We are about to get married in 2 months. We have a very healthy relationship and we both know that we are right for each other. since the past 3-4 months she has started behaving very strangely, whenever we tallk she ends up getting upset on something which i say and then starts arguing. Then she says that she still feels insecure and i have not been able to understand her yet. she has even started crying after every argument now. I have tried explaining her with love and sometimes even getting a bit strict. when i say you are getting rude she replies that i dont like her anymore and she says that quite often to me and says that I am rude. Stuff like this is concerning me a lot. how should i handle it
2007-06-19 22:26:30 · 8 answers · asked by Just Ordinary. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like your dealing with a "run-away bride." She's got "cold feet" mate. I think the reality of marriage is finally sinking in, and she sounds like she doesn't know how to deal with such a responsibility or committment.
I know from my experience I was really ready and wanting to get married, but the day of the ceremony, I felt like I was going to faint, and finally realized that I would no longer be single, and would a married title under my belt. That same night I felt trapped, almost clostrophobic, to the point where I had to slip my wedding ring off my finger for 10 minutes, to get a breath of fresh air.
Now I look back at that time and laugh. Hopefully, with your fiancee, her cold feet isn't permanent, maybe you should speak with her, and see what she has to say.
Good luck.
2007-06-19 22:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be getting married in 2 months if I was you, as you need to sort this out before you do. Is it her insecurities or a past bad relationship that's making her this way?. You say you both know your right for each other, but then why are you arguing with each other?, because if you were totally compatible you wouldn't be arguing like this. Go slow and take it abit longer before getting married. Cheers and good luck.
2007-06-19 23:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, that sounds like me.....minus the marriage part. (^.^)
Relax sweetie, in your case (if she wasn't like that in the past), she's probably just stressed about the whole i'm gona be taking up the huge responsibility of marriage, "to death till us part" vows. All the "what ifs" are going thru her mind right now, cos' there are simply too many failed marriage nowadays.
So....Show her plenty of patience, and shower her with all your love, and you'll probably get over this phrase soon!
2007-06-19 22:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kizheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is planning the wedding, she is probably stressed out. If she is not, she is questioning whether she is ready to get married. You need to assure her that you love her, and be patient with her.
2007-06-19 22:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at least you're prerparing yourself for what's ahead. think it's bad now, you haven't seen anything yet. when you say i do, you are really saying i do want to be abused by this women for the rest of my life. words of wisdom, the real part of her, the part that she's been hiding from you, is starting to come out.
2007-06-20 00:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, expectations grow up when love is in the air. This will trouble you for some time. talk to her when her mood is good, tell her, how you have started feeling.
2007-06-19 22:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you guys are ready to get married? it seems you still have a lot of things to clear out before finally tying the knot.
2007-06-19 22:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um PMDD? PMS?
pregnant??!?
or maybe shes just stressing about the wedding/future...? i'm not married so i dont know for certain...
2007-06-19 22:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by i♥mybichonfrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋