My sister and her husband have been married for 8 years. They are very happy and very much in love. They have 3 beautiful healthy children and a very good relationship. Last night when I went over to visit my mother, she confided in me that my sister's husband is actually her long lost father.
She told me that he felt so bad about not being in her life as a child, that he wanted to make up for all of the years that he lost out on. So he looked her up, fell in love with her and married her.
My mother has been hiding this secret all of this time. She felt like it was the right thing to do because my sister seemed so happy with him and he promised never to leave her again. Now the guilt is eating away at my mother. I don't know if I should tell my sister this news. She loves her husband/father very much and this would be a devistating blow to their relationship. Should I tell my sister that her husband is really her father??
2007-06-21 02:23:08 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No!! If it isn't broken, do not try to fix it. Yes, it was deceptive. Yes, it was wrong. But what's done is done. Leave it as it is, or else you will cause heartache and suffering for both your sister and her husband.
2007-06-21 02:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, tell her!! Even if he isn't, tell her anyway. It will stir some sh1t!! And at the same time tell him she has been having a relationship with the dog!! This could go on forever. I'm going to do that this weekend!! I'm going to tell everyone first then tell the person in question!! How to win friends and influence people!! If you did make this up, you have a really sick mind, which I think is very cool. I am going to look up your other questions. Marquis De Sade, watch out, your job is on the line!!! I did enjoy 120 of Sodom. You should read it, You might get some more ideas!!
2016-05-21 09:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really expect anyone to believe this is a true story? but on the off chance that it is, i think you and your mom are both sick and need some help. i mean really. why would a mother let her daughter marry her own father? and why would you even consider not telling her once you found out the truth? you're either sick for knowing about this and not saying anything, or your sick for making up such a story. either way , you are sick. and the sickest one of all is the father/husband. the only innocent people in this situation are your sister and her children/siblings. that is IF this story is true.
2007-06-21 02:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by fungirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Leave them alone. It's none of your business and I'm inclined to believe that your mother may be lying. If she knew it was her legal and moral obligation to stop the marriage when it happened, not 8 years later when there are children involved. If the children are healthy and she is happy, why bother her with something that may be false. The reason I think you mother is lying is that all 3 children are healthy. Incest usually produces children who aren't healthy. Something about this doesn't add up. There's always DNA testing.
2007-06-21 03:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would your mom allow your sister to be with her father that is sick and not right do you know what that is going to do to her kids later on when if ever they have to have any kind of blood test that requires their dad the devastation of knowing that there father is also their grandfather and what about your sister how sick she'll feel knowing she has been sleeping with her dead beat dad that still hasn't MANed UP for his actions. Of her childhood that he ruined and made things even worst by taking her innocence and the ability to make a real man happy But yes I would tell her and get on my mom for letting it go this far
2007-06-21 06:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by peaches 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn this sounds like a jerry springer situation! if i were her i would hope that someone would tell me this news! i understand the whole missing years of her life and making up for it , but a father should come back in to her life as a long lost father not a man who looks her up and forgets that fact that she is his blood daughter and go as far as developing romantic feelings for her!! that is gross! dont u think? think of it this way, if you were the daughter that was in this place would you want your sister to tell you? and they have children???why did her father do that? first of all having children with blood is dangerous and she doesnt know that she is having sex with the same person who made her with her mother!!! I dont know what to say besides this is crazy! the kids call him dad abut will they call him grandpa when they find out?
2007-06-21 03:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What in the world! This is a very strange situation. Regardless of the circumstances, I don't think it is your place to tell anyone anything. Discuss this with your mother and your sister's husband and ask them what they think should be done. Tell the dad that you wish to tell the truth about him because you think it's the right thing to do. I understand that he wanted to be with his daughter, but marrying her! That's just sick. They are real lucky that the kids came out okay, but you never know. What he did as really messed up. Marrying and HAVING KIDS with his own daughter is just gross. This is one of the strangest stories I've ever heard. I think she should know, but discuss it with the parents first and at the very least let them know that you're going to tell her, so that it doesn't shock them. It'll shock her...I don't think that marriage will last if she finds out, though, no matter how much she loves him. That's just nasty. Anyways, good luck. Whatever happens, just support your sister. I'm sorry, but this guy is some sort of pervert for looking his daughter up and then marrying her.
2007-06-21 02:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by Dana Mulder 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Thank you for the free points and the good laugh. I think I saw this story in Jerry Springer, you are watching too much tv. Go to school or get a job.
2007-06-21 03:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by Cristy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. You should talk to her husband about it and make sure to let him know you are not happy and that he needs to talk to her about it. This is something that you shouldn't bring up to her. Honestly- her mother should never have let it get so far but that is water under the bridge at this point.
She should know but you are not the one who should do it. They need to work this out together as husband and wife.
2007-06-21 02:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by Someone somewhere doing something 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Er yeah. Your father has some splaining to do. Not only that he may be incarcerated due to the nature of the relationship and the fact he knew and married his daughter, not to mention deceiving her as well as swearing out false documents
2007-06-21 03:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by dave n 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious??????? If this is true, then your sister has the right to know the truth... You should tell your sister immedietly!!!! She will be hurt at first I'm sure, but she will be grateful that you told her in the long run!!!!
2007-06-21 02:40:03 · answer #11 · answered by ANEV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋