hey... i have been married for about 6 months now, almost 7 and me and my husband really do not get along. We have a 4 month old baby. and we just get into little arguments like for instance because he is always hiding things from me. I really think that he is cheating on me. Just today i was going through his wallet, cause i wanted to see how much money he had in there, and then he took the wallet away and said "OMG! no you can not look in my wallet!!!!!" and he wont let me in the spare bed room that he is always in playing on his computer. plus, i am not allowed to look in his van. So please tell me, what do you think is he cheating on me? i have been trying to be the best wife that i can. and i would never cheat on him. so should i just divorce him and get a better daddy for my child?
2007-06-23 18:32:50 · 10 answers · asked by hotty 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you already know the answer and you are now in the stage of "amassing evidence" to support your conclusion of infidelity. His behavior does strike me as secretive, and not in the keeping-your-birthday-gift-secret kind of way. Even if he isn't cheating, you and he clearly have trust issues. Respecting one another's privacy is one thing, but banning your partner from a room and car is a huge red flag
2007-06-23 18:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Stacey I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol not to be rude but man you sure gotten yourself into a mess. Now like so many others that have gone through your stiuation. No one really understands that just becuase your in love and been together that you know each others feelings or secrets or badhabits. The only way to find that out is the live with each other for a year and see how you both go about your days together will you better understand what marriage will be like. But you know marriage is just another word for a couple. Let me give you some advice in order to have a succesfull marriage there is three words that I hold true with my marrige that is communication, honesty, and trust. Can you talk with each other to solve issues with out fighting? No then your husband is a loser. Can he give you an honest face or answer when you talk? No then your husband is a losserr? Can you truely trust your husband like before you both got hitched? No then your husband is the worst LOSSSSERRR IN THE WORLD. Lol listen put a smile on get a divorce get him for everthing his got and move on with your life. A person like your husband is a person that will make your life a living hell and that feeling and hatred will show on how you raise your child. You will become a bitter person and lose yourselve in depression so please move on before it gets worse. Divorce is but a small price to pay your happiness with you and your child is all that matters now.
2007-06-23 18:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so suspicious. He's probably like that because you make him like that. He probably hides everything because you pick it a part trying to find something, Same goes for his van and computer. You are probably the cause of the problem. You don't want to give him any privacy. You weren't going through his wallet looking for money, you were looking for phone numbers. You were looking for strange hairs in his van and websites he visits on his computer. If you leave him and find another man it's going to be the same thing. Give the man some privacy, he did marry you didn't he. Lots of women would like to be in your place right now with their baby. You need to seek counseling for your problem.
2007-06-23 18:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tom Thumb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a better daddy for your child? If you divorced, he would still be your child's daddy. Why are you going into his wallet? Have you asked him if he is cheating? He may be but have you asked? You need to sit down with him and talk it out otherwise you are doomed to fail. Remember that you have a baby together and NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS you will still have a child together...
2007-06-23 18:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him be open with you. You can't make yourself trust him when he's not being open with you. So unless the two of you can make some compromises then the marriage will never work. And most of the time when you suspect somone one cheating they are. Find out, use your head and not your heart and make your own life and the life of your child a good one and don't depend on a manl.
2007-06-23 18:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think anyone would be pissed that you were snooping in their wallet. You cant be searching for stuff and act surprised when they find out. Either be more careful when snooping around or find someone else who shares everything with you.
2007-06-23 18:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't let you!!!!???? Um, I think I would just go ahead and look in what ever I wanted to. If he has nothing to hide, then he would not mind you looking, so it is pretty obvious that he is hiding something, and I would search to find out what it is.
2007-06-23 18:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to fix your relationship. It's clearly not a good one. If you can't fix it, then get a divorce. You'll both be miserable like this and should change something ASAP.
2007-06-23 18:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by DrRocco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT AND GET OUT NOW
2007-06-23 18:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by bmac 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If that is what you want to do*... Do it*...
2007-06-24 04:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋