whats your story like? mine like to yell all the time. down grade everything I do basically. I cant really go anywhere without 3 phone calls asking how long am I gonna be or when am I coming home? any one else have to deal with this type of man?
2007-06-24 17:32:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a matter of fact I do not only is he verbally and emotionally abusive but he is physically abusive as well....he has ripped my clothes off of me choked me punched me knocked my head into walls and floors he has tied me up brought a loaded ak 47 into my house he has beaten me kicked me and ground his foot into my neck as ii lay on the floor he has kicked my back so badly that i now have back problems, he has made me feel like absolutely nothing he has chased me all the way from NY to NC to Florida, i have had injunctions out on him i have had him arrested for trespassing all to no avail i am going to attempt again to leave and hide from him at the end of next month...oh yeah he is married and his wife comes to get him every time i call the police on him she treats him like a baby or something or maybe she's glad hes away from her and chasing me?
2007-06-24 17:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by I would say 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do know because I was married to the same kind of guy.
He made sure I had the kids no matter where I went so that I couldn't go anywhere that might be "fun." He freaked out when I went to a friend's wedding because I was taking too long (even though I explained that I was going to both the wedding and reception). He hated all my single friends because he assumed they were always out looking for men, and I would be swayed by that. He freaked if I talked to any of my male friends. He tried to get between me and my family. Back when we had dial up, he took the cable/wire that connects the computer to work with him so I couldn't get online. He even took a part out of the car engine so that I couldn't drive anywhere.
I could go on, but you get the idea. I left him and I assure you I feel MUCH happier now.
2007-06-24 17:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by 1M9 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yup, can't wait til he leaves out of town again, he's been home for two days too long..... he's a trucker.
He's also psycho, he doesn't cuss at me or call me names but he orders all of us around instead of asking politely for anything, he yells all the time.
He is bothered by everything and anything, a fly, a barking dog, loud radio, his shaver, the shampoo, the bar of soap, the way I drive (fast), that we talk on the phone, dirty dishes, a pen that stops working....you name it!!
I'm just about ready to lock him up in a nursing home if he doesn't cut the crap. I've learned to ignore him but sometimes he just pushes me too far and I start yelling back to shut the hell up and he goes into seclusion. YESSS!!
We've talked about divorce, but he'd rather pretend he's gonna behave from now on than leave for good, so he stays.
2007-06-24 17:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to the people advising you to leave and do so safely..start making an escape plan..try and put aside some money..look for places you can go..shelters, refuges..find a supportive friend that will be there for you..start having some counselling..and do all this before he takes away every shred of confidence you have. A man like this will never change he will only get worse.. and if you continue to stay.... day by day you will start to believe what he says to you..he will break down your self esteem..you will question every think you know to be good and true about yourself until you feel like the no good piece of s... he is making you feel like.. I know I was married to one like this for 12 years..when I finally left him with two young children 4 1/2 and 10 months old..I was suffering severe postnatal depression..but I knew if I stayed I would not survive..I could hear his words echoing in my ears for years after I left him..he used to call me a lazy f...ing fat b.....and one day I could laugh as I said to myself..you freak I was never lazy I did everthing ..kept house looked after the children etc..I was not fat..I had a good figure that got better after I left him..and I surely was never a b....!!! So please look after your self.. emotional abuse is as traumatic as physical abuse..the scars are harder to see..but nevertheless are there for a long time..
2007-06-24 23:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by pushka_cat2004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's how my husband is. i was just talking about how much i hate him tonight. our 3 yr anniversary is coming up. i don't think i can last much longer. i stay at home with the kids, so i have no job and no money of my own. he loves that. i really want to leave but i don't know how to be on my own. i have no say in what goes on around here. he only gives me enough money for groceries. i have to ask him for money for anything else but i don't always get it. he doesn't even allow me to go anywhere. i hate him. he didn't get like this until we were married. he also calls me and my ideas stupid. i have never been more depressed then i am now.
2007-06-24 17:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by nicole r 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, my husband is wonderful. But I had a boyfriend that was that way long before I met my husband. He was verbally abusive and would sometimes put a tight grip on my arm. I left him after a couple of months. No one deserves to be treated like dirt. And if the person you are with does treat you bad they don't really love you.
2007-06-24 17:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was with a guy like that for almost ten years!!! I did everything that he asked me to do and it was never good enough. I had absolutely no self esteem left. I divorced him and I am now married to a wonderful man who makes me feel wonderful about myself!! I promise you can do better, you deserve better. Everyone needs to be with someone who makes them feel great about themselves. I didn't think that was possibe until i met my current husband. He is the best thing that ever happened to me. Remember this....My ex was ALWAYS emotionally abusive, but he didn't start hitting me until near the end, that is when I got out. I suggest you do the same before it gets that bad. I never dreamed he would do that to me, but i was wrong. Put yourself first because if he really loved you, he would try to make you feel good about yourself, not make you feel bad about yourself. RESPECT AND LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!! THERE ARE GOOD GUYS OUT THERE, TRUST ME, I KNOW!!
2007-06-24 17:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes for 2 years. What the hell was I thinking. He called me all day and drove by my work. I was 20 and in love so I moved in with him thinking he'd calm down, NO. He started calling me names and making me feel worse than dirt. I was so depressed. He then began to threaten me! He said if I ever left him he'd kill me and my family and then himself! I couldn't believe this was the same guy. I was scared to leave. He'd leave at night and come home in the morning drunk. God only knows what he was doing! He even came at me with a knife once, but said I was his angel and he'd just kill himself instead. And he tried! I got the gutts up to leave him, I called the cops and they escorted me out and I got a restraining order on him. I feared my life for a long time afterward. But he left me alone. Thank god. GET OUT NOW! Women need a man who respects them and empowers them. I have that now and can't believe how stupid I was. RUNNNNNNNNNNNN!
2007-06-24 18:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jacob's Mommy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband starts out by being concerned and simply caring...then he likes to know a little more and a little more...to the point where he needs to know every little thing I'm doing, where I am, etc.
He also is very stubborn and opinionated and when I do things that aren't the way HE thinks they should be done, he acts like I"m stupid...and when I confront him, he balks. Its frustrating.
2007-06-24 17:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by its about time 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, People do all the time. I worked in domestic violence for a local government department. This is how it starts. I do not want to tell you what to do, but it will likely progress to him belittling you and making you feel worse about yourself. Next, he will become physically abusive. It may take years, but statistics say it will likely happen. You need to have him seek counseling.
2007-06-24 17:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by dredma1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋