I have been married to my husband for 5 years, and I love him, but the love has kind of turned into a love for a good friend. He threatened to leave, and I was like go, but when the day came for him to leave, I asked him to stay. Some days I look at him and he makes me wanna puke and other times I look at him and just wanna hug and kiss him. What's wrong with me? Have I fallen out of love? do I need to just let him go? Oh, and there is one more aspect to this story, my 16 year old daughter and my husband are mortal enemies. I cant have one peaceful day around here for them fighting. I feel so stressed and lost.....Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-19 19:22:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi I am sorry to hear that about your relationship with your husband. To be honest I am in the same boat with my wife but instead of a 16 year old daughter it is a 12 year old son. I wish there was an easy answer to our delema but I fear there is not. I do know that love is something you have to work for to maintain. That it is not something you just feel all the time. Have you tried to talk with your husband let him know how you are feeling. How does he feel? Have you tried to change things around the house? maybe try to spice things up again. you know regardless of what you do the most important thing is communication between the both of you. You have to keep that line open and be there for each other. You know they say your spouse should be your best friend. ohh and one more thing.. there is going to be bad times and even worse times but then there is always the good times.
2007-06-20 00:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by jason l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your two issues are completely independent of eachother.
First, you should know (being older as I am) that after 5 years...well....it's pretty normal to find your husband less than shall we say...irresistable all the time. Fallen out of love? You sound like a 16 year old. You must be close to 40...haven't you learned anything yet about the day to day life you have to create with somebody? These kids in this forum don't know what marriage is, but you should.
On your second issue, your daughter and your husband are enjoying some childish game of sparring. I can understand it from the 16 year old, but you didn't marry a 16 year old, did you? Tell him to grow up and act like the step-parent role he's supposed to be, which is a good example.
Geesh! What I read in here!
(alright, I'll log off now, I'm pretty tired and getting grumpy.)
2007-06-19 19:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you get a mediator to try to work out a truce between your husband and daughter. Maybe a wise friend who is seen as impartial, or maybe a professional.
I've been married a lot more than 5 years, and I think the good friend love is inevitable and OK, but not the threatening to leave and wanting to puke. Every long marriage has its dry spells, but if you can get to the other side the relationship turns out much stronger. I think it would be a tragedy if an external problem like this is allowed to break up your marriage
2007-06-19 19:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As your daughter is grownup and as you have no love left in the marriage why dont you move on and seek better life? There is no need to lead a stressful life. Life is short make it worth living.
2007-06-19 19:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband (ex) felt this way about me, apparently. He has left me now. You are the only one who can decide what to do. It will be hard on your husband if you don't talk to him first about this. Leaving someone is very hard, unless you know you are ready to move on.
2007-06-19 19:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a stress overload to me. try talking to each of them separately and ask if there is anything you can do to make their relationship go smoother. also explain how it's putting a strain on your relationship with your husband. they may not like each other, but maybe they can make an effort for your sake.
2007-06-19 19:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by lisa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he knows he's got you right where he wants you. you asked him not to go? girl are you crazy??? he probally thinks his S dont stink. you need to tell him you've had a change of heart and since he threatened to go, after further review you think its a good idea if he did just that. tell him you want him there under his own wanting and not because you had to beg him to stay. cause you know thats what he's tellin his friends. yeah she cant live without me, do anything i want she neeeeeds me. you dont want to be with a man who really wants to go now do you?
2007-06-19 20:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by shesmypunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Puke?????????????
Lady you need to get yourself together.
Stabalize mentally first then sort things out.
You make me wonder how can someone have so Opposite reaction from time to time.
2007-06-19 22:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Life won't Stop Nor Should U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋