My dad's 44 yrs old and going through one of the hardest times of his life right now. He's suffering from depression and him and my mom recently got divorced. He's taking it really hard because my mum was his whole life. He texts my mom usually everyday and i always check her phone to see what my dads telling her..usually i love you and your my everything etc. i'm usually in tears when i read them because i know my dad is really heartbroken and hurting. I found a message yesterday telling my mom to tell us (me and my sisters) that he loved us a lot. that was at 5 pm, at 11pm there were another message telling my mom he tried to kill himself but when he thought of me and my sisters he couldn't do it. We ususally visit my dad every wk but i havn't seem him for a few now and i'm really worried. How do i handle this, i don't want my dad to take his life and i don't know what to say or how to handle it.
2007-06-17 19:35:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know sometimes a hug from your daughter can heal a whole bunch of hurts.
Someone should contact a family member or a close friend of his and kinda que them into what is going on. I think all you can do is give him a big hug and tell him you love him when you see him.
I was there once when my life fell apart and I realized I wasn't living my life for myself but I was living my life for other people and and that my death would affect too many people for too long and that it would be selfish. he may also have came to that conclusion.
2007-06-17 20:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear you and your family are going through such pain right now.
Can you talk to your mother and tell her how you are feeling? Tell her you are frightened that your father is not receiving the mental health assistance he probably needs right now. Confide in her that you saw the message he sent stating he was or did try to kill himself. Not to frighten you, but no one should take those types of messages lightly.
If you cannot talk to your Mother, I hope you can try to reach out to another adult family member, including your father. Or contact your local mental health services center(s) for assistance. Just explain like you did here and they can direct you. But your Dad will have to want the help. Wishing all of you well.
2007-06-18 02:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he tried killing himself once but, thought about you and your siblings and couldn't do it. That tells you how much he loves you and your siblings. You and your siblings should send a few days with your dad and help him feel better. If you can't see your dad then, send him flowers or a note telling him how much you love him and how much he means to you and how blessed you are to have a father like him or how proud and happy you are to have a dad like him.
If that doesn't work then, try talking things out wit your mom tell her how you feel and how worried you are. Ask your mom to talk things over wit him
If that doesn't work, text your dad back with your mom's phone telling him you still think your mom has a thing for him and that he should hang in there.
Hope things turn out great for your family.
Good luck!
2007-06-18 02:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by tantymissy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you and your dad. It sounds like he has problems that you mom just could not handle.
Please encourange your mom to talk to your dad about counseling and psychiatric therapy. He will be a happier person after he gets the help he needs.
2007-06-18 02:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds over your head. I'd say call the suicide prevention people and his doctor, if he has one. Anti-depressants can do amazing things for a lot of people.
Your story is heartbreaking.
Best wishes,
Houyhnhnm
2007-06-18 02:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue your relationship with your Dad.
Also, make an appt with a Dr for your Dad. He might need medication for depression.
2007-06-18 19:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get him help. what happens is this, they reach the lowest point in depression, then they become "happy", watch out for that. that means they made the decision to commit suicide. you need to get him someone, who is impartial, someone who isnt int the situation, like a therapist. this way, he can open up, without feeling like he is offending someone. keep in contact with him, give him support.
2007-06-18 03:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by carolina b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋