Whats better?

Question

Getting married or just having a boyfriend that want's no obligations however my mom wants me to get married. I don't know how to tell her that we are happy this way with no obligations. What do you think? Thanks in advance!!!

Answer 1

I think its better to have no obligations. The only reason to get married is for religous reasons in my book.

Answer 2

I love being married!

Although I asked my mom, (she's a widow) if she would ever marry again and she said no because she likes doing her own thing and she doesn't want to answer to anyone. She likes that she only has to cook for herself....etc.

Personally tho, I love having the company of my partner, someone to share good times with and make babies with, and talk about the future with. I love having the company of watching a movie together and I love cooking for him. I think being married is the best thing in the world if you show appreciation for eachother and compromise with eachother.

I mean, sure you can do these things without being married...but if you are married you have made a committment to be with eachother for better and for worse. If you not married, this guy could leave at any time. Well, that isn't to say that it can't happen while your married...but it's just making the vowel to be with eachother forever. It's great.

Answer 3

If you are happy with the situation the way it is, then just tell your mom that. You should never get married just because your mom thinks you should. Marriage is an enormous amount of work and that's if you really want to be married.

Answer 4

If you guys are happy the way your relationship is than that is all that matters. You do not really even have to explain your choice to your mom but if you want to, just tell her that you and your other half are very happy the way things are and that you do not want to get married. After my grandmother got divorced, she starting dating a wonderful man and they have been together 30 years and they are not married and do not want to be married. They are very happy the way their relationship is.

Answer 5

You should do what is going to make you happy. It is your life and not your mothers. If you rush into to marriage right now you might regret it later on and blame your mother for having talked you into it. You and your boyfriend should wait awhile before making that decision together. Whether or not you are living in the same house or in separate places. For the first two years together it will be like a honey moon period; then after that if your still together there is a greater chance that the two of you will be together for a longer period of time. My bf/husband and I have been together for 18 years now and during that time his family wanted us to rush into marriage. We are both happy together; and we have shared our up and downs over the years. We learned how to work together and to take the time to cool off and talk about things that made each of us upset. If you and your bf can work together you both can make it last.

Answer 6

It gets old after awhile. I did it for 12 years. When I asked if we were ever going to get married, he said, "No, because I want my kids (from his previous marriage) to get everything when I die." The whole time I lived with him, he made excuses about every job I had, and wanted me to quit. When I left, I had no furniture or anything. He said it was all his because he was the only one working. That, after I repainted every room in the house (including the 12' high ceilings), landscaped the yard, washed, cooked, cleaned, decorated the whole house, did all of the shopping, including the furniture, took care of him when he was ill, took care of him when he got drunk, put up with him beating me for the first 2 years, and verbally abusing me, when he got drunk, for 12, managed his business, and did all of the books.

Right now, if we had gotten married, I would have walked out with half of everything. I am struggling in a job that doesn't pay enough, have used furniture, and can barely afford my bills.

If he had died, I would have had nothing to show for those twelve years of my life! I would not have even had a home to live in.

Get married, if for no other reason but security. Just knowing half of everything belongs to you is worth it.

Answer 7

Marriage is called a "sacrament" for a reason - when you enter marriage, you are taking holy vows, before God and family to BE obligated to each other.

NO ONE can force you to take vows. Getting married without understanding that it is an official consecration guarentees the failure of your marriage.

If you two do not wish to be obligated to each other, then do not take vows. Marriage changes EVERYTHING - (even if you think it won't) --- so please, don't do it!

Answer 8

You and your boyfriend go according to the way you feel. Tell your mother that might happen someday, but you and your boyfriend will make that decision. You mother should know that.

Marriage is so important, because that is a commitment to spend the rest of your life till death do you part with someone. That is your life! Treat marriage with alot of respect. That is none of your mother's business.

Do not listen to your mother!

Answer 9

..getting married is not a joke..so better take time to think about this matter .don't make your mother decision your life because it is not her who get into with that situation..and another thing, ask her opinion about this and also explain to her what is your point.. but if you think that he is really the one your looking for then, go ahead,

Answer 10

For me marriage was the way to go, but if you are both happy in a defacto relationship stick with it regardless what other people think.