2007-06-21 17:34:52 · 12 answers · asked by metalwife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I actually just separated from my husband today and we are going to be living in the same house because I work during the day and he works at night so he watches the kids in the house all day long and i watch them all night long. He sleeps on the couch and i sleep in the bed. We are definatly separated emotionally but not legally. We just need a break from each other to find out why what about ourselves is causing so much trouble in our marriage. We are actually going to see a marriage counselor to see if we can fix our relationship before we head for the big "D" Living together is though extremly difficult especially with being a sexual being. I am just afraid that we might get sick of not being sexually pleased that we will actually have sex with each other just to do it and get absolutly no where in the process of fixing our relationship. And obviously having sex with someone else is completely out of the picture when you still live together.
2007-06-21 17:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible.
We were separated for 3 years. Same house, same everything except sleeping arrangements.
When you are married for many years, things change. Lives are involved. With us it was 6 kids, properties, extended families, etc. The longer you're married, the more your lives are entwined. It's not easy to unravel things. You both work so hard to have what you have and then in one divorce, everything is gone. I thank God that we had the sense to go to counseling, and continue to respect each other for our children's sake during our separation. We temporarily placed our children as our top priority and it worked for us. Now we know that he and I are number one and our children will eventually grow up and leave. 3 are now gone and have 3 left.
I love my husband and will look forward to growing older with him. I can see us rocking in our chairs sitting on the porch....
2007-06-22 04:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents got a divorce when I was 12 years old.They remained living in the same house together, after there divorce.They were both too stubborn to sell the house.They fought like cats and dogs for years.I am now 35,and they are still divorced,and living in the same home.They do not fight anymore.Thank goodness!
2007-06-22 01:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Gin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of... my husband and I are not legally separated but we are emotionally. We lived together and slept in the same bed. It was a separationg because we did nothing as a couple and didn't have sex. It makes it hard to do that and live together, but it can happen.
2007-06-22 00:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by A3Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. We lived together for 8 months AFTER the divorce. (For the kids sake) then it got to the point where it was just like we were married but we slept in different beds and he came and went as he pleased. I finally got tired of catering to him and told him I was moving out and it was time for him to do it alone. Oddly enough we haven't gotten along since.
2007-06-22 11:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were under full blown divorce, but, he would NOT leave...the kids and I begged him to go etc, but, he only wanted the property so WE left...lol Yes, I guess it can happen, but, this "separated" stance is insane in my opinion...you either poop or get off the pot, eh? lol Being separated just means you are married and want to explore your options..lol Either file for divorce, go to counseling, or stop looking for people online to feel sorry for you ...ugh! lol
2007-06-22 00:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by yooperhoney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we did for years. We actually simply grew apart and since we had different schedules, it worked out. I had one room and he had another. However his alcoholism got him thrown out after his 6th DWI. He's sober 3yrs now and living in another state. We are both happier.
2007-06-22 01:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband's friend divorced his wife but is allowing her to live in his house until their daughter turns 18. so far it's working out ok, but i wonder how it will change when one of them starts dating. in my opinion, i think it would start to get wierd and feelings would get hurt very easily.
2007-06-22 01:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am doing that right now. Financially we need to "stay together" for awhile. I don't date but he does and that does hurt.
2007-06-22 02:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes sometime they do because of the kids, property, financial.thats not uncommon.
2007-06-22 00:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by na_junkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋