I dont know how he will react and that is what I am afraid of.
2007-06-19 19:45:03 · 34 answers · asked by MO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me add to this Im 7 months already and i have talked to him and he is acting like im not even pregnant,i dont want to be with him but i dont want my child to suffer anymore then she would.
2007-06-19 19:52:01 · update #1
Also he never told me he is married nut i just know he is and he already knows im pregnant but i just have thee feeling that he has a secret life,hence the letter.
2007-06-19 20:08:03 · update #2
i say you must be sure first that this child is from him . when u'll be sure you must send this letter even if his wife is innocent and maybe she doesn't deserve but by hiding the cheating of her husband do u think u r saving her family what if he make another innocent girl like u also pregnant i think you must wake him up even if u will screw his life man should be responsible of his act your not a doll to play with then throw it . About your child and that's the most important thing if you didn't get any help from him you can ask your family for some help until you find a job i know a divorced lady that is working two jobs just for her child and she s raising him well . so whatever is his reaction you can do this by yourself even if it's hard . wish you best of luck .
2007-06-19 21:38:15 · answer #1 · answered by heartdreamer06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I am the type of woman that most women hate, but I was the mistress for about 6 months, years ago in my early twenties (It took me that long to wake up and realize that I was a whore and he was never going to leave her, and I am now completely ashamed that I did that). But anyways, someone did send his wife a letter, telling her about the affair and even who I was. She got it at her job. She confronted him and a couple that were their best friends, cause the letter said that this couple knew all about the affair. Problem was, the guy lied and said it wasn't true, and the other couple backed him up, cause they were also friends with me. So she believed them and not the letter. Sorry, but it doesn't always work to just send a letter. Photos or an exact location and time of where they meet, now that would be proof of the affair.
2016-05-20 04:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh. NO!!! His wife might open the mail and what a cruel way to find out her man has been cheating. What a low down pig he must be.
I would tell him face to face but only when you are absolutely certain u are and it is his. If you are scared to see him, call him or test him. Give this married man a wide berth honey, if he cheats on his wife, even if you do win him in the end (and that rarely happens) he will do the same thing to you. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
No matter how much he says you mean to him, when it comes to the crunch....you are just a bit of fun on the side.
2007-06-19 19:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its the man who made you pregnant honey.. and not the wife remember that. So beside you are the cause of this, he is too. Whatever you may feel now, bottom line is responsibility is between you and him. However being a woman i can understand what you are going thru but no matter what talk to him do what ever it takes to let him know. Only till he shows signs of neglect or uninterested will you be able to inform the wife ya. Do be too harsh think wise because what ever you do now is for the baby.
2007-06-19 19:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by sheadrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you know for sure whether you are pregnant by him or not. I would tell him before I tell her, that way he has a chance to tell her. You dont know how she will react either... imagine how you would feel if you got a letter unexpectedly and read what you need to say. Its going to bad for her no matter what but she should atleast have the chance to hear it from him. If he doesnt tell... send the letter she deserves to know. And I hope that you arent afraid of him hurting you or anything ,just afraid that he wont want a baby.
2007-06-19 19:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by rachel_lyn915 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO! Talk to him.
This has nothing to do with his wife.
If you knew he was married and you still had an affair with him - it means that you have agreed to that kind of relationship.
I know that you have probably thought you were in control of what you were doing at the time and now it doesn't feel like you are...but you still did it out of your own free will.
So there is no need to act out now.
Tell him and see how he feels abt it. (and you say you are ''possibly'' pregnant by him - so make sure you are first)
In the end you are an independent woman. You don't need to resort to vindictive behavior. In the end - this was your choice.
And than move one, my dear...these things rarely work out OK - esp. if you have agreed to be a mistress. A woman should never agree to that.
Respect yourself!
2007-06-19 20:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think sending his wife a letter is going to do? YOU made a choice, now you have to pay the price for making that choice...it's called KARMA baby. You phucked a married man and now you might be pregnant and he doesn't want anything to do with you...what did you expect?
2007-06-19 20:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHO CARES ABOUT YOU! You selfish little girl! You are with a married man, now your pregnant, and you want sympathy? HE needs to be the one to sit down and tell his wife, NOT YOU! She doesn't want to hear it from you. What? Let me guess? You most likely got pregnant so you could trap him, because he most likely told you that he wouldn't leave her! He is to blame just as much, if not more! I hate girls like you, that cannot go for a single man, you home wrecker! You BOTH need to grow up! And you should also be ashamed of yourself!
2007-06-19 20:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT unless you know you are p.g...
You've already made a mistake by sleeping with a married man...don't make another one by trying to break up his marriage....9-times-out-of-10 the man will stay with his wife, and not his lover...IF you are p.g. then you have to talk with him, and both of you tell his wife together...that way the baby will still be able to see his father and the wife will be able to see where their money is going for child support!
If you are p.g., I suggest you adopt the baby to a loving couple, and don't bring it into a world of chaos...it will need two parents to love em'....
2007-06-19 19:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Call me-C-4-Curious- 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! The situation is most likely bad enough, do you are you absolutely sure the child is his? For the time being you need to consult between the two of you and do whatever it is you can hopefully agree on.
Let the guy do his "homework" by himself.
I have to ask, why would you even consider that course?
2007-06-19 19:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Joe H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋