Like Match.com or Eharmony.com? Do you know many people who did? Do you think it really works well?
2007-06-23 02:36:28 · 14 answers · asked by Smiley 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, 3 years married. Have a friend who is married 2+ years who met online also.
It works but you will still have to kiss a lot of frogs. There are phony people online, just like the ones you meet elsewhere. It just a way to meet more people.
2007-06-23 09:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used both Match and E-harmony for a couple years off and on. As a man, it was a lot of work and patience. I got several dates -- some even resulted in short relationships. But I became increasingly jaded by people's attitudes and how they misrepresent themselves.
The thing is, people don't necessarily mean to misrepresent themselves, but there are lots of reasons that words and pictures just don't do people justice. People usually don't even know themselves well enough to describe themselves accurately. That problem gets better with age, but not completely. We all have skewed perspectives of ourselves.
I met my wife in the "real" world -- I knew she was in my community, and I summoned up the courage to chat her up at a festival. That brief but real interaction, while introducing the risk of face-to-face rejection, gave me 100 times more information about her (and visa-versa) than I could have ever gotten from a questionable profile description. It worked out -- she gave me her number, and we had more dates. A year later, we married. Three years later, we look back and smile about how we met -- under the sun and the trees, romantically, the way people have been doing it for hundreds of years. There's that sense of cosmic fate, and you could never get that from the cold, harsh judgemental world of screening profiles. There's something terribly artificial about it, and if that's how the relationship starts, whose to say how real the future will be.
My advice? Get out there in life -- network with friends and family. Get involved in your community. Volunteer. Host parties. Pursue your own passions, and STEP AWAY FROM THE COMPUTER! That's how you'll find the right person, and they will find you.
2007-06-23 10:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by fluvial_shell 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. Not me. I met my husband at a drunken sorority party. He was the only one, besides me, who wasn't disgustingly drunk. It's lasted 23 years so far. Looks good.
My best friend met her fiance. She was in a "live-in" fiance/baby-mama relationship for 20 years where the guy never married her and left her as soon as their last child hit 18 (that day). Within 3 months he married someone else.
She met this new guy on match.com. I HOPE it works out. They got engaged awfully fast (they'd only met in person 3 times) and now are getting married in a few months. He lives about 600 miles away from her so she doesn't see him very often. I AM very nervous about it.
2007-06-23 09:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend met his soon to be ex-wife at match.com She faked entirely who she really was during courtship. Her true colors started to come out once they were married. Weight issues, depression you name it.... I say meet somebody online and be friends over 5 to 7 months to test their determination and their true identity. Many people use online dating to falsely market themselves as something they are not.
2007-06-23 09:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Deckard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my hubby in a chat room. We talked for 3 yrs before I would meet him. Now we have been married almost 4yrs and our marriage has been alittle rocky but is doing awsome so far. I dont regret it, we have a 3yr old also. If you have time to get to know the person first and fall for their personality thats super go for it!!
2007-06-23 11:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by koooolbabe_20000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my boyfriend online. It wasn't a dating service, more like a meet new people type service. Well anyway, we now live together. I don't know of anyone else who has tried, however, it worked for us.
2007-06-23 09:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by My Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met mine in a chat room. We just had a similar sense of humor...then we IM'ed, then cell phone, then webcam AND cell, then we met, then he moved 700 miles to be with me.
I would be wary of the dating sites...you need to make sure you get to know someone thoroughly before even meeting.
Good luck--there really are great single people out there!
2007-06-23 10:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me I caught mine fishing off the company pier ;-)
However I do have at least 3 friends who are married to men they met on Match and Eharmony.com.
Good luck!
2007-06-23 09:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not me, but close friends met and married thru Match.com.
2007-06-23 09:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u cat find 1 next to u the u have to go online dating best thig u ca do
2007-06-23 09:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by Hadoola 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋