I have fallen for a married man. He and his wife have been on the outs for a while now and they have a kid together. But I have fallen for him.
He says he needs time to get things worked out so that he can leave her , he wants to make sure his kid will be ok.
What should i do?
2007-05-29 09:57:59 · 57 answers · asked by heather_honey_2002hs 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Run! Get on with your own life. He may or may not leave his wife but if he does, the wellfair of his child will always come before you.
Don't complicate your life, go find a single man.
2007-05-29 10:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Earl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave now while you only have feelings and are not in love with him. It will hurt less now, I promise. He is probably not going to leave his wife and even if he does, will you trust him? Knowing that he was starting a relationship with you behind his current wife's back? Who's to say he won't do the same thing to you? Get out, get out, get out! This is a no win situation. Say he leaves his wife to be with you, then his wife restricts his visitation with his daughter because she's jealous. It's not right but women do it sometimes. Then he's gonna blame you becuase you pushed him to leave her. There is no way this can turn out good.. all the possibilities end with you hurt. Better a little hurt now than a heartbrake later.
2007-05-29 10:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by Tina W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never a good idea to see a married a man even if he says he & his wife are on their way out! leave him alone now because you'll be the one who ends up getting hurt! not a good idea.. leave now before you get too involved!
if he leaves his wife and divorces then it's fair play but not right now... would you want your husband to do the same thing on you if the shoe was on the other foot? i think not!
leave a married man alone! How do you know his wife isn't a psycho and come straight after you and hurt you???
most married men DO NOT leave their wives for their bit on the side! think smart and walk away.. He might have a crazy wife as well who'll do some damage to you! THINK!
2007-05-29 10:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You Have to get away from him. You are committing adultery. That is morally wrong and it is wrong Biblical too. Would you like it if you were the wife? How do you know for certain he is telling the truth?
Tell him no and you go and find a single guy who can totally devote to you the attention you deserve.
You going after him is wrong. You waiting for him in the sidelines is wrong. You need to break it off totally. He is having his cake and eating it too. 9 times out of 10, the married men in this situation will not really leave their wives and family. You are just losing a part of your life that you can devote to someone else.
Let him go Totally and find inside of you who you really are and who you really want in a man. You do not want a man who is going to cheat on his wife???? Do you really? He will do it to you too if he is cheating on his wife. Why would you stoop to his morally wrong level?
Leave now and find someone who you really want in a man. A man that is attached is not who you really want. You have some likings about this man, but he is not a good morally man if he is cheating on his wife and kids and then with you, the mistress......
It is wrong to stay with him. Leave now and apologize and pray. God will forgive you if you ask him. We all make mistakes and we all move on. Don't waste anymore time in your life on a loser who is willing to sacrifice it all for someone else who he may not ever really get involved with fully, like you want him too.
Hugs to you. Cry over the loss and move on. It is much better that way.
2007-05-29 10:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now!!!!!! He's lying he will never leave her for you. 9 out of 10 his wife and him aren't on the outs, he's just telling you that to get you in bed. My husband managed to have an affair I'm assuming that is the story that he told his ho. It was all lies he was sleeping in the same bed as me and having sex with me at least 3 or 4 times a week. We didn't have any problems with our marriage until I found out about her. Most affairs happen in happy marriages due to life issues and if there weren't homewreckers out there that can't find there own man the divorce rate would be alot lower.
2007-05-29 18:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away as far as you can from him. A married man never hs any intentions of ever leaving his family in these cases.He will tell you exactly what you want to hear in hopes of keeping you on the side. Theres no working things out so he can leave her. Hes just trying to work things out to return home to his family. Its probably way too expensive for him to leave her and he has you there for his other needs. You dont need this idiot and youre just setting yourself up for one hell of a heartbreak. Its not a matter of "if",its a matter of when! Good luck
2007-05-29 10:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no matter how many times a man says he'll leave his wife, or their having problems, if he ever does leave her, it's not going to be for someone else, no matter what he says. He'll want to play the feild instead of jumping into another relationship. But he'll say whatever the other women wants to hear, so he can keep getting his piece of pie on the side too.
2007-05-29 10:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by prepishippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the wife of a man that cheated with another woman and had a child with her on accident.....hmmm all i have to say is that even though he and his wife are supposedly on the "outs" he might not be telling YOU the truth....he might just love the attention of a woman that thinks that he is unhappy and mistreated at home...all cheating husbands are liars (apparently) and he wont be any different with you--he will probably never be happy with just one woman--he has to have a primary woman AND someone else....it wont be good for his child either---take it from me--mine weren't OK with it--leave him to his wife that he is soooo unhappy with and see if he ever gets a divorce to be with you----it will never happen--I know.....if you think this can work out--go ahead and participate in home wrecking----but it wont pay off---good luck!
2007-05-29 10:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by TWIN91 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this relationship. Most likely he won't leave them for you, he will just keep leading you on. If he is lying to her by having an affair, then he is a liar and is probably lying to you too. This is a losing situation, even if he leaves her to be with you, what will stop him from having another affair in the future. People who really aren't happy in their marriage that have integrity, get divorced and then start looking!
2007-05-29 10:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by huskies fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! Don't look at us and expect us to tell you it's OK, because it isn't!!! DO YOU WANT TO BE A HOME WRECKER???? Unless you stay completely away, you can consider yourself a home wrecker!!! Let him leave on his own, not because of you!! How will you ever know if he will be true to you, if he can't be true to his wife? You are only hearing HIS side of the story and you KNOW there are two sides to every story!!! Don't be a fool and get yourself involved in this!!! Have some self respect and wait til he is free!
2007-05-29 10:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by wish I were 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋