Does a spouse have a right to go elsewhere if s3xual needs are not met in a marriage? It seems that a lot of people have no qualms about having multiple affairs while married...Since it's so common, I would think that most married people believe that it's absolutely OK to do so?????
2007-06-21 03:07:11 · 15 answers · asked by dantiuspalaptine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it is the responsibility of one spouse to satisfy the needs of the other spouse, within reason of course.
I disagree with you though. Most married people do not believe that it's OK to have affairs. Even people who have had affairs know that it is not OK.
2007-06-21 03:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by Schwinn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say absolutely not! When married you take the good with the bad. And sexual gratification is something that you should want to give your spouse. If for some reason this is not happening, the marriage may be lacking something else. I know I would sure pay more attention to my husband's needs if I got more help around the house and with the kids,so I wasn't so TIRED when we actually do go to bed. A marriage is not easy by any means and definately takes some working at. Try to attend a little more to your spouse, to see if this shows more positive results. Good Luck!
2007-06-21 10:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by mtcmmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monogamy is a pillar of marriage in our culture. That has not always been the case and certainly there are societies where monogamy is not the norm.
That being said what really counts is how you playing outside of your marriage will affect your spouse. I know of several very happy and successful couples who have open marriages although in all of those cases the couple's best physical connection is with each other. Frankly if your sex life is completely of whack then there is probably an underlying reason. Communication is the key. Have a conversation with your spouse telling them that you feel under appreciated and sexually frustrated with the status quo. Be careful not to blame your spouse but ask them for their thoughts on steps you could take together to resolve the situation.
Good luck.
2007-06-21 10:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by Steve C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the sexual relationship is an integral part of a marriage.
It is the responsibility of both parties to fill the needs of each other.
If one partner needs the emotional and thoughtful gestures then the other should be providing those.
It is the same if one partner needs more sexual affection then it should be the spouse providing that for the other.
Needs change for each person and they need to be communicated and each person needs to respect the other.
Cheating is cheating and there is never a reason, excuse or rationalization that is good enough to justify this action.
2007-06-21 10:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The spouse does not have the right to cheat if they aren't getting it at home. However, denying sex to your spouse - not just once in a while, but as a long-term thing - is grounds for divorce pretty much everywhere. So all couples really need to work on compromise in this area.
2007-06-21 10:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its part of a spouses responisibility to satisfy there partner why wouldnt you want to anyway, its about compromise and keeping eachother happy. Just cause cheating is common and for morally bankrupt inconsiderate selfish people doesn it make it right
2007-06-21 10:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no marriage is a committment that is much more than just sex. If it becomes an issue you should communicate your concerns with your partner, maybe see a therapist together to address your marriage as a whole, but to go out and cheat because you arent being satisfied is selfish and just not right in my opinon
2007-06-21 10:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not one spouse or the others responsibility, it is the responsibility of the couple to work together to maintain intimacy.
And very few think that it is OK...they may justify it in their mind, but they will very seldom be able to relieve the guilt that is in their heart.
2007-06-21 10:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. To withhold sex from your spouse is mean and hurtful. People who continually do that deserve to be cheated on.
2007-06-21 11:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not. if your needs are not being met, talk to your spouse. tell him/her that your mind is starting to wander that it's affecting your marriage. if talking or counseling doesnt help and if it's still important to you, then leave the marriage.
i don't think that committing adultry is going to help solve anything.
2007-06-21 10:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by Shrimpboat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋