10 days back i had a fight with my husband over two sms from a person from a investment firm who had writen in simple language that he was sorry to disrtub his one of most cooperative client and in the next sms he worte rahaam from gurgaon as i told him that i was in gurgaon and i have the form there .my husband got enraged on this that by these two sms it means that i have relation with this man .he was not ready to listen to anything .he was leaving far from us from last six months due to his professional commitments .he left the house .he had hit me on my head and i was bleeding even then he left .he has not sent any money till yet .not called up to inquire for his daughter also.his parents are away in cnada will be back in august .wat should i do .i cant leave him becoz of my daughter moreover i love him .i dont want to call him as if he doesnt pick up my call it will be unbearable for me.without divorce can i seek maintance for my daughter upbringing?plz advice hope u undstnd .
2007-06-17 20:21:11 · 16 answers · asked by DIVYA N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Definitely you can seek maintenance for your self as well as for your daughter under section 125 of the Criminal Procedure Code from you husband. You can even seek residential facilities & protection of your household goods from your husband & also protection order against any domestic violence under the Protection for women against domestic violence Act, 2005. In both these provisions you don’t have to go in for divorce as these are just provisions to help destitute wives who are being neglected by their husbands.
2007-06-17 21:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-02 04:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Hagen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go crazy when people jump the gun and say get a divorce. You have had a fight a bad fight. But does that mean you should get a divorce? No. There have to be bigger reasons. Is he a wife beater, then yes, you should get out. If this is one off incident then you need to develop better communication with him. As for not calling, Its strange. You say you love him. Then why not call and find out what is happening. Mis communications create so much problems. If you two love each other, then all things can be worked out, but do not compromise on your self respect. If you dont respect your self, no one ever will.
2007-06-17 21:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ajay t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sms doesnt even make sense. . . if he is jealous it shows that he loves you. . . you already have a child and had been together for quite some time. . . you love him and you dont wanna leave him. . . its hard. . . but if you keep on waiting for him to make the effort nothing may happen, and you dont wanna leave him. . . so though trying to call him may be unbearable if he doesn't answer just try it. . . wat if he does answer??? you'll never know. . . he may be thinking bad things right now that you have not contacted him yet. . so since he was doubting you i think you should try to contact him. . . if he doesnt answer try again. . . do it up to 10 times or 5 times if he still wont answer that's up to him. .. im pretty sure he will miss ur daughter. . . 10 days been too long. . . just say your sorry . . .
2007-06-17 20:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by christie h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be having an affair with some other girl, he went out on that pretext. It seems that he needed some mouthfull, cant help.Now , its your turn you have to speak with your inlaws and other close family friends to persuade him. If he still continues to be away then you may have to take the help of court as the last resort.
If he really cares for you, he would surely come back to you. At least for the shake of your daughter.
Make it sure that in case you take divorce you get maintenance along with your part of the property share,.
2007-06-18 01:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you waiting for divine intervention? How can things proceed unless you call him up?Maybe in a fit of anger he did'nt even see that u r hurt. With every passing day of silence, his doubts about you having an affair are getting stronger. Don't involve many persons which means friends and the net friends!!.Call directly- the shortest route is always the best route and least confusing.Maybe you can call from a PCO so that he picks up the phone. I am not supporting him in his act. But that blame game can come in phase 2.
2007-06-18 01:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by captrg217 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take help of mutual friends or some elderly couple or individual, to sort things out, and explain to him the facts.
I think your husband is overworked and stressed, and this has made him suspicious. He is angry because he feels he is slogging far away to earn enought, to feed u and the family. Maybe he has hit u for the first time. U must try not to make him suspicious. Divorce is a long and tedious process in India.
2007-06-17 23:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur problem is the same problem every love marriage face
i.e NO TRUST.
i think try to talk with ur hushband regarding this that u have no relation with any guy and u r ready to call that Rehman and tie a RAKHI on his hand and if ur hushband want to ask any thing to him he can ask.
if he don't want o listen anything iwill suggest you don't think about divorce right now, just think about a good job which will support you and ur daughter.
rest left every thing on god he will help you. TRUST GOD and urself.
2007-06-19 05:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by Milind Patel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some serious advice its hard to do that , i'd suggest that you speak to a close friend and share your anxiety, if you'd like...i can help. I'm in gurgaon..mail me..and i'd give you my number.
Take Care and don't be sad(i noe that is not possible, but u need to leave this man)
2007-06-17 21:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think before taking any decision you got to speak to your husband first. Could be that he is repenting for his behaviour but his ego is not allowing him to come back to you.
If he is adamant, tell him about your divorce plan. file a divorce and get alimony from him.
For a successful marriage faith between the two partners is of utmost importance which your husband doesn't understand.
2007-06-17 20:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by lynette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋