares about me from all appearances, but he hasnt touched me as a woman in over 5yrs !!! It doesnt matter if I'm fat or thin, nothing! Doc said his heart is perfect, he doesnt have prostate probs! I am warm, receptive, beautiful, fun, sexy. what is going on with him? all he'll say is "It's old hat, boring"! I'm anything but, always up for anything, so that's Baloney!!! I just want to feel like a woman once in a while! Help! What's wrong with him? I dont feel that way !!!

2007-06-24 17:39:55 · 13 answers · asked by BARBIE 5

Ok, my girl has talked of proposing to me and I love her very much. I can't say for sure if it will happen but it could, and call me old fashioned, but I want to be the guy who proposes, I'm not really into the female proposing. Since I love her, and would love to marry her, I obviously don't want to say no, but part of me says I should just so I can be the one to propose.

What do you think of this situation? Am I being too chavinist? Whats a good way out of this dilemma?

2007-06-24 17:33:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

We will be married for three years on July 2nd, but we have a bad relationship. He has cheated on me and has a history of lying. He said I should have never taken him back if I wasn't going to get over it. He says I constantly bring it up, and also he feels that I nag him too much and try to manipulate him into doing what I want him to do. I have stayed with him through thick and thin and I am committed, but he says he can't do this much longer. Tonight we were both yelling and he got in my face. Then he said he was leaving and I could do whatever and have whoever I want at the house. He said he is tired of my s***. He got up and started gathering up stuff. He said he doesn't want anything but the clothes he came with. I asked him how I was going to pay all of these bills and mortgage by myself. He told me to sell the house. That’s when he said I know he’s not going anywhere. I sat around and cried. I was almost about to pass out because ...

2007-06-24 17:33:23 · 15 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

whats your story like? mine like to yell all the time. down grade everything I do basically. I cant really go anywhere without 3 phone calls asking how long am I gonna be or when am I coming home? any one else have to deal with this type of man?

2007-06-24 17:32:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi all,my ex wife said that she realised that she was getting feelings for the new boyfriend while we were together,i told her that she should have told me what was going on inside her head,she says that she couldn't have told me.
surely this would have been the right thing to do so maybe we could have saved the marriage,now when we talk she brings up everything bad that i ever did to her and it seems that she is trying to justify the split from her part,i no that marriges are hard things to work at,but she is putting thoughts nto my head that maybe i was not happy and this was best for both of us,
i no that sometimes i might have said that i could not go on with her in the past,but she was hard work,and in the long run i wanted 2 make it work for us and the kids and we all no that relationships have there ups and downs but she says that we had more downs than ups which is not true,she also said that the kids are not upset,like the new man ,sex is great what the hell please help me

2007-06-24 17:26:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby and i have been married 6 yrs this week.He is 30 yrs old and i am 26 yrs old.We have a 6 yr old son and a daughter who is 2.5 yrs old.As far as sex goes we go at it 3-4 times a week but we have nasty fun.Sometimes i wish we had more sex but i guess thats what holidays and vacations are for!Anyhow my hubby claims to not be that into porn?He says he only really indulges once in a while in watching but if i want to be informed when i am more than welcome to join him?Is this normal?My friend mindy says if your hubby is not watching porn regularly then he cheating on you?

2007-06-24 17:25:48 · 17 answers · asked by Jenny I 1

2007-06-24 17:19:26 · 10 answers · asked by BETH 1

I have been divorced for 4 years. Our original divorce did not state any specific visitation times. We are modifying the agreement and I want to make visitation clear as my ex has started playing games. I want to make sure I address everything possible. Holidays, who drives, etc. Anyone think of anything I might overlook?

2007-06-24 16:05:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

would you like it if you wife was bisexual?

2007-06-24 15:49:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

What should I do? I'm straight and anal sex would be painful. She said that it is the only way she can get in the mood for sex with me at this time of our life. Do women get strange during menopause? We have been married for 20 years and the past 5 years have been sexless. HELP!!!!!

2007-06-24 15:38:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous