What should I do? I'm straight and anal sex would be painful. She said that it is the only way she can get in the mood for sex with me at this time of our life. Do women get strange during menopause? We have been married for 20 years and the past 5 years have been sexless. HELP!!!!!
2007-06-24 15:38:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lemme see..she also wants you to dress like a girl and go out at night pretending to be her 'sister', go out and have sex with other women, get surgery to have a bigger..um...package...what else? Oh yeah, you want to buy padded briefs so you can look sexy in your disco slacks. Uh...ya...sure. I don't think it's your "wife" who needs the help...or maybe it is...
2007-06-24 15:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems odd to me that this particular interest/fetish would be coming out now from a marriage that has been sexless for the past 5 years. Did the two of you do anything together during that time to address your lack of sex? Is there any chance that the two of you can talk together, perhaps with a counsellor, to find out where this is coming from now? Some women (and men) do fantasize about this, so it's not abnormal, but the insisting that it's the only thing that will get her off is somewhat puzzling.
2007-06-24 16:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dick Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better tell your wife - and you'd better lay down the law on this - that her suggestion is NOT for you.
Whether she is going through menopause or not, it's not a good enough excuse.
She's been with you for 20 years and if she can say this to you now, she doesn't have any love or respect for you anymore.
If she can't agree with that? Well, read the many messages on this Answers forum - divorce happens! Don't dismiss it as impossible if it must come to that.
BTW, you doing anal crap with some guy might get you some AIDS or other crap. Does your wife love you that little that she wants you to get AIDS or some other disease?
2007-06-24 16:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is one wierd woman. I would tell her no. Maybe if she won't give you sex you should tell her that you will find someone who will. I know that is kinda mean and whats bad is i am a woman...... lol. But anywayz i can't believe that she would ask you to do that if you are straight. But the women i know who went or are going through menopause are strange but not like that. Good luck on that though.
2007-06-24 15:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by a.rose19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a comment.. its a double standard again its OK for men to want to watch 2 ladies at it but not OK for a woman.to watch men at it...must admit I've never heard it before, as for strange during menopause??? have never felt more sexier,have wanted sex more often and enjoying life to the full is that strange????i think not. Your wife can speak for herself ask her.
2007-06-24 20:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gross. try something else. that's not normal and I will not help her despite what she thinks. You mentioned anal, no it's not painful have you and your wife looked into anal toys. Or maybe you could go to the store with her and the two of you could get a (straight) video that gets her going and put it on the bedroom TV. Maybe you two should see a sex therapist to help her.
2007-06-24 15:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation - that's really sad....funny....but sad. It sounds like you all have some issues that really should've been addressed 5 years ago when the sex issues started. Anytime a partner encourages you to go outside the marriage - well, it's not good. You need to ask her to seek couples counseling. If she's unwilling, I'd divorce her.
2007-06-24 16:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That Is a strange request!
I feel your sexless part; though it hasn't been five years for me!
I'd seriously have some questions for her!
2007-06-24 15:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like BS to me. You've been married for 20+ years and NOW your wife wants to see you get poked in the rear? Something is mighty wrong here bud. If you were to conceded to her wishes, she could (easily) sue for divorce and you would get chewed up in court. What would your friends & family think if you did something like this?
2007-06-24 17:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do your a fool i think she just wants to humiliate you.if you are straight like you say why would you let another man put his dink up your who-ha?in my opinion and thats all this is i think that i would rather just pay a prostitute or get a girlfriend on the side i might even seriuosly concider divorcing if she insisted.but just to be fair has that been one of the things that you have been doing to her?
2007-06-24 20:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by windwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋