My husband and i are separating. We do love each other but i don't think that enough. He puts his mother and father, ex-wife and 3 kids, his brothers and his mates in front of me and our 2 year old daughter all the time. I take care of everything he needs (money, kids, and everything). i never get any help from his emotionally or finacially. he thinks giving me another baby is giving me what i want. i don't know if this is worth fighting for, as he doesn't seem to want to fight for our marriage either. I recently started working to make things better, now they just have gotten worse. i don't know what to do. M
2007-06-21 01:40:18 · 6 answers · asked by Melissa O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to move on with your life. Sadly, this is what happens with second marriage. There is a loyalty to the first wife and kids. And then throw in some needy parents. It is a recipe for disaster. Do not have another baby. He is only saying that so there will be a better chance that you don't leave. He knows that taking care of two kids on your own will be more difficult than one child. If you are already taking care of all your needs, divorce and go find a husband that will put you and your daughter first in his life. Good luck.
2007-06-21 01:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married in, oh, 13 days, and we just had a counseling session with our pastor last night. One of the things he said is key to a happy marriage is that each individual must understand that their spouse is now a top priority. Which means he shouldn't be catering to their needs and ignoring theirs.
Tell him you don't want another baby, you just want HIM. You want him to be there for you and with you, and to act like he needs you, loves you and wants to be with you the way I assume he did when you first got married. There's no reason why that should have changed. Suggest counseling, so the two of you can decide whether there's anything left to save. If you just give up and separate without talking to someone, you'll never know if the relationship could've been spared.
2007-06-21 02:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think you already said the truth to your problem. You are way down the list of priorities and another baby will just add to your burden. Don't put another child on his waiting list. Please accept what you already know and cut your losses. You are already taking care of yourself and your child, You will feel so much better after you get out from under the stress he is putting you through. I am speaking from experince. I know the accepting and making the first step is so hard but later you will wonder what took so long! It's like going to the dentist. When your appointment date comes your tooth quits hurting but as soon as you cancel it start up again only worse. When you finally get it pulled you wonder why you waited so long to get the relief you needed. You seen like a strong lady fully capable of handeling you business - so do it. I will be praying for your strength and we ladies know what you are going through. You are not alone
2007-06-21 02:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by Shelley C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship. If you are feeling this way, it is obviously time to move on.
2007-06-21 01:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Care 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will he go to counseling? If not, then you ask the Big Question: "Am I better off with him or without him?"
Your answer determines where you go.
2007-06-21 01:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this, get a divorce.
2007-06-21 02:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋