Marriage & Divorce - 16 June 2007

During my marrage i was the perfect subrban soccer mom always trying to please everyone(especially my cheating husband) and appear perfect. Well needless to say my "perfect" marrage has ended and now i'm ready to go out and party party party!!! I had been married ever since i was 18 and never got to live wild when i was younger. But..... some people frown on this because i have kids at home. The are 12, 10, and 8. I think that's old enough to stay at home by themselves.... right? It's not like i don't spend time with them or anything we hang out in the afternoons, but they understand that at night mommy has got to go out and party. They even help me get ready sometimes. People always try to make me feel guilty for this, but just because your a mom dosen't mean you can't have a life does it? I'm not a bad mom am i?

2007-06-16 07:12:28 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

and im i have not done anything wtih him ( so no hes married dont cheat speeches please ! ) - anyways, like ive ben taling to him on the phone and thats it. well he always says he " might be able to hang out saturday " like the last 3 weekends. i jjust wanted to hang as friends. well every time he ditches then i find out the next week he says ' I couldnt go my wife insisted on going with me to home deopt or whatever so i coudlnt get away" well hes done it again 4th weekend in the row saying he ' MIGHT ' come over sunday. i wrote him real nice like i dont care and said that : basically id made other plans for sunday and dont want to hang out cause i dont want to get him in trouble with his wife. thats basically all i said even though i feel like reaming him a new A hole. he has a lot of nerve thinking im around on the back burner. im desprate right now at a time in my life where im desprate and thats y i even bother talking to him - i have no other freinds right now and going

2007-06-16 06:48:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am not saying that they should have sex after the marriage, just wondering if the guys would prefer a girl that is pure...

2007-06-16 06:47:22 · 27 answers · asked by nenndre 2

She went back to court in 1991 and by giving false testimony got a court order giving her 47% of my retirement when I reached the age of 62. Since my retirement is a disibility she knew she was not entitled to any of it so had a expert testify that when I reached the age of 62 my annuity would change from disability to longivity. This of course is not true but I cannot get the judge to change his ruling. WHAT CAN I DO!!!!!

2007-06-16 06:43:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

One of my girlfriends at work, she's been married for almost a year now. He pursued her so romantically while they were dating and for the few few months of their marriage. He was too good to be true almost.
These past few months her husband has been verbally abusive to her, calling her names. After a bit he even started accusing her and her family and friends of improper behavior, such as hiding things, lying and cheating. About a month ago he started saying that he regretted marrying her and accusing her of tricking him into marriage (no she wasn't pregnant). His latest "deal" is trying to get her to sign a "post-nup", and claiming that she agreed to sign a "pre-nup" before the marriage agreeing that if the marriage doesn't work out, she walks with nothing.
We think her husband has another woman, but she says although his business keeps him out late and he has complete autonomy as to his whereabouts all day long, she thinks he's faithful.
What do you think????

2007-06-16 06:42:24 · 19 answers · asked by Chikadee 2

want to challenge us for no reason even though they know we are kind of weak

2007-06-16 06:33:49 · 12 answers · asked by ~electra~ 4

If a marriage ends in divorce, does that mean it wasn't true love?

2007-06-16 06:33:16 · 15 answers · asked by pola 3

I have been married 11 years. There are days I want to choke my hubby and days that I love him to death and hate myself for thinking that way. He loves me too much, I know that may sound nuts, but he smothers me. Not in a controlling way, but he just is to lovey. We have great communication, but I could think of 10 ways I would like to change him, and he gives me no feedback that is helpful. He just says he loves me no matter what. I feel like we are getting stale, but I dont know if I am falling out of love, or is this normal after 11 years ?? Or is they something wrong with me. I know I made it sound like hes a saint, but hes not, a good hubby yes, but still has is down falls. I just feel like were friends, not lovers, and I dont mean all sex either.... please help.

2007-06-16 06:22:23 · 7 answers · asked by How can I help? 3

2007-06-16 06:15:12 · 18 answers · asked by gelica_11 1

My Fiance and I are getting married and want to own our own home, we are currently paying £400 a month cash to rent our 3 bed house, and would just rather that this money went towards a mortgage, My fiance earns £17,000 a year and I dont work as I am a stay at home mum of 2 young kids, do you think its possible we live in nireland

2007-06-16 06:07:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I do the food shopping we share the cooking I do the lawn take care of pool, wash cars, take care of cat, and any other manual labor around house. I work full time she works 18 hours a week we have to kids.
She Try's to keep house clean, thats all I can ask.
today i made my son (6 years old) tuna for lunch, he asked for more i ran in and made it know problem. I asked my wife do you think most man would jump like that and she said of course. I disagree.

2007-06-16 06:05:04 · 13 answers · asked by G O 5

My husband was eating dinner with his mother and the time kepper Jeniffer who he was always talking about and he called our kids really eairler than usually last night then come to find out he was eating with Jennifer.He insists he's not cheating but wants me to have a fertinertiy test on the baby I'm carring now.I think hes cheating but he's says in all in my head

2007-06-16 06:04:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Not just - three months later. The problem is that she is too lazy. She sleeps 18 hours a day))), then she chats, watching TV....I love her very much but I don"t like how she spends her days. Help me plzzz what can I do?

2007-06-16 06:03:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

have you face such situation ?you try very hard not to make mistake but in the end of the day you made a mistake subconciously and unintentionally?is it because im too cautious in doing things or is it because i try to hard not to make mistake?

2007-06-16 05:57:11 · 7 answers · asked by ~electra~ 4

i have been married for almost 4 years.....i have been reading peoples responses and they say to remember why we even got married.....what made us fall in love. Thats the thing though..we got married cause we got pregnant after dating for one month.Now we have a wonderful 3 year old but have nothing else in common...Shes not a bad person, it is that we simply have no common tastes. I guess i regret getting married but not having my daughter. Would do the same thing in a heart beat.

2007-06-16 05:52:45 · 7 answers · asked by Robert G 2

I have been with my husband since i was 15 now i am 26 and we have recently parted ways but its like he can always come back in my life because i still have feelings for him as being my chidrens father,my husband and first love does this eventually go away or will i always feel this way?

2007-06-16 05:42:00 · 33 answers · asked by hcj25 2

My guy seems to have gone off his rocks! He puts me out last year becuase he says he dosent know whats out there for him and that he says i was gone all the time? anyways he calls me to say hes sorry and that he wants us to work out! and so now he comes from 1 city over to me to take me where i have to go.
but he lets me know that he can drop me like a bad habit if he wants.
he also lets me know hes a man, many women love him, and hes happy with his life, and he's moving up in his life ETC. He calls me like every 2 to 3 days to let me know how worthless i am and i dont cook for him anymore, and or have sex with him and im sad all the time: he says that if im sad or have problems to stay the fu?ck home and dont mess up his day???

okay if im so sorry to him why is he calling me and driving me me all around all the time and gets not money! and i barely want to talk to him on the phone. why does he hate me so much

2007-06-16 05:26:36 · 20 answers · asked by Justice A 2

What approach would you take? It could be fun. Tell your experience !!!

2007-06-16 04:52:31 · 1 answers · asked by rapturefuture 7

My wife and I have been seperated (legally) since February. Can I start dating again? I need a little female companionship, because it's just me and my three boys living here. Do you think I could go out on a date after I drop the boys off to go visit with their mother? Or do I have to wait until the divorce is final? Even though I'm the typical horny guy, I think I could "keep it in my pants" & wait until the divorce becomes final next February. What do you think I should do?

Your serious answers would be most appreciated. Your funny answers would be appreciated too, because I need a good laugh too!

2007-06-16 04:45:42 · 7 answers · asked by Andy K 6

My boyfriend argues that once you are married that the man has the right to take sex whenever he wants? Is this true?

2007-06-16 04:40:17 · 56 answers · asked by Tina 1

2007-06-16 04:32:36 · 22 answers · asked by elizabeth p 1

I am a 23 year old mother of two beautiful healthy children, a boy and a girl, and I am married to an amazing man. However I am very much attracted to women. Before my husband and I got married I was seeing a woman on the side but she wanted me to choose between her and him, I couldn't so she left me for her ex. Now that I am married I still have this strong urge to be with women. Are there any other women like this or did I just make the wrong choice?

2007-06-16 03:56:54 · 14 answers · asked by boopsy0 2

A 70 years old man hit on me! Repeatedly, and he does not go. He says that he wants to marry me, and that he knows people who married and had children, with the same age difference as us. He is 50 years older than me.
What does he want?

2007-06-16 03:49:10 · 44 answers · asked by teleflip 3

i'm with my husban and i have two kids but since things are not going to well right now with him i think i feel something for my ex again what should i do

2007-06-16 03:43:06 · 11 answers · asked by ballplayer956 1

about 10 yrs ago my bf was on a swimming outing with his friends, so i said its ok you can go. coz my parents wont let me go with him only and its a night swimming. i didnt know that there are also girls there that are flirty. a friend told me that one of the girls who have a crush on him kissed him and i dont know what happened next. it really bugs me back then. Now were married for 9 yrs and then suddenly they have a communication, she's been calling him on his phone(i dont know y?) he just told me that shes asking for help if she can find a job here. My gosh way back then we just argue evryday bcoz of that incident, then suddenly now shes been contacting him. what should i do? any advice?

2007-06-16 03:35:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i bought my fiance 2 nighties last xmas, one was black and an xmas one is red and white. she hasnt worn them yet. do girlfriends and wives not wear these for their men?

2007-06-16 03:34:36 · 18 answers · asked by bobmelweber 1

2007-06-16 03:19:23 · 7 answers · asked by pola 3

months..tell me if this is normal...should ihave to beg my husband to watch our child when i need to clean the house, or cook, or even take a bath basically if i want to do anything i have to bag him to watch our child....he would complain about how he already watch the child...when in fact he didn't watch the baby the baby was sleep and as soon as he wakes up he gives him to me. last night i had to clean the house with the baby strapped to me because he wanted to watch boxing and play his xbox. and he doesn't like to clean up everything is dirty and will stay that way unless i do it..but i have a baby and don't seem to have time to clean because my baby is woke most of the time now...and my husband expects me to cook, clean and do everything i need to do for my child and don't get me wrong i love my child and would do anything for him but am i wrong for needing some asstiance around the house. he works but **** i feel i need a lilltle help...normal or not

2007-06-16 03:05:48 · 11 answers · asked by Babygurl 3

2007-06-16 02:38:08 · 18 answers · asked by geet2222 s 1

i know a social worker/therapist who treated my husband and i then myself and now my husband we are now filing for divorce friends tell me this is wrong it's called conflict of interest true or false.

2007-06-16 02:32:41 · 2 answers · asked by Lynda C 1