hi all,my ex wife said that she realised that she was getting feelings for the new boyfriend while we were together,i told her that she should have told me what was going on inside her head,she says that she couldn't have told me.
surely this would have been the right thing to do so maybe we could have saved the marriage,now when we talk she brings up everything bad that i ever did to her and it seems that she is trying to justify the split from her part,i no that marriges are hard things to work at,but she is putting thoughts nto my head that maybe i was not happy and this was best for both of us,
i no that sometimes i might have said that i could not go on with her in the past,but she was hard work,and in the long run i wanted 2 make it work for us and the kids and we all no that relationships have there ups and downs but she says that we had more downs than ups which is not true,she also said that the kids are not upset,like the new man ,sex is great what the hell please help me
2007-06-24 17:26:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is slamming you and justifying her actions because she feels guilty. Just tell her if thats what she needs to believe so she can live with herself thats fine by you. You were the one trying to save the marriage, nobody is perfect and no relationship is constant sunshine, but at the end of the day you were willing to work thru it and she wasn'.t so just ignore her
2007-06-24 22:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is saying all that she may have some inside guilt issues or self esteem issues and she may just be taking it out on you. You believe what you know to be true and don't worry about the rest. If she is bugging you then stop talking to her, or when you do have to talk to her make it about the kids and that be it. Let it go and move on. Good luck
2007-06-25 00:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by caligal68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to let go. you are the only one getting hurt here - do you want someone back who is such hard work? i put up with crap like that for 13 years and for 2 years after divorce he kept coming round telling me what a great time he was having with other women ..... you dont need it forget her.
2007-06-25 00:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by i give up 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your ex-wife - ignore her or get over it - either way, move on emotionally.
What good does it do to analyze the past from her point of view anyway?
2007-06-25 00:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by Karen D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're ex-wife is rubbing it in. It's over. Time for you to find someone who will make you happy too. Stop thinking about her it will just drive you crazy. You're free...be happy.
2007-06-25 13:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Peggy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go! Let her think what she wants to think! Also, women don't just let things go like guys can do. They hang on to everything you say and it just piles up. Even if you talk about it, it NEVER goes away.
2007-06-25 00:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well it sounds like your a little jealous, but that is understandable...she shouldnt be telling you about the sex...that is alittle to much info..I wouldnt think to much about it...what is done is done...just let her think what she wants.
2007-06-25 00:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go...is over..she don't want you anymore...hey u will look more macho (from inside) if u just relax, calm just listen and move forward.good luck
2007-06-25 05:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by lets talk-now w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to look forward at this point, not backwards.
2007-06-25 00:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your question is???
Shes your X. Leave it at that, and stop driving yourself crazy.
It's OVER.....DONE.......FINISHED.
What do you NOT understand?
2007-06-25 00:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋