My boyfriend argues that once you are married that the man has the right to take sex whenever he wants? Is this true?
2007-06-16 04:40:17 · 56 answers · asked by Tina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not right to force his will on you, because that is rape. But in the bible it says that as husband and wife, the husbands body does not only belong to him but also to his wife, and the wifes body does not only belong to her but also to her husbands. But forcing himself like that is DEFINITELY not right!
2007-06-16 04:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Freddy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its just the opposite, once a women marries a man she thinks she can stop having sex with him. Sure you give your boyfriend all the sex he wants .......now......until he marries you, then it's like "Whew I'm glad that's over with, Mission accomplished, now the poor bastards stuck with me, I can get fat, fart in front of him, stop wearing make-up and quit my job so I can have kids and watch Opra reruns all day on tivo while eating chocalates.
That exactly how the old bait and switch got started.
Yes your husband has a right to your body, anytime he wants, remember love honor and obey. The idea is a perfect "union" and your body becomes his. If you want a seperate identity then stay single because you do not have a "married women mentality"
If you disagree with your boyfriend now then don't marry him because you obviousy don't agree on how marriage should go.
Guys do not marry nomatter how many children you have with them. You will always have a psychological edge and the women will never repeat never leave you; she will put up with a lot more bullshit because their goal is to marry you.
If a woman is still unmarried by a certain age she is considered a failure, nomatter how much money she makes or how successful her "career" is. Remember she'd give up everything ----------everything------------ for the love of one good man.
Can you spell old maid??? They can.
2007-06-16 04:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. In the past, he was right; it was considered impossible for a husband to "rape" his wife. But then a case happened called the Rideout case, where a woman went to court to try to get her husband prosecuted for raping her, and through this case the law changed. Now a husband can be just as guilty of rape as anyone else who forces himself on a woman.
The real question here would be why would a man ever want to force himself on someone?
2007-06-16 04:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anne M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope...if I say no, I mean no. I would be VERY upset and angry if my husband ignored my feelings in that area.
Sex is too important in a relationship to be brought down to a level of rape. You take what is probably the biggest bonding tool a husband and wife have together, and turn it into agression and a power play. I cannot see any marriage lasting long with one partner's attitude towards sex being that way.
2007-06-16 04:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mam Heck no he has no right to force himself on you, you are not a sex object you are a person a person with feelings. I couldnt possibly begin to understand how you must feel mam but eventhough it is not constituded like rape I still think and feel it is some kind of rape he is abusing the situation and taking advantage of you against your will. He is being incosiderate about your feelings you should leave him or talk to him and tell him that what he is doing to you is not being done with love he is abusing the situation. Be careful mam.
2007-06-16 04:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by D S♦T♦A♦R♦S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not okay. It is STILL considered rape under the law. When a woman says NO it means NO whether she is married or not. If a man, even her husband forces himself on her it is RAPE and will hold up in a court of law.
2007-06-16 06:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, sex is about giving, not taking.
I have been married 241/2 years, I used to force my wife into all sorts of crap.
She never asked for it and never deserved it, I had no right to take or force her. I was wrong, thank God she forgave me after I come to my sense's. I was a pig for expecting her to partake in my filthy rubbish. A wife is a jewel, a Gem and a very precious thing.
Your b/f needs to rethink why he wants to marry you, ??? to rule over you like a master and slave or to have the privilege of having you as his wife. He needs to think very carefully as a woman will only take crap for so long and then she will be off.
Do you want to put yourself into a marriage situation that is going to have a man in your life so he can come and take from you whenever he wants. please think carefully before you do. you are worth much more than that.
2007-06-16 04:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ignatious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
Oh no! no way! ...
Sex is something that two people must agree on together.
Being married doesn't give you the right to "take it when you want it"..Being married is about love, consideration,& giving not taking.
Your boyfriend just gave you a preview of what it would be like to be married to him, I don't know if I would tie the knot with this guy!
Good luck,
2007-06-16 04:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two must be very young. otherwise you'd remember the trial in the early 1990's in which a husband was charged with rape for forcing his wife to have sex against her will.
He was convicted and sent to prison. Unfortunately, I can't remember the names of the people in the case, but a google search of marital rape should turn up some interesting info.
Doc Hudson
2007-06-16 04:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is NEVER ok for anyone to force sexual contact on anyone that does not willingly consent. There are laws against rape. I am not sure this is the guy for you if he's talking about this type of stuff. Make sure he's not like that before you say I do so you do not end up in a battered women's shelter.
2007-06-16 04:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by Emmah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!! And if he thinks this, make sure he never becomes your husband! Sex should always be about sharing, love and caring about the other person -- forcing yourself on someone means that you are only concerned about your own wants and needs and don't care about the other person's. Not a good basis for a marriage!
2007-06-16 04:43:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋