This is probably the most important decission of your life. So don't make a stupid decission, then divorce later. Choose your spouse wisely. They should have the same views,dreams and wants as yours. Work things out together, should not be one- sided. If your self-centered, don't get married. Be responsible for your actions and choices, good or bad. Don't point fingers or nag, it'll only make things worse. Don't go into marriage to change your spouse, they have to want to change themselves. If you care to comment, please do.
2007-06-19 20:35:56 · 12 answers · asked by Bone Daddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-06-27 11:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a question here somewhere or just your views on successful marriage? While your thoughts are ideal, life seldom is! Life and marriage/relationships are give and take --sometimes you give, sometimes your partner gives. Sometimes you take and so does your partner. It's all about compromise, committment and putting your partners feelings first as long as you don't lose your self-respect and identity in doing so. There have been countless books written on the subject, and this is a topic that could be discussed for hours on end.
2007-06-27 14:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by TexasDolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 100 percent right. You could feel your making the right decision but the fact of the matter is that people change. There is always one person in the relationship, who tries to get over on the other. I still haven't seen a relationship in which this doesn't happen. Of course, the person taking advantage of his/her mate will try to make the other party feel that they are the guilty ones.
2007-06-27 19:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rafa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you. the only problem is that some people lie about who they really are until they are married. then they say that it's their spouses fault they "changed" when in reality that's how they were all along. i didn't go through this, but i know someone who did. this person dated their spouse in high school, then again later in college. they eventually got together as boyfriend and girlfriend and then married. when they were boyfriend girlfriend, they went everywhere together. then, literally like 2 weeks after getting married, he stopped taking her out with him. they've been married for years now and he thinks she's supposed to stay home with the kids and take care of him. my friend is not very happy, but she refuses to admit it. my hubby changed, but it wasn't because i nagged him about anything. before we got married he used to spend spend spend. when we got married, i told him he could handle the cash (we only keep like 150 out per week for food, gas, entertainment, etc.) and i handle the check book/bank end of everything. he went through a bankruptcy before we got married and his credit, only 2 years later is already up to 650. mine is higher than that. he said that i didn't change him, he just saw how to do it right.
2007-06-25 14:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the same advice that I have told my friends before they got married. The one guy is self-centered, constantly trying to change his wife to justify his actions - the end result is he has a few kids with his wife another kid with a "girlfriend" what a freak-in mess. But he sees nothing wrong with this. It is a mockery of what marriage is supposed to be.
2007-06-27 04:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by I.C. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can highlight the "can not be self centered". Yes marriage is all about giving, if you can t be giving, you shouldn't marry.
All other parts are very good thought and some even truths...but mainly the fact the marriage is giving.
2007-06-27 19:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by gracegptx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are right but what's with all this?
What happened to you lately??
You must not lost hope on love..... because love do exist, when you make mistakes, you'll learn from it whether it's a good/bad experience..
Don't be too tense about it.
2007-06-20 03:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish things are as simple as you are thinking. In so many times, you have to learn the hard way
2007-06-20 03:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound very young
you sound very immature
you sound very inexperienced
you sound very idealistic
you sound very cut and dry/right and wrong/
you sound like the voice of passion speaking from an immature inexperienced viewpoint.
you can choose the best possible spouse and be stuck with someone who changed into someone you never expected.
2007-06-27 17:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Great advice!
2007-06-27 15:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by patriciaannbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋