I'm 18 and my husband's 30. Before I married him I was a virgin so I don't really want to do some of the things he does when we have sex. What should I do?
2007-06-17 19:02:50 · 23 answers · asked by Monoi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be confrotable with yourself first, but explore too. One of the great benefits of marriage is "guilt-free" sex. Go crazy, be wild, have fun! You don't know what you might like until you try it.
My wife was very "conventional" at first, but now we both enjoy each other in ways neither had before. I don't mean this in a disrespectful way, but being a virgin when you married (good for you!), you do have a lot to learn about physical pleasure. Like I said, be comfortable with yourself first, but don't be afraid to try some new things!
Enjoy!
2007-06-17 19:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speak up. Let him know exactly how you feel. Unless he is completely oblivious and selfish, your feelings will take precedence if he wants the sex to be great. Let him explain what he wants, what he expects. Be vocal, let him know what you want, what you expect as well.
Test the waters. Marriage is about compromise. Make gradual changes to how you do things. Stop if things don't work. I'd recommend lots of foreplay (heavy kissing, touching, stoking) before you start a new position to ensure you're well lubricated and comfortable.
Now a question for you: have you ever had an orgasm? As simple as it is, if the sex you are having is good enough to make you come, that confidence helps in trying new positions, new places...The fact you ask this question makes me think you don't really like sex, because you're not comfortable with a change. In this case, you and hubby *need* to talk. Because if you can't talk about sex, you'll never be satisfied.
2007-06-17 19:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine Says... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to do something then just tell him however there are a bunch of diffrent things you can try. at 18, and a virgin before marriage sex is still new to you. However new postions are always fun, but should only be done when you both want to do them. Things still to this day dont soudn to fun or even sounds like something that would please me and i have told my husband about these things. im not sure what postions you all have tried or have done but the most common ones are
doggy style:you on your hands and knees him behind you
you on top facing him while hes sitting up, you on top while hes laying down. you ontop facing his feet (i think its called like reverse cowgirl)
him on top just normal, him ontop with your feet over his shoulders (this is for a night where its a little more "rough")him on top with your legs wrapped around his body
you both laying on your side him behind you(this is one that my hubby and i never got into, it just felt to much like sneaky sex in?!?!)
you on the edge of the bed him standing up, him sitting up on the edge of the bed you sitting on top of him facing away
and of course there are diffrent places, in the shower really any place not in the bedroom or on the bed for that matter to make it more ineterseting.
honestly, the easiest and cheapest way to find some new thigns to try is buying a cosmo magizine, they have lots of diffrent ones actually. and you will learn the best postions to please you him and both, also learn some new things in general.
enjoy it but you have to feel completly comfortable doing it to do so.
2007-06-17 19:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by you probably cant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it to please your man. You might just see that you enjoy something other than missionary position. There are A LOT of positions to be enjoyed. Do you want boring sex for the rest of your life? Just because you were a virgin before you got married doesn't make you one now. Your are married! Enjoy Your husband and let the man enjoy you.
2007-06-17 19:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a huge difference in you and your spouse. He should be understanding and patient with you. However, depending on what he is asking you to do, you also have the right to let him know if you are willing and comfortable with what he wants. You are the only one that can decide this.
You can also try talking to a sex therapist to make you understand and feel less anxious about this matter.
Good luck.
2007-06-17 19:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by Emerald 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is your husband that's y he is asking for diff positions. You are new to this field though earlier you might be having lot of enthusiasms for it , Go all out and learn all positions after a year or so you would master to dominate him and really its lovable.....have fun
2007-06-17 20:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him let him guide you, but tell him to take it slow.Tell to try to remember that your new at this. But there are a lot of fun things you can do. Future reference don't limit what you do in the bed that is the one person you can do anythings with that you can't do with anyone else.
2007-06-17 20:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by collectivetheresa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer communicate, teach him. Make it a as quickly as a week, a distinctive postion. which will save the spark going and make intercourse greater exciting for the two one in each of you. Plus you get to prepare that place greater that way too.
2016-09-28 00:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by dorthy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't want to do them. You're entitled to not do something that you are uncomfortable with when having sex even with your husband.
2007-06-17 19:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try out the position and claim it puts you in intense pain, also make sure to grimace while trying out the position. If you're not comfortable with even trying it out then tell him you just simply don't want to.
2007-06-17 19:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Experienced Male named Mike 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋