Marriage & Divorce - 29 May 2007

I am in the air about how to literaly go about leaving my husband and starting over in a new city (I have been suffocated by my current home for years-- this town is too small for the both of us!).

I mean, how much money will i need to even TALK to a lawyer? We dont have kids, but we have 2 cats, one pregnant. I'd like to keep them both + offspring , does a normal divorce case even handle animals? I have no hangup s about my stuff. He can keep everything we bought together. I just want what I came with and neither of us has lots of money to fight over so thats that. Do i even NEED a lawyer? Can I move before the divorce is final and do the paperwork by mail? Is it rude to send out a divorce announcement? (Just kidding, kind of.)

Is there someone who will just talk to me about it? How was your divorce?

2007-05-29 10:43:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My soon to be ex wife took off with my daughter to california. I have since gotten an attorney and we are going to get the paperwork next week. I have three possible addresses and I just know i'm going to have to place an ad in the newpaper too. I'm really stressed out because I just know that she won't show as I live in florida. She keeps telling me unless I leave my fiancee i'll never see my daughter again and she's refusing to sign the divorce papers. I'm just looking for a little comfort here and wanted to know if anyone could tell me what would happen if she doesn't show up and the judge rules in my favor by default? Since i'm asking for sole custody would I be able to file kidnapping charges against her? I would ask my attorney but that won't be until next week. I just need to know if anyone has been through this and knows what CAN happen. it's been almost a year and the last time I heard her voice she was crying saying " daddy I miss you"

2007-05-29 10:37:36 · 11 answers · asked by Miguel 1

2007-05-29 10:37:06 · 8 answers · asked by baba 1

My husband of 13 years divorced and remarried me 2 years ago. He said he was just having a midlife crisis and that the divorce didn't count, although I was devestated. The past 2 months he's up to his old tricks staying out all night, getting phone calls, text messages from people I don't need to know about. He won't even add me to his myspace. He says there is no marriage if I don't trust him. He came home at 3 a.m. Sunday morning I threw some of his stuff outside. I am ready for this to be over. I know that I can't make him love me. I know that he is never going to grow up. Why do I still cry? I've been looking all over town for a house to rent for me and my son and none are available. AT least this time I do have a job. I can make it on my own. I just don't want to. I have been a good wife and mother, Why won't he just love me?

2007-05-29 10:32:53 · 9 answers · asked by sissy 4

OK, she knew he was married, and when i first found out, I gave her h*ll. What did she expect, for me to be nice about it? I never physically thretened her, for that wont change the fact that it happened, and will only wind me up in jail. But she later has her friend call me and threatens physical violence. I'm 32 and maybe I'm a bit out of the game, shes 21, but whats up with the threat of physcial violence? If i wanted to be that childish about it, I think I have more right to beat her a** then she does mine, afterall, it is her that f*cked my husband, not the other way around. So whats up with the threat of violence? And whats the best way to deal with that?

2007-05-29 10:23:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

How can I find out if my fiance's ex already filed for divorce and if the paperwork is already completed?

2007-05-29 10:19:25 · 8 answers · asked by shauna2407 1

Things my spouses ex has done. (1) we were at a grandkids ballgame, I walked off to let my (then) boyfriend talk to his ex. (I am not the jealous type) When i came back ..she waits until I get close and says "Thanks babe for the drink" and hands his drink cup back. I do not think he should have shared his drink with her anyway but she definitely waited to hand it back so I could see him sharing with her. I blew it off. (2) 5 days after our honeymoon I am sitting at the desk with the PC and all of a sudden an IM message pops up from her saying "hi, what r u doing" to my newlywed husband. This was on a Saturday at 6:00 pm. I asked why she was saying Hi to my husband on a weekend (or really any time)...she comes back with "because we are friends". I am really not an insecure person, but I felt very disrespected and that she was only trying to cause trouble. She was horrible during their marriage and tries to make herself seem very innocent in these things. They have no kids. Thoughts?

2007-05-29 10:08:31 · 24 answers · asked by jtcurry58 2

My soon to be ex-husband is a drug addict living in his car, jobless, homeless, he has nothing. He came to visit our two sons on Sunday and he sneakingly got in my purse stole my atm bank card and went and took $300 out of my bank account. I'm so mad, I don't ever want him over to my house again or to see our kids. I also realized that he stole our 7 year old son's piggy bank, it is gone from its hiding spot. Do I still allow him to see the children? I'm so mad and I reported him to the police and everything. Am I right by not allowing him to come see the kids anymore, or am i just being selffish because I'm angry for what he did? I just feel he stole money from his wife, the mother of his children, to me that is stealing money from his own kids mouths.
Should I keep him away for good? It has been 8 years of this marriage and he's been a on and off drug addict the entire time. Are my kids better off with their dad out of the picture? I just want the best for my boys. Help!!!!

2007-05-29 10:03:06 · 16 answers · asked by Shanny 2

In a few months I will have been married for one year. It will also be the 2 yr aniversary of the first time I realized I wanted to leave this man. Bascially he was a "good boyfriend, for now" that I got too comfortable with. Things got significantly less comfortable and we spend life tiptoeing around each other's bad moods and spending one happy day that keeps me coming back despite the many hurdles along the way.

Is the small amount of happiness we share worth the hassle of all our incompatibilities? All of our friends are mutual (we've been together for years and grew up as friends in the same hometown) and our families are very close. It is my first marrriage and I am afraid that people will call me a failure.

What if no one sticks by MY side in the breakup? Will I be alone? How can i rescue whats left of my life and start anew? Happy & Independent?

2007-05-29 10:03:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-29 10:01:03 · 11 answers · asked by danikakills 1

I have fallen for a married man. He and his wife have been on the outs for a while now and they have a kid together. But I have fallen for him.
He says he needs time to get things worked out so that he can leave her , he wants to make sure his kid will be ok.

What should i do?

2007-05-29 09:57:59 · 57 answers · asked by heather_honey_2002hs 4

Why do divorce parents not grow up and try to be friendly toward their ex- spouse instead of getting "at" them through their children.?

Why do they not see that hurts their own child(ren)?

And why does the second wife try to get "even" with the first wife? After all the first wife doesn't want to the ex any more she's gone with her life, but they have mutual children that sometimes needs to be talked about.

It is all SOOOOO CHILDISH!

I've been married 37 years this next week... so I haven't experienced this... it's through friends and others.

2007-05-29 09:54:51 · 9 answers · asked by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7

I need some help, I have only been marrie a year and I only Married her because she got pregent. Now we are going through a divorce. I filled out my divorece papers and served her. Today She served me and the papers smellied like weed. She put in them that I am not allowed visatations. I can call her 2 hours in advance if I want to see my son at her house were she lives with her dad. A few weeks ago she told me I needed to sign over rights to my son. During the week its hard for me to see him because I work 12-15 hours a day. Can anyone help or have advice I would really appresate it. Also my son lives with her, he bottled feed and will be 9 months on june 5. I also went out and bought everthing I needed for him. PLEASE HELP Also when I filled out my papers I was really resanable. I asked for ever other weekend and each year we switched holidays. The only thing we would have troble is his birthday because he was born on my birthday.

2007-05-29 09:49:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-29 09:45:06 · 40 answers · asked by sarahibbetson 1

hi all. my wife will be practicing her make up on me again, and this time adding curlers for good measure. any dressing suggestions?

2007-05-29 09:44:14 · 11 answers · asked by poofygirl11 2

My ex and I have been divorced for 4 years. We have two kids: a daughter, 13 and a son, 15. We have had various issues in the past where he has been irresponsible and used very poor judgement where the kids are involved. For example, 1 1/2 years ago, he left them in the care of his stepson's wife ( approx. 30 yrs old), who sent her 9 yr old out hunting w/out an adult. He accidentally shot my daughter with a .22 rifle, which caused her to need surgery to rebuild her thumb. New Year's Eve this year, the kids came back from their dad's that afternoon. We did not know my ex had given my son two bottles of toilet bowl cleaner and aluminum foil, which he used to blow up a 2 liter bottle while spending the night at our neighbors' house. This weekend he sent them with his 17 yr old daughter (who has1 mo old, and who he had not seen or talked to since she was 12, and not since she was 1 before that). She took our son out partying. What can I do to stop this from happening again?

2007-05-29 09:40:27 · 6 answers · asked by Lisa T 1

Okay so, my husband and I are getting a divorce and I have no clue how I'm going to make it with our 2 kids. I'm moving out in 1 month into an apt. that he co-signed for me. Now he's pulling out and I have no one to cosign for me. I don't make 3 times the rent and need a cosigner. I hate feeling trapped by him all the time... under his control at all times. I've been a stay-at-home mom the majority of the time and don't have any special training past highschool. What are other moms in my type of situation doing? I don't understand how people with a small income can afford childcare AND an apartment and other necessities. Also, I'm diabetic and am not going to have any medical insurance. I have no idea what to do! Please, if you are a mother with children that had a divorce w/minimal schooling then PLEASE help!

2007-05-29 09:38:24 · 5 answers · asked by Monkey 2

He says two girls is too much work! We promised to take it easy on him, but he refuses. I think I might just have invite her over and get started without him. Will this work?

2007-05-29 09:33:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-29 09:32:19 · 40 answers · asked by classic 1

we got recently married. my wife resigned her job after marriage and she told me that she is resgining and wants to start a family and doesnt want to work. my wife has been maintaining contacts with her male colleagues at office. during browsing i stumbled upon an email id. (My wife says that she uses her former male colleague's email to chat with him now). But in our last few months, i didn't notice any change in her behaviour towards me and she is very good and caring towards me. Except occasionally she cribs about how away we are from our individual families and friends.

Should i take this seriously?

2007-05-29 09:26:28 · 6 answers · asked by ? 1

If a lie detector was attached to each person, and the counselor asked questions, then you would be forced to be open and honest, don't you think?

2007-05-29 09:23:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just ended an affair with a man I had been seeing for three years - why am I so sad? Will the hurt ever go away or will I always think of him?

2007-05-29 09:19:02 · 13 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2

Ok. Here is a little more info for everyone who is giving me this MUCH needed advise...
-he sees his parents about as much as I see my mom
-he told me once that he heard from my cousin that no one on my dad's side of the family likes her--i think he may tell her what he heard...
-her own sister has told my husband that she dosen't get alon with her sometimes--he'll probably tell her tis too...
-christmas isnt too far out when you have to ask off work NOW and make flight arrangements NOW
-staying home is NOT an option (grandparents, friends, etc..)
-mom dosen't treat him like a jerk--she never says any thing negative to or about him--he just dosent like her views and attitude about things.
-i really do feel like SOMETHING needs to be said or it will continue to happen EVERY YEAR. Lying about the reason why he isn't going to be there is NOT an option.
-should i stay completely out of it or get up in the middle of it (really dont want to)??

2007-05-29 09:17:32 · 10 answers · asked by lorriejack18 2

I have been married for almost 5 years. At the time I met my husband I was thinner. In the last 2.5 years I started having thyroid problems & my health was declining. I was gaining weight & miserable.
During this time my husband became less attracted to me. He was spending more time at the bars or out gambling (has a gambling addiction) He is distant with me & has said he wants to meet other women.
Now my thyroid has been in normal range & I have lost nearly 40 lbs so far. Every day he asks me how much weight I have lost & seems to be watching me closely through my weight loss.
I'm losing interest in the marriage as a result. Why is this happening? How can I stay married to someone who only cares about how I look to him? Do men fall out of love that instant? When I get to my goal weight, I'm considering leaving my husband. I can't accept the fact that he will only love me because of how I look. Is this how all men are?? If so, that just pathetic!! Does anyone else feel this way?

2007-05-29 09:14:01 · 22 answers · asked by binarygurl 1

Me & wife have been together for 5 years married for 3. We had our normal relationship problems & I wasn't the best man I could have been but always respected her & never cheated on her. We had some finacial problems & fighted over them. Then she came to me & said she was unhappy with me & herself that she needed space & that she didn't love me any more but she stayed for 2 more weeks & I thought we where trying to work things out when out of the blue she left in the middle of the night & hasn't been home since. We went to a couple of counseling classes & she quit them. We have been seperated now for 3 months & it has broken my heart also the first thing she did when she left me was go & get a boob job! We have a daughter that is 2 years old. Her family & I are very dissapionted & sad & just do not understand why she's doing all this & why I deserved this! I would just like for somone to help understand is this out of selfishness or could I have been a better man! I love this woman very much!!

2007-05-29 09:10:16 · 40 answers · asked by bewell32 1

The seperation was pretty painful, I mean I know this is just my perception but he was a real jerk during the whole thing. I tried repeatedly to get him to reconcile and now, not even a month after the divorce has been finalized he wants to try again? I'm sure that I love him but I feel pretty numb... I had finally accepted moving on. The thing that sucked about the whole thing from the get go is that he didn't want to divorce me because I cheated, or was unbearable to live with...not because he didn't love me anymore, not even because he was cheating ( not 100% sure, but pretty certain),..he wanted a divorce because we argued...alot. But we were going through some stressful times, we had just gotten into a new home, we both had new jobs ( we're both prior military) and we were in the process of a custody battle over my two older children from a previous relationship. I know we had alot on our plate, but did that give him the right to just leave me?
2gether 6 yrs, married 6 mos.

2007-05-29 08:59:03 · 22 answers · asked by darknangelic77 3

2007-05-29 08:55:56 · 6 answers · asked by Lorri 1

so my wife, and mother of my children, is struggling with the fact that her mom is terminally ill. In the last few months I have been the subject to some "Diverted Agression", and my fear is that she is not dealing with these emotions in a healthy manner. Lately she seems even more "out of sorts", refuses to go and talk to anyone about this, she gets made when her friends ask her about her mom. I have even tried to trick her into Marriage counseling, cause she refuses to go see a grief counselor. To her all these problems and lashing-outs that I refer to are simply me being a drama queen, to sensitive, or all in my head.

Any clues Yahoo?

Straight approaches need not apply - I have tried.

2007-05-29 08:48:41 · 14 answers · asked by elcamino777 1

My hubby and i dated 2 yrs he is 25 yrs old works in insurance and i am 21 yrs old still in college working part time.He was the perfect guy everything i ever wanted smart, mature, nice,took care of me and had a good job.I was known before to not have the best judgment with men.My parents were thrilled that i landed the nice/good guy and thought we were perfect for each other.Looking back i realize there were a lot of warning signs in the relationship that i kept quiet/ignored we fought a lot, broke up twice,went on 4 month break before the wedding because he was not sure,overall had a dramatic relationship and did not have the same standards in morality/values.During the 4 month break i had a fling w/ ex. bf got married month later not realizing i was pregnant w/ ex. bf's child hence the pending divorce.I dont want to dissappoint my parents how do i tell them?Ask for their help financially?

2007-05-29 08:48:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

in a fatal accident...and i have talked about it until i was blue in the face...and I found it just DEPRESSED me and made me cry to even talk about it...Later time healed...the problem is people...they will ask.."what happened in yourmarriage?".;.I will say he was in a fatal accident and i do NOT re-live it...the person ... will get hestrical and say "oh my God, How did it happen?....(this is the part i hate)......I. will say as i am walking away....."I do not relive that PAINFUL time"...THEY WILL TOTALLY IGNORE WHAT I HAD JUST SAID...what is a matter with those types...i say it nicely????..WELL, what happened?..i will say a, "I AGAIN I do not relive it...it was very painful"....they can see my face...why don't they leave me be???THEY ARE EXTREMELY NOSY AND INTRUSIVE I FEEL...and they can see i am walking away.....

2007-05-29 08:41:35 · 23 answers · asked by sweet 4