My hubby and i dated 2 yrs he is 25 yrs old works in insurance and i am 21 yrs old still in college working part time.He was the perfect guy everything i ever wanted smart, mature, nice,took care of me and had a good job.I was known before to not have the best judgment with men.My parents were thrilled that i landed the nice/good guy and thought we were perfect for each other.Looking back i realize there were a lot of warning signs in the relationship that i kept quiet/ignored we fought a lot, broke up twice,went on 4 month break before the wedding because he was not sure,overall had a dramatic relationship and did not have the same standards in morality/values.During the 4 month break i had a fling w/ ex. bf got married month later not realizing i was pregnant w/ ex. bf's child hence the pending divorce.I dont want to dissappoint my parents how do i tell them?Ask for their help financially?
2007-05-29 08:48:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dang, that's messed up!!! Who cares about you!! You just broke that guys heart!!! I'll drink a couple of cases of beer with your hubby and he and I will tell them for you!!! ;) It would be really, really funny!! Sound like a plan???
2007-05-29 09:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by IOWA HAWKEYES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them a postcard from the other side of the earth sounds like a realgood idea about now. What do you really expect will happen when you tell them this earth shattering news. What would you do if yourdaughter who you thought was off to a good start,came to you with this. I think youd be better off going after child support than asking mom and dad for money first. I hate to tell you but you are about to more than just disappoint your parents here. This is usualy why parents disown their kids but maybe you have the one in a trillion parents that can overlook this and might actually expect this from you and all will be well. Doubt it. Just dont lie to them as the truth will come around sooner or later and you definitely dont want to make this any worse. Good luck
2007-05-29 09:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth about everything including the 4 month break that resulted in the pregnancy. U might not need too much help from them financially since there are programs that help out single mothers. U will however, have to ask the father 2 b for child support. Good luck hon.
2007-05-29 08:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
they are going to be dissapointed, just face facts. the first thing you need to do is get support for the baby through it's father, whoever that might be. then you need to find a full-time job that will hire you while pregnant, and save money for an apartment. since you are an adult, it's time to start acting like one. if your parents are supportive of your decision (tell them everything), and offer money or housing, then that's up to you to accept. take care of yourself, get insurance (if you don't have it now, the pregnancy will cost you A LOT of money), and go see the doctor. you really need to think hard before getting into another relationship for a while. Someone was warning you in the first one. may i suggest adoption for the baby? it might be the only way to get on your feet.
2007-05-29 09:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow tough question! Well there is no good way of telling your parents. You need to just tell them the truth but don"t go into detail, you only need to tell them the basics. Tell them that you need there help and support right now and not there criticisms or judgments. Good Luck that is a tough situation. I hope it works out somehow with the babies father!
2007-05-29 08:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no matter whay you say or how you say it the facts are the same and they will be disappointed.
Do you really want to tell them you are getting divorced because you are pregnant with your ex's baby AND ask for financial support at the same time? I think you should do one at time and specifically the first one first. Where is this ex? I hope he is going to support you financially since its his child.
What a huge mess up.
2007-05-29 08:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a mess... you were engaged and you boinked an ex boyfriend? What sounds stupid about that? And, you got pregnant too!! So much for birth control & self control. And now you need to tell your parents? And ask for money too!!!
You need to get a DNA test done on your ex that knocked you up and demand child support. Do it now...
2007-05-29 08:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell them. Are they going to be disappointed? Maybe. But the situation is what it is and there is no way to ‘pretty it up’. The one thing I would not recommend that you do is try to shift the blame (and I’m not implying that you would do that). Accept responsibility for your actions.
WHY are you going to ask them for financial help? You’re a grown woman. YOU are responsible for yourself, and you and Dad are responsible for the child (seek child support).
2007-05-29 09:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are and adult now. Married and grown up with very grown up problems. I don't know how your parents can help you? Why be afraid to tell them, just tell them. And what do you want help with financially? Abortion? Money for court fees? You are GROWN, handle it on your own.
2007-05-29 09:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come straight out about the truth with everything. It's the best way to go. There your parents their always going to love you.
2007-05-29 08:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋