I am a 23 year old mother of two beautiful healthy children, a boy and a girl, and I am married to an amazing man. However I am very much attracted to women. Before my husband and I got married I was seeing a woman on the side but she wanted me to choose between her and him, I couldn't so she left me for her ex. Now that I am married I still have this strong urge to be with women. Are there any other women like this or did I just make the wrong choice?
2007-06-16 03:56:54 · 14 answers · asked by boopsy0 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Although I don't agree with same sex relationships, maybe you made the wrong choice to get married knowing you really had feelings for this other woman. But I am not going to say that I think you should be with her either. You need to seek counseling. It seems as if you are confused. You have two children and a wonderful husband, but if you are truly that attracted to women then you need to sit your husband down and talk to him. Don't string him along because it will only hurt all of you in the long run.
2007-06-16 04:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your main question I would say no there is nothing wrong with you. I'm assuming your husband knows of your attraction to women. As far as introducing another female in the bedroom I would be wary if your husband is of the jealous type. It takes a strong relationship to go through with the actual act. Fantasy is one thing but reality is another! You really have to come to terms with your life as a whole, like you said two beautiful children and an amazing husband, sounds like life is treating you just fine. With the divorce rate as high as it is why would you take the chance on ruining your perfect family. But that being said to live life is one thing, but to live life with regret is a whole new can of worms!
2007-06-16 11:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me say I'm not like you and I'm almost twice your age. I have had an occasional thought about women, but that's it. I have had only heterosexual experiences.
Which is stronger, your urge to be with women or your husband? I guess that should tell you. Do you have an enjoyable sex life with your husband?
I think you need to be open with your husband about your thoughts of being with women. To be a good wife and mother, you need to be faithful to your husband and family. If you feel you need to be with another woman to be true to yourself, you need to divorce your husband.
2007-06-16 11:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by MNature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a few answers have suggested that your husband might like the idea of you as a bisexual. You can't be absolutely certain that this is correct, though the chances are pretty good, but you'd probably better tell him.
If you approached him with something like "I have a real problem and I need your help" you likely have the best shot.
2007-06-16 11:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by Robert K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boopsyo, Dear wethor or not you are a christian you need to know you are being tempted by the devil ! 1 man and 1 woman is Gods chosen way ! All else is wickedness and forbidden. So home is where the heart is,accept it and live with it ! I will pray for your delivery from this bondage.
2007-06-16 11:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong.i am sure there are just people like u anywhere in the world .how they controlled themselves at the situation only differs.the choice is never wrong it may just be a good or bad one.
2007-06-16 11:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see a counselor, talk to your religious leader or a trusted friend. Figure out what you need/want before you tear your family apart.
2007-06-16 11:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by brneyedgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU think you have a problem, then you do. Talk it over with your SO, you seem to be in love with him. If after that you need more help, there are counselors that can help you.
2007-06-16 11:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by bootsontheroad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Search your soul and whatever you do.Make sure that you will live your life happy and peaceful.When in doubt,get out.Thanks for 2.
2007-06-16 11:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a lucky guy. Why not bring in a girlfriend for both of you to enjoy?
2007-06-16 11:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋