What would you do if this was your dad...?

Question

Ok. I am 21 and still live at home with my parents. I have had a couple of relationships but nothing ever serious. Well my dad and mom have recently started to get a little worried about me. Well long story short my dad has said he is on the look out for that special someone in my life. Even tho I have told him to back off he wont. He has met this guy he works with and has told him all about me and now is trying to set us up. GRRR... what would you do and how should I handle this? I mean he is my daddy for goodness sake and I am still daddy's little girl...or at least I was.

Answer 1

do you hear what your saying here? do you realize how lucky and blessed you are to have a dad who cares so much like your dad that he has taken the time to get invloved to find you someone he thinks would be good enough for you to be with. thats so great i mean the worst that can happen is u wont like the guy he introduces u to and it dont work out then just move and but atleast your dad wants the best for you. maybe he saw something in the other guys u were with and didnt think they were good enough for u. he truly loves u dear thats why he only wants the best for his princess. instead of getting angry try to be thankful instead that he is involved in ur life. dont take his help for granted because he could easily be gone before u know it then ur gonna wish after he is gone that u would have appreciated him more. are parents must be respected and honered because there not always going to be here to take care of you so enjoy it now and goodluck

Answer 2

As a man I can tell you that there is no was in hell I would ever try to set my daughter up with a guy. I can't even think about my daughter with a man let alone trying to pick the guy she should sleep with. If he is that interested in your personal life maybe you should give him what he is asking for. Go out with the guy, sleep with him and make sure he tells all the other guys at work about how great it was doing daddies little girl. Lets see how daddy likes inter fearing after that.

Answer 3

Have a calm serious talk with your mom and dad and find out what the main issue is. Are they worried you won't find someone, or are they worried that if you don't find someone, you won't ever move out on your own? Either way, it sounds like they're trying to be helpful. You need to let them know straightforward but respectfully that you do not need or want them to find you your "someone" but that you appreciate their concern. If that doesn't work, you might consider moving out on your own if you are able to. You show maturity by giving this serious thought and asking for advice before acting. A lifelong relationship should never be rushed into even though your parents mean well. Good luck.

Answer 4

My daughter is 21 and just finished college. She is still my little girl and I DO NOT think she is ready to be anyone's wife or mother, no matter how good that guy is. She is smart academically and will go further. I was 31 and her mom 26 when we got married so we do not see 21 as "out of time".

If you are not in college, you should be. Tell your father that you are not ready to be anyone's wife or have babies. If your father doesn't believe in your education or career, you have to come up with something that amounts to you making him proud. And that when you are ready, you'll be sure to seek his assessment of the guy.

You need to pursue a career with a high education. Otherwise, you should have an idea what kind of husband you can have right now.

Answer 5

Well did you ever think that maybe they just want you to move out. I mean their both ready to start living life at new level but your still there. They love you but you need to get out. Like 3 years ago. Your tieing them to the house when they want to go have a little fun. They rasied you already and now it's time you go. Spread those wings and fly. Then you won't have to worry about them setting you up on dates. I'd be out trying to find my kids dream guy too if I were ready for them to move out.

Answer 6

I doubt your dad is anxious to get you married...he probably just likes this guy a whole lot and that's why he started talking about finding someone special. If he sounds interesting, it wouldn't hurt to meet him. I met a really cool guy through his dad who i work with....we ended up just being friends but it was worth it :) Otherwise, the only way to get your parents to stop trying to rule your life is to move out and start your own. Good luck!

Answer 7

he is just trying to look out for you. But he shouldn't parents should never attempt to setup there kids relationships. You need to sit him down and get his undivided attention and make sure he knows you are serious and tell him you will find your own guy. I am a father of a Young lady about your age and i would never attempt to involve myself with her relationships its dangerous.

Answer 8

If this is my dad, i will be very blessed, I lost my dad at a very young age, you should treasure and cherish yourself to have a good mom and dad, not all peoples are blessed with such good parents.

It it rite for parent to concern over your future but never to control your freedom of associate. Talk to them that you have growth up and thanks them greatfully for bringing you up, be filial piety to your parent, all you need is their advices and guidance as adult life. As for the date with your daddy's colleague, no harm going and make friend, who knows, you may like him.

Answer 9

it seems as if your dad is taking over YOUR life. YOU need to take control. say that you'll find YOUR guy when you feel right. If your dad really loves you he'll understand. you can still be your daddy's little girl. i would tell my dad up front that he is taking over my life.

Answer 10

Tell daddy to butt out. Was one of the stipulations for living at home is for him to find you a mate? Do not go out with this guy or any guy unless you are interested. BE STRONG STAND FIRM!