Marriage & Divorce - 21 June 2007

Last night my husband mentioned one of the ladies that he works with wasn't feeling well, that she had to leave work until her heart medication is figured out. He was able to go into the details of her medical problem. We have been married for 24 years and have two wonderful children, But my entire Life I have dealt with medical problems that he shunned off and never said a word to anyone about it. Even when I coded on a surgical table, the people he worked with never knew! So do you think it's unrealistic to let him know I didn't care to hear about a woman I have never met, who has a very minor health condition in comparison? Or should I just pretend I don't feel hurt and continue living as I have. Thinking and doing for others and try to ignore the physical and emotional pain of living with a terminal illness? I lost a brother 11 months ago due to this same heart condition., my husband never mentions it....Should I whine more like the women he works with?

2007-06-21 23:59:46 · 9 answers · asked by Mona Lisa 4

Getting married or just having a boyfriend that want's no obligations however my mom wants me to get married. I don't know how to tell her that we are happy this way with no obligations. What do you think? Thanks in advance!!!

2007-06-21 23:49:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will be divorced next month from a woman that I was married with for 18 years. The reason for the divorce is that she cheated on me and brought the guy to our house while I was away at work. She would even have sex with him in the back seat of our car prior to picking up my girls. I have 3 daughters, 17, 13 and 8. It breaks my heart that they will never have a normal familly again. I had my suspisions about her affair so I put a voice activated recorder in the car. It was then that I found out out she was having sex with this man in my car and I would listen to all their conversations and even having sex. After they had sex the guy would ask my X if he could have sex with my oldest daughter and my wife just giggled. Of course I can't use those recordings in court and she ended up having custody of the kids and I'm left all alone. I want to tell my oldest two so they would know why I detest their mother. What should I do?

2007-06-21 22:36:19 · 16 answers · asked by Donq 1

2007-06-21 22:16:47 · 19 answers · asked by bobby.k 1

My friend has a cousin that lives overseas and cannot move down to the states because of the problems here and the only way that she can get down here is by marriage. Her family paid him $20k to marry her and we know its fake so I don't have to worry about loving her and that crap.

The reason why he took the $20k because he was in some huge debt and now most of the $20k helped his financial problems. Now the thing is that they said that we would have to stay married for at least 2 years before divorce.. He somewhat regrets marrying her because of that 2 year deal even though the money helped him.

What you guys think?

2007-06-21 20:26:48 · 18 answers · asked by supermanpwnss 1

I have been married for about 13 years. My husband was very verbally abusive and sometimes physically and always emotinally. He has recently started tring to be nice because he is now disabled. He gets upset that I am not more loving toward him. How do I get over the past and try and be more loving?

2007-06-21 19:23:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-21 19:02:36 · 12 answers · asked by frankie_the_dago 2

I have been dating for about four to five years my money is not the best but im in love Im thinking about buying a cubic will she be mad and will she get it tested.................

2007-06-21 18:30:14 · 31 answers · asked by CJ 2

my gf, which am attached to now, had a history sleeping with guys, that’s what makes me feel insecure, she slept with 3 of her ex bf’s shortly after they met (after 2 or 3 dates) even before they are officially couple, she slept with 3 guys she used to know while she was a away in another country, by claiming she was drunk (she used to say where she sleeps with them, like one on the beach..etc). Anyway i do love her very much, and i feel like she does to, but some of her sms’s, say "i want to satisfy you sexually, cause i love you very much!) Does that mean she is for lust, or she loves me and have lust for me, I get very confused sometimes, imaging that she might have lust for a guy out of a sudden sleep with him then break-up with me!, she says im different because I dint make a move on the first few dates, till we got officially in relationship we got physical. Any help plz, to stop my confusion and doubts.

2007-06-21 18:23:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I dated my now husband for 5 months and we've been married for 8 months. We are happy and get along for the most time - like normal families do, BUT once a week, ever since we got married, we woudl get into a fight. Regardless how small the issue is, I decide that we are not compatible and I want to break up and leave. I met him right after I broke up with my ex of 3.5 yeas, and I suppose I feel like I had a better connection with my ex and when we fight I keep comparing them. I really want this marriage work. What should I do to stop this idiotic behaviour. I am 42 and I should know better. I know... therapy.. but I need some advice. He really loves me , I love him too. We are very different in our level of education and upbringing and circumstances. I like to read, he woudln't read, he would rather watch TV, I have a grown up child in college, he has an 8 years old. But we do get along and I love talking to him and he is the most loving caring man I have ever met.

2007-06-21 18:14:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been together for 5 years now and we try to have the only sex at least 5 days a week. The only problem is that the more we have sex the bigger my penis gets. We both like to have vigorous sex but she has been complaining about me going to deep and it has been hurting her. what should I do?

2007-06-21 18:08:50 · 7 answers · asked by Jason J 1

Since I have been divorced my ex husband rarely makes child support payments. Most of the time he avoids going to work by claiming an injury and going on medical leave. He travels with his fiancee on several vacations throughout the year and has two automobiles. When he does work his employer sends less than half what the court ordered. I do well financially. Ex wants to start a new business venture. He claims the child support back payments are showing up on his credit report. Now ex will have a hard time getting a loan for business. Last year I waived many thousands of dollars in back child support to keep him out of jail. Now he wants me to waive many more thousands to keep his credit clean and him out of jail. Ex spends very little time with kids and seldomly calls them. I am still very close with his mother and sister and do not want to upset them. Any advice on keeping the peace and avoiding a fight with my ex over child support payments this time?

2007-06-21 18:05:20 · 10 answers · asked by Starting Over 1

prefer to marry a fellow christian?

2007-06-21 18:01:35 · 10 answers · asked by midwestteamsportspack 1

2007-06-21 17:54:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-21 17:49:14 · 11 answers · asked by eclare 2

sometimes wonder if I did not go to work that day ,how my life may be diffrent.

2007-06-21 17:48:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I are turning 20 at the end of this year, and we have been in a five-year relationship, and three of those years are long distance. I see him every 3-5 month, and I am to the point where I don't know if i can miss him any more than I already do. My parents will not agree if I decide to move to his city, while his parents will support us no matter what we decide. My boyfriend insists that we wait because he believes in us.

I really want to know what the majority of the people think of this situation : if I should move to my boyfriend and attend college at the city.
thanks!

2007-06-21 17:43:48 · 14 answers · asked by BlueGirl007 2

I know I need to move on, I know I can do better. I dont understand why Im acting like this. We were together for 4 years, he was a selfish jerk through all of it and I was still there for him. I still cant explain why I cared so much about him..he didnt deserve it. I dont know what to do and my brain is playing games with me. Seriously...I dont think about him at all for awhile and then I have a sudden urge to know whats going on with him. Hes not worth the time, so why do I keep doing this to myself?? Its been a little over a year now and what really pisses me off is that it wasnt quite this bad after we broke up!! I have always thought that my heart is just disappointed because I put everything I had and then some into our relationship, and Im not emotionally content. I have been having the same dreams about him being a caring, loving and thoughful person....even though it was not like that at all. I was in denial for a long time. Ive tried moving on but I compare new to old

2007-06-21 17:35:24 · 9 answers · asked by Miss C 2

2007-06-21 17:34:52 · 12 answers · asked by metalwife 3

when i need an answer and not someones retarded frieking rebuttle to my spelling. i i needed nonsense i would go look up my husband . why when someone sees they don't have viable advice do they not skip to the next question. shame on you i am speaking of since i am still talking

2007-06-21 17:07:27 · 18 answers · asked by lovelyaimeelee 1

It has been two years and I've been in love with two people - my husband and his best friend (who is also a very good friend of mine). TWO YEARS. So day after day for the past two years, I sit around and dwell on my problem. Divorce is not an option. Cheating is obviously NOT something I'd consider. Is happiness possible though? Anyone else ever had a similar experience?

2007-06-21 16:54:46 · 15 answers · asked by SoccerWife 2

2007-06-21 16:52:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi everyone, im hoping someone can help me. my fiance and i have been together for 3 years now and are spose to be getting married in 4mths but im really confused. he works away for 5 days a week so i only see him 2, i have a job waitressing, when he does come home all we do is fight. we have recently moved to a new town for his work and i have left every thing (my awsome job, family and friends). he doesnt like me going out and meeting new people and he expects me to sit at home and do nothing. i feel lost alone and confused i dont know who i am anymore and i feel like running away. i wish things could go back to how they used to be but we have both changed and want different things in life now. i love him and wish he and we could go back to how we used to be before he got this great paying job. i have now realised that money cant buy happyness, can someone help me please ??? :-(

2007-06-21 16:50:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I were fighting in the garage and he said "see that can of gas right there? Right now I could pour it on top of you and light a match, and laugh while I watch you burn!" I need a good come back if he ever says that again to me. Also any advice about this rotten marriage.

2007-06-21 16:35:39 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

After 8 years of marriage, you'd think a man would have matured and come to understand marriage. Every year for special occassions,i.e. birthdays,valentines,christmas and anniversary, I have gotten my husband gift after gift..Great ones by the way. I have yet to get anything. I don't ask him what he wants..I know him well enough to get things he has always wanted or frequently talks about. Another issue is..we have 3 kids and 1 on the way...I work from home(really I do) and he works full time too. When he comes home he's too tired to do anything with his kids, but when the guys call..he's quick to hit the streets. He has constant female friends on the side...but if I even mention a guy from the store making conversation...he's quick to call names and make an issue of it....What is the deal?

2007-06-21 16:14:27 · 22 answers · asked by lafy tafy 2

I am in lust with this Virgo man his birthday is September 22 1979. My birthday is September 8 1980. I really adore this man but, he doesn't feel the same way for me, that I feel for him. We have only had sex 2 times and we have been together 6 times. He waited a whole year until I wasn't married anymore for him to talk to me again. I am willing to do anything to keep this man in my life because it feels like heavenly bliss when we are together, Me being a adult I have never dated a Virgo do to the fact I know myself, so I was always scared. I told him how I really felt and he ran away from me. I need help in getting him back. Because we both write poetry I send him a poem maybe once out of the week he doesn't respond, he works a lot and long hours I think he has a girlfriend, I will myself in his dreams just to see him. I got it bad like Usher said, When I wake up, go to sleep, eat, drink, do anything all I see is him. Please help me and please don't say move on. I would if I could

2007-06-21 15:57:18 · 11 answers · asked by Lavender Diamond 2

i have two kids and been married for 8 years now.my hubby has two jobs night as a musician and day managing a music store.i am a stay home mom since the first baby.i was earning very well during my working days.for the past few years i have been very bored with my life.we used to have many fights and argument to the extend i decided to end the marriage but cos of the my children i hang on till today. we don't fight or argue anymore in fact i tried to make up and changed any of my weak points and asked him to compromise too but onlly 10%. obviously our love and sex life had decreased , but i tend to get used to it by now..........probaly i don't care anymore.i have no one to help to take care of my kids so i could find a job.to leave fully to a maid *** nanny with the kids is unbearable so means impossible for me to get a job. my point is yet i am so bored with my life now but theres nothing i could do not untill the kids are grown. i am sad and i need to hear your opinion

2007-06-21 15:48:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

she e-mail.s me alot on her problems and my neverves are shacky she could be any were in the world what do i do.?

2007-06-21 15:47:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-21 15:42:32 · 31 answers · asked by ncgirl 3

I need some advice. I have been married to my wife for 5 years now. We haven't exactly had the best relationship but seem to have managed for the most part. I am a soldier and have been deployed for 2 years of the 5 (and deployed right now too) After a huge fight with my wife and her parents, I went out with every intention to drive my car off a cliff. My wife tried to talk me out of it but to no avail. She then had her friend (who I was somewhat attracted to) call me and she managed to calm me down. I met her the next day at a cafe and the situation burst into chaos. Long story short. Me and her friend have fallen for each other and really want to be together. But at the same time I still care for my wife. I realise she isn't a bad person, she's just not the right person. How do I break it to her and what should I do? The other woman wants me to end it soon but I don't want a disaster! (more than what has already happened that is). Please help me!!

2007-06-21 15:34:50 · 11 answers · asked by fiestacarsrule 3