had sex until they were married. I thought that was admirable. I am sure a large percentage of married couples wish that was true of them. Both the man and woman went on to say that they never even kissed until their wedding day. Neither the boy or girl had ever kissed a person until their married day. Now that is true abstenance. You say you can't prevent teenage pregnancies and teenage abortions? There are some out there that will say you are wrong because they defied the odds and held out even to the point of no kissing. I wish I had waited until my wedding day before I kissed and married a good christian girl the first time I got married. Maybe it wouldn't have taken me 2 marriages to finally get it right. What are your thoughts on this abstenance and no kissing?
2007-06-23 05:18:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kissing is fine, but don't let it get to the point where you can't control yourselves and it leads to sex! I don't believe in premarital sex. I was a virgin when I got married and stayed married to my husband for 52 years, until he died in 2002. We have 7 children, 19 grandchildren and 12 great grandchildren. Marriage is for better or worse and if you stick by your vows, you can make your marriage work!
2007-06-23 05:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Gerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that's really beautiful that they waited for each other like that. It's very admirable, and definately the picture of what a real Christian relationship should be.
When my husband and I met, neither of us were saved people. We met, and quickly moved in together. I was 19 and he was 23, and neither of us were virgins. We lived together for about 6 months before we got married, and as you can imagine.. we were already "sleeping together" at that time.
When we got married, it was really nice, because we wanted to be married. But as far as our relationship was concerned.. nothing was different. All the "new" things that are supposed to come with marriage.. we were already doing. All that changed was my last name.
That was a little over 6 years ago. We have a wonderful marriage, and a precious 4 year old son. We love each other as much today as we did the day we got married.
Looking back, while I don't at all regret getting married.. I do regret the way we did it. But at the same time, what else would anyone expect from two lost souls that were letting their emotions and desires lead them. Like I said, I don't regret the decision to marry my husband, not at all.. It's just that now, as a Christian.. I understand what God intends for a relationship to be like... and it's definately not the way we went about things.
I sometimes think about how it would have been so nice to be able to share everything with my husband.. my first kiss, etc.. but I couldn't do that, and neither could he. We had already shared that part of ourselved with others.. and I do regret that, even if it's something I don't often talk about.
I think that people should definately abstain from having sex, until they are married. A part of me is torn on the kissing issue.. but at the same time, it's all that "innocent kissing" that often leads to more (usually sex). I think it's important for our young people (guys and girls, alike) to really cherish their purity.
2007-06-23 06:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think abstinence is a great way to respect your spouse and God. I didn't do it and maybe i would have avoided several headaches myself.
Although, it does not guaranteed that your marriage will last forever, it is certainly a better start than what most people have.
The only way a marriage will work is if you both have God in your life, i once heard from my pastor that a marriage is a 3 cord bond. you, your spouse , and God. Nothing can break it.
2007-06-23 05:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some great thoughts im also divorced and it hurts just thinking about it.i wish i had waited till i was married until i had sex,my wife did she gave me the ultimate gift.I miss her very much.I dont think theres anything wrong with a kiss as long as its a peck and not one of those take me to bed kind.But as far as the sex goes yeah i wish i could have given my ex wife the same gift she gave me.Id do alot of things over again as a matter of fact.one i would still be married to her.
2007-06-23 05:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by catfishhunter 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
"What are your thoughts on this abstinence and no kissing?"
Frankly, I think it is stupid. I think it is unrealistic. I think it is very unwise. I'm not saying people should have sex willy nilly prior to marriage, but to go into marriage without even a HINT if your sexually compatible is one of the POOREST choices I think a couple could make.
My husband and I didn't have sex prior to marriage. I had had sex in other relationships, but my husband wanted to wait until marriage. I respected him so we waited. However, we had many intimate moments that involved much kissing and cuddling. I could tell from those moments that we would be successful lovers.
These kids who got married don't even have that. They are in for a rough ride. And I think that it is an unnecessary stress to put on a new marriage.
2007-06-23 05:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Abstinence is Great! How else can you COMPLETELY be sure you won't get an STD or become a parent before you're ready. I wish I had listened to my family growing up. (Not to say that i'm not happily married now). I plan to teach abstinence to my children when they're old enough.
2007-06-23 05:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's all a myth. Read some real history about real people, you'll see that regular stuff (non abstinance) has been happening for centuries!
Your problem started when you tuned into Christian radio (the brain-wash network).
2007-06-23 05:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
God says sex is only for married people. If you want to know all about it read the Holy Bible. Get a New Living translation which is written in plain modern English. Read it for yourself.
2007-06-23 05:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think abstaining from sex until marriage is great, however I think relationships that will form quality marriages are also based on a bit of passion. I don't think passion can be fully felt without being able to not only show your love through emotions but being able to physically connect as well.
2007-06-23 05:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I agree about waiting. It's a precious gift you can give to one another. I absolutely love seeing young people take the Purity Pledge.
2007-06-23 05:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by LadyG 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋