and im i have not done anything wtih him ( so no hes married dont cheat speeches please ! ) - anyways, like ive ben taling to him on the phone and thats it. well he always says he " might be able to hang out saturday " like the last 3 weekends. i jjust wanted to hang as friends. well every time he ditches then i find out the next week he says ' I couldnt go my wife insisted on going with me to home deopt or whatever so i coudlnt get away" well hes done it again 4th weekend in the row saying he ' MIGHT ' come over sunday. i wrote him real nice like i dont care and said that : basically id made other plans for sunday and dont want to hang out cause i dont want to get him in trouble with his wife. thats basically all i said even though i feel like reaming him a new A hole. he has a lot of nerve thinking im around on the back burner. im desprate right now at a time in my life where im desprate and thats y i even bother talking to him - i have no other freinds right now and going
2007-06-16 06:48:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a very hard time. having just been divorced, and now pregnant the babies dad dumped me im in fninaclial chaos. it really urks me that this guy is trying to play with my emotoins liek this. how do i deal with this leaving him feeling as shitty as possible and moving on?
2007-06-16 06:48:41 · update #1
wendy C screw you you old bag
2007-06-16 07:06:39 · update #2
Tell him you have no interest in being second fiddle to his wife and that you do not appreciate being used as somthing to pass the time until he can get away from his wife to try to come to your place and screw you. Tell him to put his efforts into his marriage and that you will not be taking his calls or any other forms of contact ever again. Then stick to it!
You are divorced, pregnant, in financial chaos and need to take care of your and your childs lives before even thinking about getting involved with any man. Put the energy and time you spent with this married loser into making things better for you and the future kids.
If you are lonely, then go take part in some social activities where you can make friends with decent people.
When you have everything straightened out, you can look for a mate. if you so desire. Remember, the better the bait, the better the fish. When you have your life in good shape, you will find a good man who also has his life in good shape.
2007-06-16 07:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you. Well, almost, I have no kids tho and I am not financially bad at the moment. But someone played with my emotions visciously a month ago and I am like a happy person on the outside but he sucked all life out of me by his action. In any event, both my guy and "your" married one are assholes. You WILL make it and in the future you will definitely be smarter, I am sure this will burn you a lot so that you will start thinking and choosing people more carefully. There are no guarentees in life. But you will make it. You cannot imagine what are people capable of.
2007-06-16 08:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by stargazer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you really are missing your own contradictions...
if he is married, back burner is exactly where you belong. If you are desperate and ANGRY that he is not coming over, he is a smart man to stay away.
Why do you call someone just a "friend" but he is playing with your emotions? sounds to me like he is trying to stay the hell away from your emotions, and rightly so.
Sorry for your hard time right now... we've all been there/done that. But when you want to make a friend feel shi*ty for pitting his marriage first... HE IS NOT THE one with a problem.
Sorry to get in your face. But you need to take a long hard look at what you wrote.
2007-06-16 07:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by wendy c 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you kidding me? You are willing to risk losing your soul mate so that you can meet a married man to make out? That ridiculous. You better feel guilty. You're feeling lust. Better get it in check or you will be the loser in the end.
2016-05-17 09:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about how bad you want to leave him feeling but more about yourself and getting rid of this guy. Its obvious what he wants,and he definitely doesnt have your best interest in mind here, so you better. Move on way beyond this guy
2007-06-16 07:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, your just as guilty as he is, and so what if he skips your meets? He may be telling the truth. Regardless, just move on with your life. Don't hang out with married guys. Try women for friendships.
2007-06-16 07:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always respect the sacredness of other people's marriage vows. Don't get involved with married men.
2007-06-19 06:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Shirley T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a jerk magnet. It's about time you had some self respect, don't you think? You have a baby on the way. Do right for the baby starting now, so when he/she gets here, you're more stable, and confident, and independent. Get rid of the jerks, and think about you and your baby.
2007-06-16 06:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by ron-D 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why are you even trying to be friends with this MARRIED guy! You just got divorced....you know the rules...come on...get a different SINGLE friend.
2007-06-16 06:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
bab u need to dump him he is useing u . u sound like a nice lady the right one will come
2007-06-16 07:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋