well the thing is this relationship is quite tough when i say that u are married to a complete dog or jerk i should say how to avoid him and get rid of him or should one keep him and try to change him if he would .
2007-06-23 18:51:10 · 20 answers · asked by Harkamal S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you love someone you do not cheat on them, for any reason
2007-06-23 20:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sicily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's be realistic about your situation. First off you can't change anyone but yourself. If he feels he has the right to disrespect you, destroy your trust in him and cheat on you then he has some major problems. Change can only occur when a person has a desire to change. Sometimes a person can be influenced which can bring about change but the actual change never occurs unless they do the work themselves.
Often people feel that they love a person when in reality they are just too scared to even contemplating being on their own. This might be for emotional reasons, financial or even because of the kids. Take your pick. Secondly loving someone is about commitment to another person by showing affection, trust, honesty, communicating, problem solving and compromising together. Selfish and down right crappy behavior is not a sign of love it's a sign of manipulation. Everyone should strive to be in a healthy relationship where the feelings of love and affection are given honestly. It's your choice stay and be miserable because of his bad behavior and your choice to stay or move on and find someone you can have a trusting relationship with.
2007-06-24 02:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, LEAVE HIM HONEY! seriously, you definitely don't deserve to take any ********. if a guy is dumb enough to cheat on someone he loves, then thats not love hes probably pure ignorant.
take it from a divorced and recently engaged woman
1.) Find out if he really is cheating
2.) If he is, don't let him know you know, take some of that money he makes and use it to spoil yourself.
3.) Get a complete makeover to make yourself feel better.
4.) As sad as you may be, go out with some single friends and go to the bar or club and dance and drink your problems away.
5.) Male-strip bars with a few friends always cheer a woman up.
6.) If nothing changes with your hubby in less than a month and you're still sad about it. LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY!
trust me, I do not regret getting a divorce, because I wouldn't have found a man who treats me waay better than my exhusband would ever treat me. If your still unhappy and your with him, leave him, and maybe a better man will come your way. ok, take care and be aware hon.
2007-06-24 02:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kina Kalinakailani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's sad when we got stuck in this kind of relationship huh? it's always easy to say we get rid of them but at the end of the day we find ourselves clinging on with the hope that he will change. in fact, that's one of the vows you made when you married him -- through worst times right? and this is one of the trials that only you and your principles can dictate what to do next. either you seek all the gods in heaven and pray that someday he will be enlightened and change for the better. instead,do the other way around -- seek and pray that you will be the one to be enlightened to know whether you should stay or go. believe in the power of karma, it will come around no matter if you don't will it. just do the right thing and never allow anyone to step on you as a person, more so, never allow this situation to lose yourself and your self esteem and self respect along the way.
2007-06-24 02:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by pinkdot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be in love with him but if he is cheating how can you say he loves you? He has you at home playing wife and he has whoever he wants whenever he wants them. Not much motivation for him to change. And on top of this he is selfish too?! Hmmmm, I think this is a no-brainer.
2007-06-24 02:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Colleen G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't change. There is no love between you. Maybe from your end, but not from his. If he can't respect you enough to even stay faithful, then why bother? Don't you want a man you will give you everything you wanted and more? A man that will take care of your feelings? A man that will give you more joy than pain? You should want that for yourself. You deserve it.
2007-06-24 02:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by Erin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is not love. Love does not hurt like that. Cheating is a gross thing in a marriage. That means that there is never complete honesty and trust. There will aways be doubts and acussations in the future.
2007-06-24 02:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the love does not go away this is your husband but you have to decide when you draw the line,and once he crosses it then go your seperate ways it always hard to leave a man you love but once you start losing your own happiness and have to keep on questioning the relationsip then it might be time to go.
2007-06-24 02:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by MO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The love is only one sided.....he does not love you if he cheats on you!!!!! You cannot change him nor can you fix him, he can only change himself. If he really loves you then he would have never hurt you by cheating on you....so there is no way that he can truly love you.
2007-06-24 02:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats on you and is selfish then he don't love you. You should find someone better.
2007-06-24 01:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋