Well the B/F left for his vacation with his kids. I was told the reason my son and I were not invited was cost. I am trying to be positive about all of this......but keep feeling that it is time to leave him. WHY? Well as said before we have traveled as a family for 3 yrs, This trip was daughters High School grad trip. My11yr old still can't understand why we didn't go and feelings are hurt. B/F never gave me option to pay for myself.....knows my finances.
Money is issue. B/F spends like crazy on self and kids, I struggle with bills. In defense we dine out and go to concerts etc....he pays, also have had 2 vacations with both families that he paid. Its just that after 3.5 years our financial differences are hard to deal with for my son and I. His kids go to camp...mine don't, I have no health insurance drive old car etc. Not to be selfish but daughteralso recieved laptop needed for college for grad gift. Again am I out of line.......I'm feeling the writing is on the wall ..time to go
2007-06-23 18:58:06 · 17 answers · asked by haroldhark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he is rubbing it in on you that he has more money than you do. Leave him. Tell him to find a woman that can afford to go places with him and you will find a man that will take you with him.
2007-06-23 19:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that comes to my mind is that you said this trip was bf's daughter's HS Grad trip. It's my guess he may have felt it would be uncomfortable for the both of you (and your child) to be there with all of his ex-in-laws, etc. He has an obligation to pay for his children and of course take care of himself.
Why not sit down with your bf and tell him that your feelings were hurt. See what he has to say. Maybe you give the impression in a bad situation that everything is "okay" and to go ahead and have fun. That's great, but only if you mean that. You may be pleasantly surprized when he tells you what he was thinking.
2007-06-23 19:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure what your back story is on this but i married a man with children and we came across financial issues due to how much he was spending on them in addition to the child support check. I don't know...not taking you on vacation. Is money really the issue or maybe hos kids don't want to be with you or your son. I think if he really loves you and money was and issue he would choose a less expensive route and take you along. If your son is being affected by this you need to get out. think of him first and you can also show your son you are willing to fight for someone to treat him the way he deserves to be treated.
2007-06-23 19:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be a Christian without proving the existence of the Creator to yourself? I am an Echatologist. And I am a Christian. I am concerned about proving the existence of God to myself. But have never been moved to become involved in proving Christianity by His existence......... because all I have to do is look around me...... Christianity is an undeniable reality. Not a very pretty one granted....... (its conduct would be a subject for a different time) I can see the merit of your question challenging the existence of a Christian God....... I am not following the logic...... unless God's existence for some reason marks a particlar brand of Christianity as be the only true one???? And that logic would be silly. So after reading the question's added details again and again this is what I think you are saying..... "Why do Christians make God into a Christian God." when there are so many other "flavors" of God out there? Because they believe they understand correctly who He is?? My guess. Michelle
2016-05-18 23:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your just friends? if you think of leaving him. I do think he looks after you by telling you to stay and not spend your money, but he doesnt love you otherwise he would pay for you to come (I define that I love some one if I spend money on them). so I think your probably really good friends.
Just because you dont have money doesnt mean you cant have fun and go out though... there are so many free or almost free things you can do. (depends a bit where you live) like recordings of tv shows etc.
So make sure your not asuming anything, ask him straight up how he thinks the relationship is going and if he thinks more of you as a friend then as a girl friend...
2007-06-23 19:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by Larry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, sounds like you're wasting good years of your life with someone that doesn't give a rats asss about you and your financial difficulties. Helping you with them aren't his obligation but if he loves you then he would help out, at least so you can go on vacation and enjoy fun times together. Do you feel like he's never going to want to marry you and give you what you deserve? You can't get these years back. Good luck
2007-06-23 19:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Hey-man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you love him, talk to him about it. Explain how you feel. You can't be jealous of money he spends on his children, and unless your child is his, he is not legally bound to pay for you child, the father of your child is. As for him paying your expenses, that is something that should have been worked out prior to a relationship. Don't fault him for what he spends on his own children and not on yours. Be grateful for what he does for your own child. But, it sounds like your problems are much bigger than just the finances. I would try counseling with him if talking to him about it calmly doesn't work. If counseling is refused, or doesn't work and you are already supporting yourself, then perhaps it is time to move on to greener pastures. But, if you love him, try to resolve the issues first.
2007-06-23 19:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by Lee B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if you have been together for this long then he should be able to offer you assistance but again you cant expect him to fully support you he probably feels like since you all are not married there is no reasonfor him to pay your way fully. i personally would walk away because most men at this point feel they should contribute 100 percent meaning that even though you dont make as much as he does it shouldnt matter who pays for what as long as you both work
2007-06-23 19:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by mmedina96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a man who will help you out. Not one that only spends money on himself and his kids.
2007-06-23 19:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right!
Either you marry and all income is shared equally, or you end the relationship and get on with your life!
2007-06-23 19:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by Donna G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋