my boyfriend still keeps in contact from time to time with his 2nd ex's mother and he lets her keep a child he had from his 1st marriage. i dont like it because its annoying how people from the past should go away and they don't. one time it got really bad and the ex-mother-in-law kept calling him multiple times a day, so i called her and asked why and she said it was none of my buisness. keep in mind that he was only married to the 2nd ex for only 1 year.
2007-06-24 18:28:19 · 14 answers · asked by jaynell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, i might as well walk into a classroom of 1st graders for these type of stupid answers. this answers thing sucks and is pointless.
2007-06-24 18:42:34 · update #1
good grief woman. his child is with the inlaw. my my you are self serving.
2007-06-24 18:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a little more than that he needs a babysitter from time to time. For all you know, he could still be sleeping with that wife (or her damn mother--which, for all you know, could've been the reason he and the daughter broke up!) (I know, I watched too much damn Lifetime Television when I had cable). But you're smart enough to know that something is definitely wrong here. With the ex mother-in-law telling you to mind your own business, this shows that she has some vested interest in your bf coming around. (It's not like it was her grandchild, for real.) She could be trying to get the two back together, if they're not still messing around. Take into consideration how long you've been with him. Fold a piece of paper in half the long way. On one side, write down all of the good things about him/and the relationship, on the other side, write the bad/negative. Then ask yourself, is staying with him will be worth all the drama that he is obviously staying caught up in with all of his baggage from previous marriages that he refuses to let go of. Ask yourself if you'd rather have someone with more concentration on you and his relationship in the present, rather than someone who insists on hanging onto old broken up sh** from the past. Some ties do need to be severed. It would be different if he spoke to the woman once a year around the holidays or something, but this is a bit over the top.
2007-06-25 01:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Nuveau 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the more important question is why does he have 2 ex's and why did the second last "only 1 year"?
It does seem rather odd that he would keep in touch with the 2nd MIL and allow her to keep the child, and not remain in such close contact with the first MIL. Although I have no problem keeping in touch with persons from your past, no matter how they are involved, it is somewhat worrisome he would remain in contact with the second MIL (following the stereotype that most people hate their MIL's).
Although nothing conclusively says there is trouble, nothing here denies it either, so proceed with caution!
good luck and best wishes!
2007-06-25 01:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by morbidbliss1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get your head out of your butt - she is caring for his child - she has every right to still be in contact with him, and him with her.
You aren't his wife, you had no business calling the ex mother in law being nosey.
If you don't like it, find someone new that doesn't have children.
2007-06-25 01:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still keep in contact with my ex's family as a matter of fact they have more to do with me than they do him, he broke up a 30 year marriage for the company tramp where he worked.
2007-06-25 08:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no reason for him to be having contact and he should find another baby sitter for a child not even related to these people I wouldnt like it either. at all. I think I'd tell him to go on.
2007-06-25 02:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow she wasn't very friendly was she? now use your brain here. get out of that situation. they are all weird I think I think the woman should have considered and respected your feelings and she would if your boyfriend did. I think he is up to something or else he gets off to making you nervous and jealous. either way you dont deserve it
2007-06-25 01:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is indeed none of your business. You are just a gf, free rides perhaps. He is related to his ex-inlaws and there is a child. He and you have no implied contract or obligations. You have no control over him or the people he is associated with. Keep that up and you will be the 2nd ex
2007-06-25 01:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
unfortunately there is nothing u can do if there is a child involve. however u need to express ur feelings to ur husband and have him talk to them to have them chill out and to respect his marriage and you if that isnt acceptable then u r probably going to be the 3 rd ex wife
2007-06-25 01:33:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is right..it is none of your business. He is your boyfriend, not your fiance or husband. Obviously they had formed a special bond when they were in laws, GROW UP or GET OUT.
2007-06-25 01:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by sweet serinity 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he has a child by his . ex. wife where.s the childs mother is what you ought to worry about rather than her mom . in my opion?
2007-06-25 01:33:40 · answer #11 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋