I'm 20 years-old and I'm attracted to married men who are about 10 years older than me. Usually they are my managers or supervisors at work or professors at my school. What the hell is wrong with me????
2007-06-16 20:36:57 · 25 answers · asked by Mrs.Buchanan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
....I meant "married" men. Anyhow...I feel like I psychologically gain something by being a home wrecker. YES! it's sad but it is true.
2007-06-16 20:59:52 · update #1
There could be a couple of reasons. First, you could be attracted to these guys because they've proven themselves to be good husbands to their wives. I think any girl who wants to marry at some point wants that. They're your superiors, and perhaps you are attracted to the idea of status, or power. Do you daydream a lot about the future? I'm 20, too, and I have crushes on older men, and men my age. I think it's normal to be attracted to people who have the things you might want down the road, but to analyze why you are attracted to these people. They might perhaps embody your hopes and dreams. But remember to keep it in perspective. It sounds like you don't want to get in the way of some one's marriage, which is a good thing. Remember that you are in a different phase of your life then these guys.
Try this - Seek single, like-minded guys, who are your age, but have a distinctive drive. If he's goal oriented, perhaps he might be a person with whom you can accomplish big things together!
2007-06-16 20:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you psychologically gain something by being a homewrecker...then you need some psychological help. Do you realize how much you hurt people? I know the married man is wrong for cheating, but why do you want to be a part of hurting people...other women...familes? You need some help and get it quick before you totally ruin any more lives...including your own. There are consequences for being involved with a married man. Sooner or later, you'll get hurt.
2007-06-16 22:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are married adult men involved in youthful unmarried females? Why do they cheat on their better halves? i could say the greater knotted up individual interior the region may be the guy. some females are purely immature and prefer those issues-- not all, or maximum females for that count. maximum females are sensible sufficient to comprehend that if a guy is going to cheat on his spouse, he won't make an exceptionally good mate. purely because of the fact the skank inhabitants stands proud greater, would not recommend maximum persons are like that. that's not even on the element of being actual.
2016-12-08 11:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by lacue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know your dad or ever have problems with him? I am the same way and they said it was due to a lack of a father figure in my life. You lean toward older men who already have a family because that is what you have always wanted. You just have to keep looking and soon enough you will find a guy lose enough to your age who is available. Good luck!
2007-06-16 20:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Ali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an player that just wants to be strictly dickey. For real home girl you don't have an man and long as you protecting your self theirs nothing wrong with participating in an good sex life. You have that good to an married man but if you was married you good isn't the same. Please your self live life and be happy of what you do collect money from thous fools. Your not an hoe until you act like one. Don't drop it like it's hot drop it because your an woman that wants satisfactory in life.
2007-06-16 20:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't come from a broken family did you? If you were lacking a father figure throughout your childhood and early teen years this may explain it; you are looking for an older man to look up to and pamper you like your dad never did.
If you and dad still have a good relationship, it may just be a passing phase then. Different women have different tastes, just don't turn that attraction into an extramarital relationship. Just admire, don't touch.
2007-06-16 20:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by bronzedgal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You miss your daddy. You have low self-esteem and think taking another woman's man makes you better than them. Pick one. What you are doing is wrong and you should do your best to find single guys, instead of being a home wrecker. If the losers want to screw up their families don't make yourself the reason.
2007-06-16 20:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by jessica522008 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Could be any of these reasons:
1. You like the fact there's no commitment.
2. You don't care about the other spouse that's not involved. It hurts when they find out. You're selfish.
3. You're dumb enough to think that something good will come out of it if he leaves his wife. If he cheated on her, he'll cheat on you.
4. You're insecure and can't seem to find a decent man. You're self esteem can't be too good if you're going after cheating sleezeballs.
5. You're weak and fall for anything a cheating man tells you.
A good man never looks for someone outside the marriage! He actually cares too much for his wife/girlfriend to stoop that low to try and hurt her. If a man cheats on his wife, we ALWAYS find out. Maybe not right away, but the truth ALWAYS comes out one way or another! You have a lot to learn, dear.
2007-06-16 20:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel safe at the moment fantasising about something you can't have. Or maybe you are just drawn to older men and you've just got to find a one who isn't married!
2007-06-16 20:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel some need to prove that your good enough by trying to take other's men. I'd get to work on my self-esteem if I was you.
2007-06-16 20:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by aston184 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋