He says two girls is too much work! We promised to take it easy on him, but he refuses. I think I might just have invite her over and get started without him. Will this work?
2007-05-29 09:33:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He definitely enjoyed it the first time... for many hours...
2007-05-29 09:40:12 · update #1
I really wouldn't be satisfied if he didn't join in ....
2007-05-29 09:41:57 · update #2
Just invite her over for dinner/drinks, real casual, no pressure. I am sure, by the end of a night of flirting and cocktails, he'll come around.
2007-05-30 04:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by SvetlanaFunGirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your husband has discovered a secret: more women are more work.
If you start without him and then ask him to join when he's already said he's not up to it, it could backfire and he could accuse you of sneeking around behind his back. (You and I will both know it's not true, but he won't.)
Here's a better plan: set up a weekend off for him, where he has no responsibilities, for just the two of you. (You and him, not you and her.) You see to his every need the whole time. At the end of the weekend, tell him you'd like to do the same thing again for him in a month (or two months, figure out what's best for your schedule and his) but that you'd like to have help. If he resists, tell him it will be exactly the same, his every need met, all weekend, no hurry, slow and easy, but with both of you.
2007-05-29 17:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG, this is just my story! I too gave my husband a threesome for his 40th bd! He LOVED it and wants to do it again, of course. So we will sometime soon. I want to pace it out so that he doesn't get "used" to the idea and then I not be enough for him alone. There is danger in this type of situation, so it's always best if EVERYONE is a willing participant and are very AWARE of the rules. With that said, sweetie, if your husband doesn't want it, then don't do it. If you just want to be with her, then ask him if he minds if you two have a night together (my husband says I can keep my "woman" and see her from time to time alone, yipppeeee!). So, again, if he doesn't want it, don't do it. If you are forcing it on him and trying to pass of your desire on him as if you are doing it for him, then he'll figure you really want to be with her and may get resentfu and leave you for it. Do you really want to ruin your marriage for a fling with a woman? Good luck.
2007-05-29 16:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, threesomes most of the time cause problems in relationships!! Let him know how you feel and that you are willing to do her without him.... if he really does not want to do it again, make sure he is ok with just the 2 of you doing each other, if he is not ok with that, then maybe you should let it go. Your relationship might be at risk if you do.
2007-05-29 16:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a lot of fun to me! I'm not sure it will work if you're attempting to get him involved again... But if it makes you and the other girl happy, and he's ok with you and her being together - go for it! Nothing like an open mind when it comes to sexual fulfillment! It's either that or maybe bring her into the bedroom, and keep her hidden... Seduce your husband, and then bring her into the picture? This might be more likely to offer you the desired results. :) Good luck and have fun!
2007-05-29 16:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm guessing if by "coincidence" you're both there together and are dressed to tease and act twice as naughty by "dropping" things then bending way over and brushing up against him he'll come around and things will get hot and steamy quickly enough.
Although I can't speak from experience about this, our marriage could never survive another partner in it - maybe yours can.
2007-05-29 18:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE IS A LUCKY LUCKY MAN - now that I have that said....
have you both been very open and honest with your relationship. Maybe you could ask if its ok for you and her to have fun, seeing you two together might spark something with him... or, just have him sit there and play videotape/cameraman while you two play, invite him in occassionally,and always appear to include him - I think its just some jitters he might have, make sure he has a good night's sleep the night before, it might be all he needs.
oh yeah and....
HE IS A LUCKY LUCKY MAN....
that is all. :)
2007-05-29 16:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by S1 tower 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i wish you were my wife cuz that's just one of my fantasies. maybe you two women should concentrate more on each other and let him join in when he wants to. that way he won't feel like he has to satisfy the both of you and you two can satisfy each other better. make him watch for a while and even use some toys as a substitute until he's ready.
2007-05-30 08:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he would be cool with the two of you enjoying each others company! Ask him if it is okay!
Good Luck
Just read your ? from two weeks ago and YEA HAW, reverse cowgirl is the BEST! Gets my wife to where she needs to be and I love the view along the ride!
2007-05-29 16:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is cheating if you didn't know. Infidelity would make the divorce easy for him. If you need someone to join in just call me or send me an email. It will be worth all our wilds
2007-05-29 16:41:08 · answer #10 · answered by slbeezie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋