How do you avoid depression?

Question

my life has been on a down ward spiral since November... in Nov i found out my husband was cheating on me when i was 7 months pregnant. so i got a divorce and that hell lasted till may. I now have a beautiful baby girl that makes my life worth living but things are still so tuff. In march i was in a car accident in which my car was totalled, and now as of 3 days ago i found out that the place i work is renovating come August 1st i will be jobless! so what gives how do i keep my spirits up with so much negative stuff going on? how can i avoid becoming depressed?

Answer 1

this is a hard question to answer, im sorry youre going thru all this,but sometimes we go thru things to learn from them,you can avoid depression by trying not to dwell on what has happened but make you a plan on how to get on with your life,on your days off look for another job asap,and pray alot,he will be there for you and your child,and hold your head up,things will get better,take care

Answer 2

You should take a look at all you have already come thru and be proud that you are staying strong. You have a daughter that needs you and that no doubt is what has keep you going and will countinue to do so..

There is a wonderful book & Movie called The Secret.. it teaches about the powerfulness of positive thinking. It seems that is something you will be in need of in the coming months.

Another good thing to do is keep a journal, if you don't already now is a good time to start. Being able to vent your frustrations and write about how you are feeling will actually make you feel better. Then you can start to write and focus on the things you do want, make goals for your self even if they are very small goals. When you read back your entries you will feel empowered that you could accoplish the things you set out to do.

Focus on your daughter and remember that this is all going to be something that makes you stronger and better for her as a Mother.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

Don't try too hard all by yourself. Don't push too hard if it isn't in a good direction. Save your strengths for finding help.
I would contact Human Services immediately, so housing won't be a problem once you are jobless. Because of your situation, you may qualify for housing, etc. Get into a group of women going through some of the things you are. It makes life easier, and you can share opportunities. Get public transportation which works for you.
Concentrate on the housing, and maybe stay out of work, and train for new work.
Why did you divorce your husband over an affair? Couldn't talk it out? Is this telling you maybe you made a mistake, is he in your life, does he help with the baby, has he moved on.
Look at the entire situation, there is a new way for you.

Answer 4

I would first seek medical advice, not that there is something that can't be fixed, but you are going through too much, and it's easy to fall victim of depression. Being under so much stress only debilitates us, we can't seem to focus and find solutions to our problesm. Stress also makes our immune sytem weak. Not to mention you just had a baby, and may also risk post-partum blues.

Get counseling, on your own, or group counseling for divorce parents.

Do everything that you can to get help, child support, unemployment benefits, and any government assistance you can qualify for, housing, etc. Who was at fault for the car accident, did you get legal advice?

Make time for yourself, talk to someone you trust, and preocupy yourself with things you enjoy doing. If you have a local church, it would be beneficial too.

I'm sorry about your divorce, your accident, and your job loss. Don't let your past, immobilize you in the present. It is only your memory that is dwelling in your painful divorce. Stop frightening yourself with your own thoughts. It is your ability to forget your problems, through an understanding of the process of thought, rather than the passage of time, that frees you from the circumstances of your past.

Congratulations on your daughter's birth!, but remember, our children can detect our emotions. God Bless!

Source:

Personal Experience and "You Can Be Happy No Matter What" by Richard Carlson, PH. D.

Answer 5

Well, feeling very negative and down would be only natural at this point given what has happened, but t's time to move on. Get yourself a hobby, exercise, practice positive thinking, meditate, do something nice for yourself/care for your daughter and start trying to find a new job. Don't wait until August. Start applying today.

It wouldn't be a bad idea to see a professional either, just short term, to help you deal with the recent events in your life before depression creeps in.

Answer 6

Meditation is a shown treatment against melancholy. you could attempt some meditation as a organic thank you to triumph over melancholy and the happiness which you get out of meditating avoids you to get into melancholy and likewise provide you the psychological power to stand the topics of day after day life. there are a number of materials on the internet for good meditation concepts. or you could pass on a meditation retreat to adventure the advantages to a miles better volume. Having been a meditator for the previous 3.5 years i will swear via the end results of meditation.

Answer 7

Your daughter is what will keep you going from day to day. She needs a Mother and one who is healthy. Take each new day as it comes, leave yesterday behind, and tomorrow is another new day for you to do what needs to be done. Worry's won't pay the bills or buy groceries. Yes, it is hard not to worry, but in the end it only makes us sick. I wish you a lot of luck.

Answer 8

Avoid thinking about unhappy things. Each time negatie thoughts come to your mind, tell yourself to stop it and say a prayer over and over again to keep you from dwelling on the negative.

Answer 9

I don't think there is a way to avoid depression. You just have to keep your chin up. Whenever I am down I remember that this to shall pass.

Answer 10

You need God in your life. You will find a peace that you have never known with Him.