married 3 years. together for 6. Husband and I havent slept together in over a year. We have 1 child together and 1from his first marriage and 2 from my 1st marriage. He is mentally abusive to me and my kids, and is starting on our youngest who is only 5. Anyway, I finally put my foot down and told him to get out. He is still here. He says legally I cant put him out. I am tired of this marriage, I want my kids and I to be happy again. I have no family or friends here for support. I can do it alone I guess. I am currently disabled and cannot work at this time. I am a full time mom and part time student. My house is falling apart, and I am unable to get a loan. Any advice or suggestions would be greatful! thanks so much
2007-06-17 23:38:51 · 9 answers · asked by kim d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to call child protective services against your husband, that will get him out of the house quick. They will also be able to get you the help and resources you need to get your life back together. You have to protect those kids, just becuase mental abuse dosen't leave bruises on the outside dosen't mean it is wrong, its probably the worst becasue the emotional scars can last forever. Protect those kids and yourself - please!
2007-06-17 23:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I've got to tell you. From this question and your others it looks very much like a big chunk of your problems come from the person in the mirror.
No relations in over a year, he is a lazy SOB,he won't move out? Was this ever a marriage of love or only your convienience and support?
Frankly, you sound like you married him for support and are now somehow upset that he is not giving you as much as you think you deserve. The only problem is, what do you give back? It sounds like NOTHING.
If you want out it is on you to move. It is a major stretch to say I don't want to be married so you get to move. If you want out that bad, get some backbone, give up the "I'm disabled", find work and do it. If you cannot do that the maybe a little gratitude for the guy that is doing that for you is in order. You are showing signs of being extreemly ungrateful for the support you are getting from a man who you give NO respect or love. The name for that is "user".
You are on your second husband and it is not going well either. Its not just him.
BTW. Home repair books for father's day! There are some guys who might have found a place for them that hasn't been used in a year. Now that's abusive. Its also a big stretch to label someone as "mentally abusive" because he says things you do not want to hear. No love, respect or sex in a year your damn right you will hear some harsh words.
2007-06-18 06:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off you need to talk to a lawyer. Some places don't allow you to file a divorce for anything but irreconcilable differences. You can ask for the house, etc, but there is no guarantee you will get it... chances are you will have to split it and unless he is willing to buy you out you will end up without a home to live in. Without a divorce or some type of court order you can't make him go anywhere.
I'm sorry, but if you can attend school why can't you work? Even if it's only part time it will give you some income.
What do you mean by mentally abusive. Men parent much differently than a mother does.. I wish you had been more explanatory in what you mean by mentally abusive.
All I know is that if you are looking for him to have to take care of you and give you everything... that probably wont' happen. If you are fed up then you have got to get on your feet and learn to take care of yourself and your children... you are the only one you can depend on.
2007-06-18 06:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought I was in a bad marriage. first step is to get him out of the house and you can do that, he is abusive so call the police and have him remove. Tell the police what is going on and they will take him away. Then get a protection order. There are places that can help you out for woman and children. You are disabled so you can get even more help. Legally you can get help, and it is out there. Don't wait to do this you need to do it before it goes to far.Look in your phone book there should be no for woman to call for help.After this is all said and done get a divorce
2007-06-18 07:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume your disability is temporary, if at all possible get all the education you can before you leave this man (all the money too) when you can work, and have money , THEN go see a lawyer, your husband CAN be put out of the house
2007-06-18 06:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by txcatwoman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your no *****!!!!!!!!!just a mom who loves her kids, and wants a good life for them, i don't believe the kids should be around him, if he cant act decent and be a good and loving father. if you don't get rid of him soon, your kids will grow up thinking that his behavior is acceptable behavior, and they to will become abuse res, i don't know where you live,but in most states there's help out there for single parents, just keep looking, and do what you think is best for your children,if he wont go then start making police reports on his abusive behavior, the courts really look bad upon this behavior.protect yourself and the kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!tell everyone how he is!!!!!!!!!!!!let it be known that so and so is a wife and child abuser!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!embarrass him out
2007-06-18 07:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
File for divorce on the grounds of metal abuse, and ask for the house and child support. Also, you can file for your Social Security disability benefits.
2007-06-18 06:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, he's right, you just can't kick out a husband, esp. if his name is on the house. If you want a divorce, what's stopping you?
2007-06-18 08:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a good loyer look after ur kids and take custody of themgood luck!
2007-06-18 07:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by hello everyone 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋