We have been together for 2yrs straight living with eachother. We have sex about 4times a week is that normal or do am I just worrying? Sometimes when he is hard and laying in bed beside me he wont even try to make love says he aches to bad from work. He works 8hrs on concrete floor and we usually stay up till 3am and he gets up at 9am so does 4times a week sound ok? you think he really is to tired its just when we first started dating no matter what time or what he had to do he would attack me but now if its too late or he has worked to long he is to tired.
2007-06-24 21:07:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Am I just being silly when I think a man should never be too tired? Is it really possible they are without just not being interested?
2007-06-24 21:12:51 · update #1
Not a bad average at all! He probable is tired, he is getting 6 hours of sleep or less each night and it sounds like his job is hard manual labor( if his back aches). It will never be like it was when it was a new relationship.
2007-06-24 21:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Am I just being silly when I think a man should never be too tired? Is it really possible they are without just not being interested?"
Hun, men are human too... females get tired. So do males equally. Just because they are a little more showing being horny than females, doesn't mean they have to always 100% act on it,
Pressing to have "more" might actually press him to give less. If he was "too tired" he wouldn't be giving you any. He just needs some "him" resting time. That is okay. If you did the same job or even harder job, I imagine you would not want it every day on the week when you came home.
4 times a week is actually still standing great compared to couples who been together that long. Some people are lucky to have sex 1 or 2 times a week, depending on their schedules.
It is not good to compare the first few months of a relationship having sex v.s now. Unless there is signs of cheating or health issues, but so far, 4 times a week is nothing to be worried about at all!!
He could be sore and it hurts to move or he really would like sleep, rested and then attack you.
2007-06-24 21:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex life is exceptionally good in comparison to the stats, so you need not worry there.....and as far as him being in the erectile state while laying beside you in bed, it does not necessarily mean that he wants to (or should) have sex; sometimes it's an involuntary reflex and it just happens, and is not always indicative of wanting to engage in intercourse.....just be happy that you still get this response even if he's not up for the all-out act.....his job and lack of sleep will definitely have an influence, so if you just gotta have it more than four times a week, then get him to go to sleep at least by midnight.....and as far as him not "attacking" you as when you both first dated, just remember--there's no hurry for the sex, because you both have the rest of your lives to make love.....and as the years pass, it's actually gonna get better.....
2007-06-24 21:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by toocoolsnoopy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is possible for a man to be too tired. Having sex 4 times a week, be happy you are a lucky one. I heard of worse like once a week to once a month. So 4 times in a week just be happy. If he is so tired then he needs to go to bed at 11pm and not 3am and then he shouldn't be to tired.
2007-06-24 21:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by maverick29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the type of job he has where he does lots of physical work, be thankful enough that you still do it four times a week. Talking to him about how you feel will make him realize and be aware of what's eating you now but you should also understand that our body needs some rest in order to function properly. Or maybe your sex drive is just way over his.
2007-06-24 21:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should pay some more attention to his wants, needs, and feelings. He's only getting about six hours of sleep a night, which could be another reason he's tired. Perhaps you could try getting to bed a bit earlier. Four times a week is not infrequent.
2007-06-24 21:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by treebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 times is good. And you have to realize that his on concrete and that has to make him hurt, I know Where I work we have concrete floors too. It's pretty rough on the legs. He just feels more comfortable with you and must think he can depend on you to understand better. So don't worry about it, all is ok.
2007-06-24 21:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geeez...... Why don't you thank your lucky stars that your getting to it 4 times per week? I mean some are satisfied at 1-2 times every 2-3 weeks! Quite being such a nymph and he'll more than likely surprise you.
2007-06-24 21:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are way, way better than me. Mine just avoids the topic or situation all together but will be on the computer for hours. Give it some time. Then again, if he's UP already tell him you'll do all the work, so he could just lay there and take it.
2007-06-24 21:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
are you complaining about the number of times you get sex?..lsnt 4 times good for you?some couple only get once or twice a week....a man gets tired of course and by the time goes on,you just cant compare anything to it used to be in the past.he works hard and you have to understand it.
2007-06-24 21:15:09 · answer #10 · answered by ann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋